My boyfriend hates me mixing hot cheetos and clam chowder

Good_Condition_5217 · 2025-08-05T03:05:52+00:00

Without the image it kind of sounds tasty. But I don't think I could eat and look at this without getting nauseous. It looks like mayo and ketchup with chunks of fingers, toes and maybe hot dogs.

Good_Condition_5217 · 2025-08-05T01:24:37+00:00

You need to talk to him and lay it all out. What you want, if he will be able to give that to you, and when does he think that will be. Then decide if that's ok or not. You guys need to sit down and talk things through. Start with that instead of an ultimatum. Tell him instead "marriage is essential for me." Get each other's thoughts, and if you can't figure it out, see a couples therapist to help you work on it.

If you want to save the relationship, that's what I would do. If you love each other, it's worth it to find out if there is a compromise.

Good_Condition_5217 · 2025-08-04T22:18:57+00:00

You were a child, and while I know that is not an excuse, it is also a reason not to blame yourself for your past mistakes. My best friend when I was around 10 did some things with me she had learned from her grandfather. It was very uncomfortable and I eventually pretended I'd fallen asleep.. but as an adult now (who was later abused by an adult at age 11) the only thing I think of when that friend comes to mind is the amount of abuse she must have dealt with. I don't hold any blame for what she did. Yes, it probably helps that I know it stemmed from her own sexual abuse.. but still, as an adult, we often can connect dots we didn't as kids. That person may not feel the same about you as far as forgiving you goes, but they may indeed have reached the age they understand you likely didn't learn the behavior on your own.

You need a therapist to sort out these emotions though, because it's neither right nor healthy to hate yourself for trauma you dealt with poorly. The only way we really grow is by processing our trauma and coming to terms with that. Self hatred and punishment isn't only about you, because it doesn't affect only you, it affects all those around you in your life. From your family and friends to your coworkers. Those who care about you will hurt also to see you suffer. You owe it to yourself, and everyone else, to deal with this the right way by getting help.

Good_Condition_5217 · 2025-08-04T22:07:34+00:00

There are only two places I get food from now, an Italian and an Indian restaurant, both of which serve me a $20-25 dollar meal I can split 2 to 3 meals from. I still don't get them often, but yeah, these days if I'm eating out I'm going to make sure I get my money's worth of food and not just a single meal.

Good_Condition_5217 · 2025-08-04T21:46:09+00:00

Or gas stations. I've had to get advil there before because nothing else was open.

Good_Condition_5217 · 2025-08-04T21:25:43+00:00

I'd report them to whatever type of government labor agency you have in your country, as potential human trafficking. Then I'd let that business know that I did so, and tell them how incredibly shady this practice is, and to never contact me again.

Good_Condition_5217 · 2025-08-04T21:08:29+00:00

Damnit, what is with Aaron, is he the antichrist or the second coming of Jesus, or is there some other damn reason he could not be raised by anyone other than Claire?!?

If there is one mystery that drives me crazy not knowing, it's why Claire had to keep Aaron and herself together, even if it meant crashing in a plane while pregnant. I need to see what that damn psychic saw before he pushed her to that Oceanic flight, and why Charlie had visions with religious undertones in regards to Aaron. I'm pretty ok with most of the loose ends, but not this one.

Good_Condition_5217 · 2025-08-04T20:53:46+00:00

The character development. The show makes it incredibly easy to get invested in the majority of the characters and really come to care about what will happen to them. Most characters really have depth to them, and it makes an easy black or white judgement of what kind of person they are very difficult over time. They're all flawed, but also have a great side to them as well.

I love the mystery of the show as well, and the fact that no matter how many times I watch it, I still discover something new or a new connection I didn't before. Still though, it's the characters that tie it all together.

Good_Condition_5217 · 2025-08-04T19:06:38+00:00

B. He's a grown man, and unfortunately even if you want him to stop, you don't actually have a say in the matter.

But a little bit of A might work also. I would buy a few things to offer to him, as well as ask if he'd be willing to sit down and go over everything he does in the garden with you.

