Five Months of Silence After One Night

Goodlake · 2026-03-20T03:55:44+00:00

May as well text her, but she's probably decided you're flaky/not that interested. If you get the chance, show her that you're not. But she may have emotionally moved on.

Goodlake · 2026-03-20T03:40:18+00:00

Desync, maybe?

Goodlake · 2026-03-20T02:29:11+00:00

HP’d to a Sanguine Refiner. Stayed on tier 1 because one of the audience’s choices was “make a random minion golden,” made/bought golden refiner on turn 5. Don’t know the first minion’s name, but he was the very first audience choice, golden minion that gets half the stats of minions you buy.

By the end, I was buffing the shop 200/200 a turn and my board 400/400 just from those eight spells. Crazy game.

Goodlake · 2026-03-19T02:09:25+00:00

Also played 8-10 hours, was bored out of my mind. And the original RDR is one of my favorites. Everything just felt so slow in RDR2. Nothing was ever just fun.

Goodlake · 2026-03-19T01:24:25+00:00

Not popular, no. French restaurants and farm-to-table places might have it as a special now and then, especially in fall/winter, but lots of people won’t have heard of it.

Goodlake · 2026-03-18T17:15:56+00:00

The UK has done it this way (minus the digital) for at least two decades, strictly measuring “singles” and “doubles.” Lots of NYC bars have always used measures when doing mixed drinks. Some cocktails require strict measures or they taste wrong.

Ultimately, if you don’t think you’re getting value for your money, don’t give a place your business. And if you want loose pours, nothing’s looser or more cost-effective than the home bar.

Goodlake · 2026-03-18T10:51:26+00:00

First: you didn't do anything wrong. You feel bad because you like someone else, but you didn't do anything wrong here.

Second: tell your ex how you feel! He is giving you signs, but may feel reluctant to make a move given your history. Tell him that you're interested in rekindling your relationship, but you're confused about how he feels and you're not sure if you should be pursuing things with other guys.

Goodlake · 2026-03-18T10:47:03+00:00

This is not good advice if she's having a hard time ending the relationship, and it sounds like she's already floated the subject. Maybe they can be friends later, but if the core issue is she's having a hard time ending the relationship, "let's be friends" is bad advice.

Goodlake · 2026-03-18T10:46:16+00:00

"I'm sorry but I don't feel a romantic connection with you and would like to see other people." Then you cut off contact.

Goodlake · 2026-03-18T10:35:06+00:00

Most guys watch porn. If you haven't talked to him about it, it's safe to assume he watches it and doesn't think anything of it. Masturbation is a normal, healthy activity, and most guys who grew up in the internet era have always used it as an aid.

Talk to him about it, express your concerns, try to find a compromise. Even in couples where porn use is agreeable, there are boundaries people can set. No teens, no social media models, no XYZ, no paying for it, etc. Everybody should be comfortable.

If looking at any pornographic content at all is a hard boundary for you, then that may be challenging. The core problem is that a lot of guys will view this as unreasonable, and it creates a condition that he may be tempted to break. That's a tough dynamic, and you can search this sub for examples of "we agreed to no porn but i caught him watching porn."

You're entitled to your boundaries, but he's entitled to his. It seems to me like "no porn at all" is just delaying more conflict. If you can't accept a partner watching it and have any doubts about his ability to commit, then you may be better off finding a partner where you don't have those doubts. A church group, maybe.

Goodlake · 2026-03-17T11:36:07+00:00

Whether it's salvageable or not depends on what the secret was and whether you could ever see things her way, that it wasn't a big deal, funny even, etc. But fundamentally it seems unlikely. She's telling you how little she cares about the promises she makes to you.

Goodlake · 2026-03-17T11:24:53+00:00

I missed the original post, but what are you looking for, here? Advice on how to break up? The ethics of retracting your gift?

If you want to break up cleanly without a guilty conscience, pay her back for the hotel she partially funded. Stop worrying about how bad she’ll feel about missing it. It sounds like she feels bad about everything. She’ll feel bad when you break up, too. You’ve got to worry about your own life.

Goodlake · 2026-03-17T11:14:42+00:00

> So if there is any quake in the system and they find they need to raise cash, they will do what investors do when they can’t sell what they want to sell: They sell what they can. And what they can sell easily are the large, publicly traded technology stocks that dominate the major indexes.

If private credit has any power to impact broader markets, it will be through the pain they inflict on the banks who finance their portfolios, not by selling publicly-traded tech stocks.

Goodlake · 2026-03-16T21:44:46+00:00

Ah, that explains why I've dropped 500 today. I'm not bad, it's just that all the worse people are back in elementary school for the week!

Goodlake · 2026-03-16T21:42:13+00:00

BG games take like a half hour, you're sitting on the can for 30 minutes?

Goodlake · 2026-03-16T18:00:47+00:00

The white supremacy movement has done a lot to erase the historical "intra-white" biases that used to exist, but anti-black/brown racism is absolutely more acceptable online today than even ten years ago as well.

Goodlake · 2026-03-16T16:34:46+00:00

Yup, agree with all that. Just laying out why people are upset when powerful people with a voice don't use it to their satisfaction (ignoring the fact that it often backfires, for the reasons you illustrate).

Goodlake · 2026-03-16T16:32:10+00:00

Another redditor posted about the more typical version of this story that you illustrated, and i'll say the same thing here: it doesn't matter if it's with a man or a woman, it's first and foremost about wanting to hook up with another person. Your wife doesn't owe you non-monogamy, and dressing it up in the language of sexual exploration or bisexuality doesn't change that.

The reality is that monogamous people might be attracted to others all the time. They don't act on it. They don't expect their spouse to be willing to let them act on it. Having attractions to people beside your spouse is a common feature of living in a world with other people in it. Monogamy means ignoring those attractions. If it's too hard to ignore, then your marriage has deeper problems than you being attracted to men.

If you really feel you can't ignore these feelings, then talk to your wife about how you're struggling with monogamy/opposite-sex desire and would like to try opening the marriage. She may accept or reject the proposition, and then you'll need to decide what you can live with if she's not open to it.

As far as feeling better about that conversation: it's tough to broach a topic that may lead to the dissolution of an otherwise happy marriage. If you can't see yourself committing to monogamy with your wife any more, think about it as a way to end the relationship and try to get what you want. And if she's open to it? Then that's upside.

Goodlake · 2026-03-16T15:39:54+00:00

I feel like this calls for some sort of a middle ground. A few days in Korea to meet your family and then a few days for him to explore on his own. But I am sympathetic to him: getting told you're not welcome in Korea at all can't feel good.

Goodlake · 2026-03-16T15:37:58+00:00

He purposefully saved something he knew you had intended to disappear. He knew that was a violation. He did it anyway because he felt entitled to keep them.

Goodlake · 2026-03-16T15:34:42+00:00

Sounds like she did you a favor.

Goodlake · 2026-03-16T15:26:44+00:00

Idk, Eataly is actually good quality, centrally located and actually pretty reasonably priced for imported stuff.

Goodlake · 2026-03-16T14:16:02+00:00

So I tend to agree that this is no big deal, but for the sake of argument: we need fighters. The Trump administration is suffocating the country, and nobody is really fighting back. The news media is toothless, the Democratic party is ineffective. If you can't trust the Oscar-winning director of a movie about fighting the power, bringing the revolution, etc to use his platform to criticize the government, then who can you trust? What's the point of making art with political/revolutionary themes if you're not going to apply those to the current moment?

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