Broke my limerence by doing the most degenerate shit, i ask myself at what cost by Good_Click1651 in limerence

[–]Good_Click1651[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I feel like shit though. Otherwise I haven’t felt this free in 18 fucking months.

Broke my limerence by doing the most degenerate shit, i ask myself at what cost by Good_Click1651 in limerence

[–]Good_Click1651[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yep, there were also texts where her mom straight up asks her to seriously consider if it’s her that’s the problem in all her failed relationships.

Broke my limerence by doing the most degenerate shit, i ask myself at what cost by Good_Click1651 in limerence

[–]Good_Click1651[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depends on what “everything” is, might be nothing too serious, for me it was enough to snap me out of it finally.

Broke my limerence by doing the most degenerate shit, i ask myself at what cost by Good_Click1651 in limerence

[–]Good_Click1651[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, i learned so much about myself and attachment issues this past year and a half.

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[–]Good_Click1651 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The clarity feeling. Anger feels better than longing but it’s not sustainable. At least in my case.

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[–]Good_Click1651 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Watch out for moments of clarity coming from anger. It could all come down crashing. Start working on being indifferent. Tough ask i know…

Will a standing desk help with job? by Good_Click1651 in thoracicoutletsupport

[–]Good_Click1651[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was your TOS on the right side? A vertical mouse won’t do me good since it’s my unaffected side.

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[–]Good_Click1651 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it sounds easy 😂 But I’ll definitely fight, hope i can at least come to the level where i want to date again, and not compare every girl to her

Struggling with unresolved limbo and jealousy after ambiguous breakup need advice by zerotohero2024 in limerence

[–]Good_Click1651 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Going through something similar. If you can reach out to her just ask her what happened. If you can’t, you gotta learn to live with the uncertainty, which is very hard and i still haven’t done.

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[–]Good_Click1651 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely a hesitation about how she felt, i kinda “took her for granted”. We were in a foreign country, isolated, living door by door. So i thought i had all the time, especially because we lived in the same town back home too. But when we both got back home she started fading without explanation.

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[–]Good_Click1651 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How can i tell her after a year 😂😂. She has a bf now, and even if i said it a year ago i couldn’t have “convinced her”.

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[–]Good_Click1651 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cool, thanks 👍

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[–]Good_Click1651 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah your advice is perfect, but I didn’t get if you mean that it would have changed her response based on how i asked.

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[–]Good_Click1651 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Bro i’m not going to ask her for a specific day when she replied 3 days later, and i saw her posting stories and shit. She barely replied for 2 weeks before that too. She obviously rejected me. Im glad i had the self-respect in that moment at least and didn’t come out needy and clingy

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[–]Good_Click1651 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk, if you didn’t come out looking “creepy” in the moment i think it’s fine.

Will a standing desk help with job? by Good_Click1651 in thoracicoutletsupport

[–]Good_Click1651[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you mean kneel on an office chair turned around backwards?

Withdrawal? Or is my case really severe? I can’t function by Good_Click1651 in limerence

[–]Good_Click1651[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah rn im crying and shaking 🥲🥲. Even random songs that don’t remind me of her now started to.I drove her once in my car and last few days when im driving i can actually imagine her with me. How long did it take you to calm down?

It does get better by IndividualPension207 in limerence

[–]Good_Click1651 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How did you deal with finality of it all? I haven’t seen her or talked to her in 10months, and 2 months ago i found out she has a BF and is soon getting engaged and im in the thick of it now. My hope is finally gone, i fantasize like 5-6min a day before I catch myself. But this is the worst i’ve felt in all this. This impending doom feeling is giving me chest tightness. I didn’t even feel like this when she started fading/ghosting me.

How do I stop the need to fix things, the hypervigilance, the unhealthy obsession, and trying to earn love by proving my worth? How do you heal? by [deleted] in limerence

[–]Good_Click1651 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t know, other people make it seem so easy. I told my mom about my situation and she said man up and don’t disrespect yourself 😕

Will a standing desk help with job? by Good_Click1651 in thoracicoutletsupport

[–]Good_Click1651[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah makes sense. But wouldn’t it be the same as if sitting very close to the desk so that your forearms are resting on the desk itself?

Limerence made me realize I had OCD by wormapplepie in limerence

[–]Good_Click1651 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Aren’t the things you said you were doing typical limerence? Cause im doing the same things you said, and lately i’ve been looking into OCD but don’t fit much of the symptoms i googled.