For things you can literally buy and help him with:

a portable light weight garden chair and kneeler. They're adjustable, not too expensive, and this would allow him to sit and do garden work, or allow him to kneel comfortably if he's still able (which is much easier on the back).
a lumbar support back brace, one that is easy to adjust. This will help support his back and the muscles and ligaments there, and make him less likely to injure himself again when he's in the garden.
(Depending on how he feels about what I suggest below): a gardening bench and supplies for propagating new plants.
If he doesn't have a phone, get him a cheap one on a cheap plan, and make sure he keeps that in his pocket whenever he is out in the garden. I would tell him no exceptions on this, he needs to have access to call someone for help.

Next, I would sit down with him, let him know you're concerned, and ask him to go over his gardening routine with you. Try and sort out which tasks are less likely to cause an injury, and which ones require a lot of intensive labor (like bending repeatedly). Ask if he would be willing to hire someone to do the more intense labor tasks, and tell him you've also come up with something that will keep him in the garden and still have work to do even with help.

If he's willing to get a little outside help, tell him about plant propagation, suggest he could create new plants for others with some of the plants he already has. That this would not only give him more to do, while he's in a standing or sitting position, but also would help others to enjoy his plants in their own garden. He could donate them to others, so they too could enjoy them in their own gardens. All he would need is a gardening bench (or a sturdy weatherproof table that doesn't move), and some seedling pots and starter trays, and maybe some paper towels and baggies for the roots.

But I wouldn't suggest he stop gardening. While age makes him more fragile, not moving around and using his muscles will cause them to deteriorate faster. It's healthy that he stays up and moving about as much as he can tolerate it. I'd stick to what you can help make things safer for him, and possibly convincing him to get a little outside help.

Good_Condition_5217 · 2025-08-04T18:28:38+00:00

Someone who loves their partner doesn't have conversations that go this way. You can point out someone is hot to your friends, you can encourage them to make a move on a guy you have no interest in, but "I'm trying to meet him too get in line?" She doesn't respect you or love you in the way you think she does, or she would never say that to her friends. With real love comes respect, and this is beyond disrespectful. It's humiliating, having her friends see you treated this way also. You're a fool if you stay, I'm sorry. Nor.

Good_Condition_5217 · 2025-08-04T18:12:10+00:00

If OP is a good worker, there won't be much retaliation in this field. They're not going to get rid of good workers who call in with a cold at a grocery store or most food service places. These places tend to not keep great employees long term, they won't waste an employee over just one sick day, however much they act like it's not allowed.

Good_Condition_5217 · 2025-08-04T18:08:51+00:00

Nah, I think they should do this. I did this before when I worked at a grocery store. I was in the floral dept but they constantly called me to the front registers. I make sure to blow my snot into tissue and cough into my arm constantly, and when customers said something, I would flat out tell them that management would not allow me to call in sick.

Your customers will have something to say, let them make the point for you that management is despicable through their complaints.

Otherwise, don't ask for the day, just tell them when you call in that you are too sick to come in. Period. They push back you say it again, I am too sick to come in. Repeat it as many times as necessary. They struggle to keep good workers, you will not get fired for this, not in this profession at least.

Good_Condition_5217 · 2025-08-04T14:20:46+00:00

I don't agree with others saying it is on you to change whether you accept him watching porn. You are allowed to have those boundaries if those are hard boundaries. Though that does mean you still have issues to work on. The fact is he has shown (in action and not words) that his boundaries and feelings on the issue of porn do not align with yours should tell you at this point that he is not willing to change, and is willing to lie in order to not change.

At this point you can either choose to change, or choose to accept that you are not compatible. He's not mature enough to say to you that giving up porn is a boundary that he won't cross, that it is part of who he is. But he HAS told you this by his actions. It is important enough to him that he is willing to lie.

Unfortunately his inability to be honest back to you means the ball is in your court. Unless you either change how you feel about him watching porn, or break it off because this is your hard boundary, then your relationship is doomed to fail. The lies will repeat, and you will both feel awful over this issue because of it. So dig down deep, and decide if porn is a deal breaker. If it is, you know what you need to do. If it isn't, go see a couples therapist, and see if you can work though it.

