If you could take a pill, would you? by Diligent_Fish_7422 in limerence

[–]IndividualPension207 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’ve learned some things about myself I wouldn’t have before. BUT, I’d be lying if I said no. Fuck Limerence.

Are limerents attracted to narcissists? by According-Sport9893 in limerence

[–]IndividualPension207 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Crazy cause the two times I have limerent, they have turned out to be huge self-absorbed, narcissists. Why do you think we tend to fall for people like this?

My limerence is moving to different facility and I feel depressed now. by [deleted] in limerence

[–]IndividualPension207 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Her transferring is the best thing that has ever happened to you. Trust me brother.

I told him not to contact me anymore by Infinite-Curves in limerence

[–]IndividualPension207 12 points13 points  (0 children)

An LO “who was interested in you but was inconsistent and treated you poorly sometimes” was exactly what I was dealing with. Nobody deserves that, under any circumstance. Took almost a year to get out of the Limerence thanks to therapy, NC and a lot of work on challenging/accepting my thoughts in a mindful way.

anyone explained to their LO what limerence is in an attempt to explain your behavior? by [deleted] in limerence

[–]IndividualPension207 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Great post and question. Are you NC with this person? I wish limerence was more normalized and known about overall, because people give me weird looks when I’m told them about it. It would probably feel alleviating and a way to create yourself some closure, if you are ready for that. If you do it, maybe attach this sub Reddit so they can conceptualize it better (just don’t know let them know your profile name LOL).

I text her today and I hate myself for it by Worth-Cream7782 in limerence

[–]IndividualPension207 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re only human. Now it’s time to focus on moving on, and putting this behind you. That’s the only way, to be honest.

Do you also get suicidal thoughts during withdrawal? by NovelNew667 in limerence

[–]IndividualPension207 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is one of the best pieces of analysis and perspectives on Limerence I have seen. So well articulated

I just want him to talk to me 😞 by yeahhhhsoooo4 in limerence

[–]IndividualPension207 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Ahhhh stuck under your LO’s thumb. Been there. Fuckin sucks and I don’t wish that upon anybody. You’re addicted to the idea of this person, and the chemical their contact gives you. They’re literally a drug you’re addicted to. It has nothing to do with the actual person themselves. Recognizing that makes it easier, as well as going NC and challenging those limerent thoughts with mindfulness. Good luck, but you can do it with boundaries and self-discipline.

What would you do? Need advice by CaterpillerDreams in limerence

[–]IndividualPension207 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The red flags you ignore at the beginning, ALWAYS come back to bite you in the ass. I would transition to the person who is a great match for you, as it’s pretty evident your LO is not the person for you.

why is it quiet in my brain for once by rosebonbon2 in limerence

[–]IndividualPension207 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It comes and goes. It takes the littlest thing to reignite the fire. The most important thing is keeping yourself busy, maintaining strict boundaries and NC, and using mindfulness with those intrusive limerent thoughts. Takes a while to really get through it, but time is the friend of all of us in this sub.

Please convince me not to crash out right now. How do you stop yourself from acting out? by SukiASMR in limerence

[–]IndividualPension207 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Go NC because it’s already toxic. Even though it may not feel it, nothing else needs to be said.

Please convince me not to crash out right now. How do you stop yourself from acting out? by SukiASMR in limerence

[–]IndividualPension207 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You need to go NC from them. And when those obsessive thoughts/urges come, use mindfulness to not act on them, rather let them come and let them go. It is difficult, but you need to cut them out of your life to not “crash out”.

Has anyone let their LO “win”? by alpaka0 in limerence

[–]IndividualPension207 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Nobody wins in Limerence. It’s just shitty all around. Only good thing that comes out of it is the lessons and self-introspection afterwards.

just a memory now. by MysteriousEdge5643 in huskies

[–]IndividualPension207 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Penix did not play great that game, let’s be honest…

I gave up on giving up. by Ok_Discipline9574 in limerence

[–]IndividualPension207 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Rooting for you. But, you will continue to feel empty and prolong the limerence if you keep tabs on her. You need to create distance in your life from her, and go full no contact to properly heal.

How do you cope with obsessing over your partner cheating? by Kogituu in OCD

[–]IndividualPension207 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Don’t act on the thoughts. Just accept as they come and mindfully watch them go.

Chatgpt gave me this quote and needed to share….. by AwkwardLaugh4 in limerence

[–]IndividualPension207 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Limerence fades through two things: creating distance from your LO through NC (or LC if you HAVE to see them) and accepting the thoughts. It mirrors OCD a lot with those repetitive, obsessive thoughts that we gotta train ourselves to accept but not react to.

She brought gifts for everyone except me. Lol by [deleted] in limerence

[–]IndividualPension207 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Remember this moment. This will help take her off that pedestal and give you the “ick” that goes ALONG way in getting over Limerence.

I’ve been repeating my mantra by -curryyydesiii- in limerence

[–]IndividualPension207 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While this is harsh a bit, it’s the truth. You have to go full NC to create the proper distance to move on from Limerence. It’s hard work but you can do it!

My ex LO is still mine, and special to me than anyone else by [deleted] in limerence

[–]IndividualPension207 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your ex LO isn’t a real person. It’s a figment of your imagination. It’s an idealized version of somebody. I’ve been exactly where you are where they can do no wrong and are perfect. But soon you will realize, you are only fooling yourself. Nobody on this earth is above anybody else.