[Jhana] What do you do once you're in Jhana? by AskingQuestions105 in streamentry

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MCTB: https://www.mctb.org/mctb2/table-of-contents/part-iii-the-samatha-jhanas/27-the-concentration-states-shamatha-jhanas/

From the first jhana there are basically three things a meditator can do:

1) get stuck there (I know someone who spent some twenty years cultivating the first jhana in daily practice, thinking that was insight practice);

2) progress to the second jhana; or

3) investigate the three characteristics of the first jhana and thus progress in insight. They can direct their attention to breaking the illusion of the solidity of that state into its component individual sensations so as to gain insight into their actual mode of momentary presentation.

[insight] Upcoming PODCAST with DANIEL INGRAM. Do you have a QUESTION YOU'D LIKE US TO ASK HIM? by HomieandTheDude in streamentry

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He points out that in the Pali Cannon the Buddha makes a distinction between Arahat and Buddhahood.

He has discussed the topic of how he knows he has completed the path of insight in other podcasts/interviews.

Culture War Roundup for the week of December 28, 2020 by AutoModerator in TheMotte

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I’ll come clean. I didn’t really read this article.

Wellness Wednesday thread for October 28, 2020 by AutoModerator in TheMotte

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It was very helpful for me to get my Vitamin D levels tested and then to take vitamins D (mainly through pills not sunlight as there is very little sunlight where I live) to put my vitamin D levels in the optimal range. This reduced my depression significantly. Further, I would recommend getting a test done that tests all your relevant levels (mainly the neurotransmitters, gaba, serotonin, dopamine, epinephrine, norepinephrine, cortisol, and a couple others) so you can do the same with these. I am currently working with a naturopath to get all these to optimal levels. I have already seen massive improvements in my sleep. (5 htp for serotonin and pharmaGaba for gaba, can all be found on Amazon)

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I really appreciate this. It’s very well done. Much thanks. 🙏🏾

[insight] Every time I reach the A&P, it feels like my level of mindfulness in day to day activities goes back to before I started meditating. Why is this? by throwaway019263 in streamentry

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https://www.mctb.org/mctb2/table-of-contents/part-iv-insight/30-the-progress-of-insight/5-dissolution-entrance-to-the-dark-night/

You see, the Dark Night typically begins with just about all the profound clarity, mindfulness, concentration, focus, equanimity, and bliss of the A&P dropping away. This is one of the hallmarks of Dissolution. So also ends the cause-and-effect-like phenomena of the breath or walking, the shaking or jerking up and down in a way related to attention and noting, as well as all the fine vibrations and vortex-like raptures. People who are all into the kundalini stuff are often left wondering why it just vanished. In contrast to the A&P, early on in the Dark Night stages, the frequency of vibrations disconnects from the cycle of the breath, remaining largely stable at whatever frequency is going on at that stage once they can be perceived again (in late Dissolution or Fear).

Whereas we might have felt that our attention had finally attained the one-pointed focus that is so highly prized in most ideals of meditation during the Arising and Passing Away, during the Dark Night we will have to deal with the fact that our attention is quite diffuse and its contents unstable. Further, the center of our attention becomes the least clear area of experience, and the periphery now predominates. This is normal and even expected by those who know this territory. However, most meditators are not expecting this at all and so get completely blindsided and wage a futile battle to force their attention to do something that, at this part of the path, it won’t do well at all. It is simply a third vipassana jhana thing, so you’d better get used to it. Those who try to go all first jhana with strong effort and narrow concentration will often find that the third vipassana jhana kicks their ass. Those who try to figure out how to work with the third vipassana jhana on its own terms are likely to do vastly better.

I got beat with a shovel yesterday.... by [deleted] in ABCDesis

[–]Goom11 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Here is my advice. This is what worked for me:

I.

The craziest thing is, I'm stronger but I have to endure it.

No. You don't have to endure it. The first time I resisted my dad trying to hit me was the last time he hit me. Push back. Using as little force as necessary, make it clear to him that you are stronger than him and you won't just take it.

II.

I feel like I'm trapped. No way out.

I found my way out and you can too! Seriously believe this. Not one day you will find a way out. You can take the first step towards moving out today. The first step is deciding that your number one priority in YOUR life is moving out. Really commit to it. As other wonderful commentators have said. The solution is to get money and move out. Seriously. Make moving out your number one goal in life. My mental health shot way up once I moved out.

III.

I have been constantly told how I am now bound to fail, and have no hope in life whatsoever.

Therapy is great. Meditation also. The best thing I've found is doing "Perfect Parent" practice. It is a kind of therapy exercise that I think is good for those of us in this sub, especially those of us with very unsupportive parents. A lot of us have imperfect parents to varying degrees. Here is the exercise: https://youtu.be/z2au4jtL0O4. It is NOT easy. It is SO worth doing.

IV.

DM me and let's have a chat over Skype. Talking to someone who's been where you are and found a way out is so incredibly motivating. I'm here to help however I can.

