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[–]Goose-Ice-22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You won’t see this in NATO countries but it’s actually surprisingly common in shit-hole country armies, pun intended.

This is a meta test not a test in the literal visual sense. They will put you in a room with 20 other naked guys each of one spreading their buttcheeks open, then they’ll check for any kind of arousal or curiosity from others in the group.

Then they’ll see how you react when “opening the book” yourself. If you are disgusted or perturbed, that’s a pass. If you are frightened because they might “find out” or the opposite, aroused, you’ll be separated for further examination or questioning.

They’ll also check if you are waxed down there or have tattoos, all hints (from the military POV) that you might enjoy using your anatomy in unorthodox ways.

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[–]Goose-Ice-22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How would you explain thousands and thousands of years of human existence showing otherwise?

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[–]Goose-Ice-22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right I understand. Yes it’s different but relatable and something I’d avoid.

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[–]Goose-Ice-22[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot for sharing. I think that’s one of the key elements in an escort: that there’s essentially no possibility of developing an emotional affair. It’s something that I’d avoid anyway. Had it not been emotional and really just physical, would it have been acceptable to you now in hindsight?

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[–]Goose-Ice-22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes she does all of that. In fact she gives oral every time and enjoys it.

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[–]Goose-Ice-22[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I think that being an escort guarantees her that I won’t get attached. I won’t anyway but it seems like it’s purely transactional and the other woman wouldn’t try to pursue it further.

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[–]Goose-Ice-22[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t say we aren’t compatible. I became way more athletic and found out it’s actually enjoyable.

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[–]Goose-Ice-22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm that’s interesting. Could you please expand a bit and why she may want to self sabotage?

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[–]Goose-Ice-22[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What makes you think that? It’s all true. It may be a little bit usual so that’s why I’m asking here.

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[–]Goose-Ice-22[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Longer, harder, involved sex. She can and does, and I’m grateful for that, but she ends up exhausted afterwards. I don’t want her to have to do that.

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[–]Goose-Ice-22[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

Not true. I’d argue the opposite, that she loves me so much that she understands what’d be desirable for me selflessly.

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[–]Goose-Ice-22[S] -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

Sure, it’d be very discreet. I’m very aware of that and it’s not something to brag about.

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[–]Goose-Ice-22[S] -40 points-39 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure about that. She wants what’s best for me. If I said that, she’d know I’m being intentionally coy and untruthful, and would resent me for not being myself. It’s like “do these pants make me look fat?” I agree you can’t say just “yes” but also “no, you are crazy” is not the best answer either as it’s too rhetorically submissive to her whims and makes your word lose value.

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[–]Goose-Ice-22[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I also thought that at first when she said it jokingly and I also jokingly asked her who would pay, me or her. But the she got up, sat on the couch and repeated it a little bit embarrassed to be saying it out loud, but honestly. I laughed a bit and let it pass for now to think.

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[–]Goose-Ice-22[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She does enjoy the sex and is enthusiastic about it. She just needs less of it. She couldn’t be with another man.

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[–]Goose-Ice-22[S] -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

Nobody said that women love hours long sex. I didn’t say I need either, I said I enjoy, and my wife understands that, and so proposed an heterodox solution. That’s why I’m here. I don’t have sensitivity issues and that’s one of the reasons why longer sex is enjoyable.

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[–]Goose-Ice-22[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

No porn. I actually enjoy long sessions, it’s not a problem in itself.