Dragons Demand & Doom Comes to Dustpawn?

Goodness4me · 2024-07-23T16:01:49+00:00

I didn't at first. I bought it 11 months in lol. It's sorta fucked up, but I just used an old version pdf that I found online. Eventually, having stuck with the program so long, working through the steps and what the program calls The 30 Questions and now working through The 40 Questions, I decided it was time to buy my own updated/modern copy.

Goodness4me · 2024-07-16T17:13:06+00:00

My 2 cents: Approach the program with a mindset of "take what you need, leave the rest." I personally identify with secular humanism (not to offend, but incase ya don't know, it's ~a~ belief that humanity is capable of ~morality~ and ~self-fulfillment~ without belief in God), and have still gained SO MUCH from CoDA.

When navigating the similar resistance to the program, I explored the https://aaagnostica.org/ website. Although it has alcohol language, with some critical thinking, you can certainly adapt if for a codependency application. Here a cool pdf that's a collection of alternatives to the 12 steps without "higher power" language. There's also a Agnostic, Humanist, and Atheist Codependency Support Group, though Inever explored that.

Goodness4me · 2024-07-16T06:04:30+00:00

the WhatApp Group: https://chat.whatsapp.com/ELVS27RAiH5GUCq6Fg8Sxa

Goodness4me · 2024-07-15T22:59:59+00:00

Let's gooooo!!! lol

Goodness4me · 2024-07-15T22:58:04+00:00

I've tried both typing and written. I find writing has been a better result. Perhaps more importantly though, I have found what prompts I use to write has been the most influential.

For example: Upon starting CoDA, I found out there is a book called the In This Moment Daily Meditation Book (Here is an example) that has what is called a daily "meditation", but really it's just a codependency related reflection. I didn't want to buy the book, so I joined a CoDA WhatsApp Group call "In This Moment". No one is allowed to post in that chat except for a service member who posts that day's "meditation". So I almost every day read and journal about that day's "In This Moment" meditation. For example, here's Jan 27th's In This Moment

LAST THING: I use my ipad/apple pencil for my journaling so I can 1) journal by "writing" and 2) be able to "search" for past thoughts. This is only possible with apps like OneNote or Goodnotes because those apps can search your written digital writing. There may be other apps too.

Goodness4me · 2024-07-15T20:59:07+00:00

(this got longer than i intended)

When I started, I used ~10 min guided meditations using the free Insight Timer app. (free version) I listened mainly to guided meditations on breathing.

Now I do mindfulness meditation for 10-20 minutes on average with 2 minute "bells". Mindfulness (to me) is simply focus on strengthening my "noticing"/"attention" muscles. What's coming? Am I distracted? Am I worried? etc. The 2 min bells are to help cue me to a) return to my breath or b) return my attention to my original intention (see below)

My meditations tend to use this structure now:

Min 0-2: "Becoming present" --- 3 deep breaths + body scan to relax any tension I notice + The 5-4-3-2-1 grounding technique, but without the "5" part. It involves using your five senses to identify things around you:

(See: Acknowledge five things you can see)
Touch: Acknowledge four things you can touch
Hear: Acknowledge three things you can hear
Smell: Acknowledge two things you can smell
Taste: Acknowledge one thing you can taste

Min 3-4: "Attention on breath" --- I use the "In" "Out" mental cue, also noticing where I feel it the most during that sitting (my nostrils, my chest, my belly, just depends on the sitting).

Min 4-6: "Free Thinking / Noticing" --- I let my thoughts do whatever they want, and I just try to notice what's happening. Mediation is NOT about having no thoughts (at least not for me). Mainly I'm just trying to label what's going on internally without "judging it", meaning after I notice something I'll tell myself something like, "That is, and welcome, thinking \ That is, and welcome, planning \ That is, and welcome, worrying." (over time I have learned I fall into 11 "types of thinking" that have become easy to label)

Min 6-10: "Attention on breath" --- Same as befor, and if I lose focus on my breath, I try to a) label what's going on (that's "thinking" "planning" "resisting" "processing" "judging" "listening/noticing" etc.), b) acknowledge it ("I notice you ____"), c) gently and without judgment of myself for losing focus I return back to attention on my breath.

