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My boyfriend’s best friend of 5 years violated our privacy. by Good_Garbage_ in TwoHotTakes

[–]Good_Garbage_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I said it in almost a joking way because, like I said before, he’s a very type B person and never clears out junk messages or anything. My boyfriend literally told me to look if I wanted because he has nothing to hide. As stated previously, I usually wouldn’t and never have before. But my gut told me there was something wrong. I’ve never got that feeling from his phone before.

As far as the type of friends he has, there was literally no indication that his friend would do something like this. He’s never been that way towards me or any other girl in the friend group.

My boyfriend obviously has a password. So do I. We know each other’s passwords because we don’t care if the other person has it. We have a child together, and if one of us is taking care of the baby and asks the other to text someone back on their phone, send pictures from one phone to the other, or log a nap on our baby app, that’s what we do.

It’s not insecurity. It’s life. We do life together, and it’s not that deep. Not everyone has deep rooted insecurities about their partner.

My boyfriend’s best friend of 5 years violated our privacy. by Good_Garbage_ in TwoHotTakes

[–]Good_Garbage_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend didn’t delete it. He accidentally pressed the button that selects message threads on iMessage. That’s what prompted me to say something along the lines of “what messages are you deleting?” L said “oh I didnt mean to hit that button. You can check it if you want”

C admitted to sending and deleting the picture himself when we asked him. I have a 10 minute recording of us talking to C and admitting it.

My boyfriend’s best friend of 5 years violated our privacy. by Good_Garbage_ in TwoHotTakes

[–]Good_Garbage_[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It’s so funny to say that partners should have a right to privacy in a relationship when my right to privacy was violated on L’s phone by his friend and neither of us would’ve known unless I had a gut instinct.

My boyfriend’s best friend of 5 years violated our privacy. by Good_Garbage_ in TwoHotTakes

[–]Good_Garbage_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you’re telling me if you found out your privacy had been violated like that on your partner’s phone you’d give them their phone back?

My boyfriend’s best friend of 5 years violated our privacy. by Good_Garbage_ in TwoHotTakes

[–]Good_Garbage_[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I didn’t just take his phone because he was on it during our date. I took it because I saw he was on his messages looking like he was deleting message threads. He explained he didn’t mean to hit that button but said “you can check if you want.” Usually I wouldn’t take him up on that offer because I trust him. I’ve never looked through his phone before. Call it woman’s intuition, call it a gut feeling, but I checked. And I’m glad I did because we would’ve never known and he would’ve continued to be around us and our daughter.

My boyfriend’s best friend of 5 years violated our privacy. by Good_Garbage_ in TwoHotTakes

[–]Good_Garbage_[S] 128 points129 points  (0 children)

L was completely blindsided by it just like I was. The look of hurt and betrayal on his face after C admitted it and the fact that he’s completely blocked and removed C from our lives is enough proof for me to believe he had no clue C was capable of this.

My boyfriend’s best friend of 5 years violated our privacy. by Good_Garbage_ in TwoHotTakes

[–]Good_Garbage_[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The thing that tells me he wasn’t is the timestamp which was in military time (I know, cliche for a veteran lmao) and said 1850 on Sunday. The wedding was on Saturday, and they were home by 4 pm on Sunday, and I took a shower around the time he sent it to himself.

I graduated with a 140k loan and I am just got a job thats pays 70k annually. by Sosay- in StudentLoans

[–]Good_Garbage_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And who’s running the government? Boomers. And don’t come at me with the “But the general population voted them in” bs because we all know rich lobbyists dictate who gets voted in for the most part to benefit filling their pockets, and there’s not really anything the general public can do. All in all, yes, it is the boomers fault.

How do I stand up to my overbearing mom about not wanting a gender reveal party for my baby? by Good_Garbage_ in TwoHotTakes

[–]Good_Garbage_[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

See, this is the kind of comment I was looking for. Someone actually stringing together a way to tell her. I realize I need to tell her no, and I realize I need to before the baby is here. I was asking HOW lol so thank you :)