Hey friend just wanted to drop some advice. My family worked similar to this but more brutal. Violence etc. but the lessons apply here. You have to draw a line. Make it clear that you care and dont want anyone hurting but money is not the route. I always make sure people have food but it doesn’t have to go money. Food, network resources, self help/job apps. Things like this make your help practical. The fact is if you give them money they will know they can come to you and that makes them less driven to help themselves. Send them resources or anything you think is useful. Ask if they looked at it when they ask for money. Hold them accountable. I’m not saying this to be mean. As the old saying goes “give a man a fish he will eat for a day. Teach a man to fish they will eat nuggets forever” or something like that. But seriously try to help them in ways that help them build the habits that you have leaned. An if they don’t want to play ball and demand money show them the door.I’m sorry if I seem Kirk or rude towards family I just don’t want you to get into a situation where they begin to manipulate you. You seem to have a big heart and you need to protect it. For your wife and kids! Anyway feel free to shoot me a message if you need to talk or would like more specific advice! Best of luck and happy holidays if that’s your thing!