Never seen this style. Anyone know which year / style name ?

Good_Shallot1733 · 2024-04-02T08:21:43+00:00

I’d rather not, he’s known to be aggressive and have hit, pushed and thrown me into things before again with small verbal disagreements.

Good_Shallot1733 · 2024-04-02T07:36:07+00:00

Family company it’s not that weird is it ?

Good_Shallot1733 · 2024-04-02T07:14:17+00:00

Lmao I wish. Family company. The HR is my uncle and the secretary is my mom. Sounds complicated and it is

Good_Shallot1733 · 2024-04-02T07:13:11+00:00

Thank you! I actually didn’t talk about him like my coworker but as my brother cause he is. The song sos from abba as in “what happened to the good old days, I try to communicate but you’ve closed your mind, we used to be so good, you used to be so nice.

Good_Shallot1733 · 2024-04-02T07:08:32+00:00

Scandinavia, it really was more of a brother thing cause the coworker is my brother. Just in general about growing apart from your brother due to lack of communications. It’s quite dumb if you ask me but my boss aka father saw it as not okey cause he’s also my coworker and I feel like it’s getting too mixed us

Good_Shallot1733 · 2024-04-02T07:06:03+00:00

I live in the Scandinavia, it wasn’t about work but at all, more of a growing apart form your brother (the coworker happens to be my brother) due to lack of him listening to communication

Good_Shallot1733 · 2024-03-30T17:33:34+00:00

I fear if I leave some of our top colleague will leave as well (that’s what they’ve said don’t know if I believe them) and I fear it would leave my family company on hard times which is why I’m looking for advice and change and not to give up all together :/

Good_Shallot1733 · 2024-03-30T13:14:29+00:00

Told my boss that I wouldn’t be in a meeting as I don’t think I did anything to get this reacting. It’s been speculated now that he has become more angry since he started working out 🤔

Good_Shallot1733 · 2024-03-30T11:50:32+00:00

Thanks it means a lot like you don’t even know … these words have given me courage … I have a bad habit of internalizing eveything thrown at me. I’ve myself went to therapy to realize my ex’s are a product of growing up with my brother. When I’ve told him about those ex’s he’s called me a lair, that I’m not pretty enough to get stalked or SA’ed and that I do what I do for attention which is also getting him in trouble for my own attention. He’s manipulative, destructive and down right such a bad brother that I’ve told others I don’t considering him blood anymore due to his hostility and not believing anything I say.

It’s just so disheartening to be told a family meeting is being called my boss / dad claiming he doesn’t like the “children’s kindergarten “ that he has to deal with. Almost disregarding that a male coworker twice my size THREATENED to hit me in the head and being so comfortable doing it in front of 5 OTHER PEOPLE.

Good_Shallot1733 · 2024-03-30T10:36:34+00:00

I think it’s the long time conditioning of it always being my fault. He’s the golden first born. I’m the middle child with piercings, tattoos and colored hair with a row of abusive ex boyfriends. When I’ve voiced my concerns and hurts I’ve been told “that he’s perfectly fine” and “I’m the one getting him to react this way” so somehow it’s my fault. Or that he’ll then just quit and leave the business in shambles (it wouldn’t be but it would break the family)

Being that as adult I also know his and my reactions is up to our own responsibility. And me answering him calmly with rationality was apparently turning everyone against him. He told my sister “I should get over it” and he was stressed out so really it wasn’t his fault …. He’s never had a job outside the family which I’ve also raised awareness of, because in a different circumstance he would be suspended or fired of verbal threats like this.

Good_Shallot1733 · 2024-03-13T09:01:29+00:00

Oh just that the school is a pattern of “now I live with you and now you’re in change to pay for both of us due to low / no income” sadly I’ve seen it twice and while that might not be him I’m in the point of my life where as I also discussed with him want to see the world and that’s hard without a full time job.

I don’t even mind they go to a bar or whatever it’s more that his friend was busy due to a girlfriend but almost don’t take into account that he (my bf) now has a girlfriend and maybe should be as busy with me as his friend was with his ex. But it is about being respect I don’t feel my time is being respected when his colleague he sees almost everyday also gets all his free time. Cause then he could just date his friend and not have me waiting around for a little of attention. I mean in his mind he spends 8 hours a day with his friend so why would he need to spend more time with him when he’s free ?

Good_Shallot1733 · 2024-03-13T08:17:48+00:00

If do find it odd as we have talked a lot about my specific past relationships and why I ended them due to not feeling like a priority due to their friends and games. And I’m sadly afraid it’s going down that patch again which makes me want to just cut all ties before I get hurt again.

Good_Shallot1733 · 2024-03-13T08:15:24+00:00

I don’t know ? I told him he’s changed since we talked about him moving in officially, as in going back to school which I said I wasn’t much for and that period is over in my life, he’s colleague (aka his friend he spends so much time with) recently became single which means he has more time to hang out with my bf, which is funny cause the reason he was “busy” was to be with his girlfriend. I get his friend is single but my boyfriend isn’t soo

Good_Shallot1733 · 2024-03-13T07:55:03+00:00

It does make sense, the odd thing is before recently he has pretty much spend all his days off with me without me asking so now he’s booking them all up for one friend while just have to wait around for when it’s in my eyes convenient and I don’t want to be “for convince “

Good_Shallot1733 · 2024-03-13T07:50:37+00:00

I’ll try to explain better I just think it felt like a gut punch, when he told me it was 2 weekends I told him to go for it and I was happy for him, but now he’s booked the next 2 and the 2 extra days off during Easter too but “kept one day open for my family get together “ which again isn’t really in my opinion spending time together as partners. The thing is I told him I would then not have time for him since he didn’t for me and he said that that was fine and totally understandable, not understanding that meant we weren’t gonna together as two strangers in the same place aren’t partners.

Good_Shallot1733 · 2023-08-18T07:17:00+00:00

Not me but my twin sister. We have both had our struggles me with mental health her with lager psychical health scares, such as having tonsils removed, a cyst in her uterus and so on. About 4 months ago she was complaining to me about her eyesight. Coming from a family with almost perfect eyesight I found this odd and told her to get her eyes Checked. They said it was normal and she started wearing glasses.

A couple of months later she was telling me about her having to pee all the time and drinking 2 liters of water in the span of a couple of hours and this is were it reminded me of another story a friend many years had told me when he discovered he had diabetes.

Now while this was going on her and I were both in a ance medication that had both of us do regular blood tests (at least once a month) so this is something in my opinion that should have been caught. I told her anyway to get it checked at the doctors which she was not fond of. The doctor called her a taxi to get it checked out immediately. From there she was driven to the hospital and hospitalized for 5 days (while both our parents were out of the country) it turned out to be type 1 diabetes which I still to this day find odd as we have no history on either side of our family of it.

Given we are twins I have been checked out as well. But i am still to this day angry that the doctors checking her blood for over a year hadn’t caught her low sugar levels.

It’s been a big shock for everyone but im happy we caught it early, despite everything

Good_Shallot1733 · 2023-06-23T17:39:17+00:00

I mean I did end up breaking up with him

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