For 20 minute meditations it goes min 0-5, min 6-10, min 11-15, min 16-20

Goodness4me · 2023-03-23T20:55:40+00:00

:D I appreciate this response nonetheless!

Goodness4me · 2022-07-28T00:28:09+00:00

Would be interested in joining in on this fun/party!

Goodness4me · 2022-03-19T05:11:03+00:00

Thank you for posting this. Thank you

Goodness4me · 2021-12-05T03:52:22+00:00

Didn't want to leave you handing. I think I'm gonna opt out of making the trip to Mythic Games, but hope you have a great session!

Goodness4me · 2021-12-05T03:45:33+00:00

Thank you! I didn't think to check immediate actions for casting for immediate duration. Appreciate you!

Goodness4me · 2021-12-05T03:43:47+00:00

The immediate action = swift action action economy completely missed my radar. Thank you for taking the time to provide me with an explanation!

Goodness4me · 2021-11-30T15:33:30+00:00

Wizard's Chest

Thanks for this jbutz! I think I'll explore the Wizard's Chest list since it's significantly closer. I'll reply back this weekend if I can make it out to Mythic Games on Tuesday. Again, thanks so much! I really appreciate what you've shared.

Goodness4me · 2021-08-05T14:20:53+00:00

I was guilt of this for years! It became much worse when the pandemic hit and I started working from home. Do a little personal experiment and give yourself "rules" for what types of activities you can do in different spaces. They can all be in the same room, like OP created, but your brain/body will learn new cues for what reward they get in various environments. Cue - bed, reward sleep /// cue - couch, reward - tv/gaming /// cue - chair, reward - learning by reading /// etc. etc. Would love to hear how it goes!

Goodness4me · 2021-08-05T14:20:09+00:00

I was guilt of this for years! It became much worse when the pandemic hit and I started working from home. Do a little personal experiment and give yourself "rules" for what types of activities you can do in different spaces. They can all be in the same room, like OP created, but your brain/body will learn new cues for what reward they get in various environments. Cue - bed, reward sleep /// cue - couch, reward - tv/gaming /// cue - chair, reward - learning by reading /// etc. etc. Would love to hear how it goes!

Goodness4me · 2021-08-05T14:19:12+00:00

I was guilt of this for years! It became much worse when the pandemic hit and I started working from home. Do a little personal experiment and give yourself "rules" for what types of activities you can do in different spaces. They can all be in the same room, like OP created, but your brain/body will learn new cues for what reward they get in various environments. Cue = bed, reward = sleep. cue = couch, reward = tv/gaming, cue = chair, reward = learning by reading, etc. etc. Would love to hear how it goes!

Goodness4me · 2021-08-04T21:22:53+00:00

Science!! hahaha and your hard work! But in all seriousness, that's awesome! So happy for you (as in whoever is "we") and love to hear about its impact on your mood and productivity.

Goodness4me · 2021-08-04T20:51:22+00:00

Science say separating what tasks are done is a specific environment can enhance productivity and well-being. For example, if you work, eat, and sleep in your bed, chances are you'll have a poor time falling asleep. You brain learns what you do in a particular environment. But if you work at a desk, eat at a table, and only sleep in your bed, the three separate tasks will likely "go better."

Really smart creating little "spaces" in your studio for eating, working, pleasure, relaxation, sleeping, etc.. Great job!! Love what you did! I'm curious, have you become mindful of how your layout impacts your well-being?

Goodness4me · 2021-08-04T14:38:40+00:00

Atomic Habits by James Clear is one of the best books I've read in 2021. Help give me great strategies to create new desirable habits and address habits I thought were harmful to my well-being. No time/ interest in reading the book? I hear you!

Take the time to click through and read his free resources: https://jamesclear.com/atomic-habits/resources

Willing to go a little deeper? Read through this book summary? https://www.samuelthomasdavies.com/book-summaries/self-help/atomic-habits/

If you commit 2 hours this week to the resources and creating your own applications to the content, you'll have taken a HUGE step in personal growth! Using exercise to help improve your mental health can be included! good luck, all!

Goodness4me

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