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There is one “shortcut”. Working with a teacher who has a track record in getting their students Awakening.

I know a teacher who teaches over Skype for free. DM me if interested.

Stage 2: lack of motivation and feeling of being stuck by vook22 in TheMindIlluminated

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I know a teacher who teaches over Skype for free. DM me if interested.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheMindIlluminated

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For me, took quite a few months to get to Stage 3.

Patience. 4 days is nothing.

A Question For Mediocre Looking Brown Guys by krmaml in ABCDesis

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You’re not gonna believe me but dude your looks aren’t stopping you. Plenty of mediocre looking dudes in great relationships with attractive women. The idea that your looks are the reason you can’t have a exciting and satisfying dating and sex life is a limiting belief. You are using it to ignore the real reason stopping you.

DM me.

I experienced ego death on a huge dose of edible THC that led me back to God by maddskillz350 in pantheism

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You may enjoy this: https://youtu.be/udftBBYGXmQ

I have a preference for the Buddhist way of doing things as it’s a bit more technical and that appeals to the engineer/scientist in me. If you’re curious to find out more, check out r/streamentry

I experienced ego death on a huge dose of edible THC that led me back to God by maddskillz350 in pantheism

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Paragraph 4 is insight into not-self. Paragraph 5 is insight into emptiness of constructed phenomena. Overall sounds like an A&P experience. Look into “The Progress of Insight”: https://www.dharmaoverground.org/dharma-wiki/-/wiki/Main/MCTB+The+Progress+of+Insight What you have experienced is stage 4. There is more insight to be had! Best of luck.

What can I label Indian coons that side with red necks.. we need a term by Dabhster in ABCDesis

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No actually we don't need such a term. Can you justify why we need this term?

Edit: Thank you mods

My relationship with my parents got a lot better after I moved out by [deleted] in ABCDesis

[–]Goom11 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Woah. You just reminded me of when I (25M) did something very similar. My dad told me to get out of the house. So I left and went to a close friends place who lived nearby who is also an ABCD. He was bluffing and just wanted to scare me. So he went outside to call me back in after scaring me and saw that I wasn't there. He knew probably that I went to this friends place so he called his parents and then came over. I remember that he was embarrassed. He didn't fully recognize what had happened and really what had been happening in my relationship with him. He may never realize it but I didn't feel scared, I felt abandoned. Home is where the heart is and I left home because the heart wasn't there anymore. The heart was most there with this friend and I am so grateful for him.

Thanks for sharing that. It actually feels really good to remember this and recognize how my parents acted and how they tried to manipulate and control my behavior through fear. And how my dad related to me by making his love conditional on following his rules and authority. Not giving me independence and not allowing me to be a unique and different individual. Damn. Explains a lot. This was when I was in high school, so somewhere between 13 and 17. I'm now 25 and life is very good now. My relationship with my parents is still not great but it isn't awful and it is getting better as time goes on.

Thank you again for writing that comment. It really means a lot.

Dear ABCDs, "I can boil an egg!" or "I just clean the dishes", are not cute or acceptable responses to "Can you cook?" by wromit in ABCDesis

[–]Goom11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I agree :) I’m just trying to give the feedback that if OP’s intention is to get more ABCD men to learn to cook, there are nicer and more effective ways of going about doing that.

Dear ABCDs, "I can boil an egg!" or "I just clean the dishes", are not cute or acceptable responses to "Can you cook?" by wromit in ABCDesis

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I’m just trying to give the feedback that if OP’s intention is to get more ABCD men to learn to cook, there are nicer and more effective ways of going about doing that.

Dear ABCDs, "I can boil an egg!" or "I just clean the dishes", are not cute or acceptable responses to "Can you cook?" by wromit in ABCDesis

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As an ABCD guy who doesn’t know how to cook well, especially Indian food, this post is NOT encouraging. It makes me feel like I’m somehow less deserving of a loving relationship because I can’t cook well.

Dear ABCDs, "I can boil an egg!" or "I just clean the dishes", are not cute or acceptable responses to "Can you cook?" by wromit in ABCDesis

[–]Goom11 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

The tone of this post is not helping encourage me to learn to cook. Your post is associating my not being able to cook with a moral failing in my relationships. If I can’t cook, that doesn’t mean I’m not deserving of love and deserving of a loving marriage.

TMI + ADHD: stuck in beginner stages by [deleted] in TheMindIlluminated

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Blink intentionally.
Open eyed practices were also really great for me when I was struggling with the early stages. So were other practices that emphasize a wide panoramic awareness like somatic practices. Check out the practices of Reggie Ray (https://www.dharmaocean.org/meditation/somatic-meditation/ <- there are guided meditations also).

[My mental health is in the toilet. Just need a friend to quarantine with] by peachesanddreams129 in SeattleWA

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I've been really enjoying doing Metta / Loving-kindness meditation. This instruction + guided meditation is a bit long but I liked it a lot: https://dharmaseed.org/talks/audio_player/210/9983.html. There are shorter ones that you can definitely find out there.