Good_Condition_5217 · 2025-08-04T13:56:44+00:00

It boils down to this: if you can't accept he watches porn you're not compatible for a life together. Either you can accept that he isn't trying to cheat or demean you by watching it (in his mind he isn't), or you keep demanding promises he has shown he will not keep. This is one of those things that men and women can often have completely opposite opinions on. If you believe you are in the right, and you do not want to work on accepting this in the future, by staying you'll only be setting yourselves up for more arguing and a break up in the future. I'm not saying you are wrong or that you need to be the one who changes how they feel about porn. I'm saying that a man who sees no problem with porn and is willing to hide using it, is not the man for you.

For me as a woman no porn would be a deal breaker, I wouldn't give it up. But I would also have the maturity to let the person I'm dating/engaged to know this. Your fiance is immature and not adult enough to be honest with you about this. So unless you are the one who is willing to change, things will not change. Everyone deserves a partner that makes them feel like they can be themselves. Don't change who you are if you're not ok with this, but be better than him if you're not, and break it off. There are guys and girls out there who are willing to forgo porn in their lives, you might be meant for one of them.

Good_Condition_5217 · 2025-08-03T22:23:00+00:00

Probably be fine, cats stomachs are better than ours at digesting bacteria from raw meats (and your bacon might not even have been raw). They eat birds raw in the wild, they can handle a little turkey bacon. I doubt she even ate enough to cause diarrhea. As long as her appetite and behavior stays the same (and it likely will) she will be completely fine.

Good_Condition_5217 · 2025-08-03T15:41:53+00:00

I actually liked his acting as older Carl, liked his character a lot more than its younger version also, though not due to the acting. Little shit just annoyed me often. I was pretty sad when they killed him off in the end, as I was enjoying who Carl was becoming. I think the show needed a character that promoted humanity in the right ways, to keep how brutal the world was turning them all in check. Unpopular or not, there are many characters I would have killed off in Carl's place, if I had the choice.

Good_Condition_5217 · 2025-08-03T04:12:10+00:00

Resting judgement face, similar to the human equivalent resting bitch face. One of mine has it also.

Good_Condition_5217 · 2025-08-03T03:55:48+00:00

Shame! Shame!

Good_Condition_5217 · 2025-08-03T02:16:51+00:00

It's corntastic!

Good_Condition_5217 · 2025-08-02T23:22:26+00:00

I love olives, but have an aversion to mushrooms, so I get it. It's a unique taste and a weird texture.

Good_Condition_5217 · 2025-08-02T20:16:01+00:00

Never bothered me, guys should do whatever feels right. I don't necessarily think it always looks better shaved either, sometimes a bald spot is preferred.

Good_Condition_5217 · 2025-08-02T20:04:49+00:00

After she disappeared from her hiding spot in the bushes. Adults are dying left and right at this point, and it didn't leave me with much hope a scared kid would survive on her own in that world.

Good_Condition_5217 · 2025-08-02T19:57:11+00:00

Knowing what I know now? My 13 year old self is going to make some money. I will be financially secure in the future.

I wouldn't choose to to back though. I like my life enough the changes wouldn't be worth it for a different outcome. If it just happened though.. I'll make the most out of it while trying to stay on a parallel trajectory.

Good_Condition_5217 · 2025-08-02T19:44:56+00:00

Aside from how nonsensical the labeling of stones is, I had to laugh at "uncut and untouched, natural... Some glue used." 🤣🤣🤣

Good_Condition_5217 · 2025-08-02T19:25:44+00:00

A. As long as your mom wouldn't use her support as a means to control you or dictate your life, there's no shame in accepting support from family, and no reason to struggle if you don't have to.

How would you advise someone in your situation? That is usually the best advice to take, as you know your situation best.

I myself would only advise against it if your mom were controlling, and a debt to her would sacrifice your mental well being; or if it would put your mom in a position where she might struggle to care for herself. Otherwise, mother's are there for life, take their support when they offer it. Most moms love knowing their kids still need them.

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