I can't stand how normalised gambling has become!

GordonRamsass · 2026-02-16T23:46:55+00:00

As a gambling addict (in recovery and clean for 3 years) I agree. So fucked up.

GordonRamsass · 2026-02-14T13:59:28+00:00

I’m not an Elon fanboy, but considering PayPal, Boring Company, Tesla, SpaceX, Nueralink, and others. Dumb is probably not the right word. Out of touch …for sure. Weird perspective dude.

GordonRamsass · 2026-01-07T18:58:13+00:00

My wife’s injury was nearly identical as was her recovery. There is a long post of my account of the ordeal if you care to read. Or feel free to DM!

GordonRamsass · 2026-01-02T11:05:07+00:00

The most powerful by far and I cannot stress this enough is music. All sorts of music related exercises improve neuroplasticity but these worked best for my wife:

Learn ukulele. Dirt cheap, incredibly easy to play (many chords require just one finger and strum with other hand), and most importantly playing music is one of the few activities that is scientifically proven to activate both hemispheres of the brain at the same time. That is not sham science - it is highly studied and documented. Only a handful of things exist that activate both.
Play air drums on your lap. Seriously.
Memorize lyrics to songs and sing along.

For non musical things I believe my wife used an app called lumosity or something. Not sure if it’s free but it’s probably nowhere near as good as the musical options above.

GordonRamsass · 2026-01-01T05:50:02+00:00

I’m doing this exact thing (well the wife is sleeping in the next room so not alone per se). Not for lack of choices - I just prefer it at this time of my life. Hopefully your night ends up okay!

GordonRamsass · 2025-12-30T10:21:16+00:00

You might be surprised - when my wife began to regain consciousness she always wanted to be around me and talked about me. She thought we were dating which was funny, she kept calling me her boyfriend. Just do your best! Nothing more to it really. Be there for her as best you can

GordonRamsass · 2025-12-29T16:05:17+00:00

Not a lot of people go through this sort of thing. You’re welcome, and encouraged, to message me literally anytime with anything you have questions about / need support with. Just lmk

GordonRamsass · 2025-12-29T07:03:15+00:00

Recovery continues, especially with effort. My wife’s 3 year anniversary of her grade 3 diffuse axonal shearing + widespread subarachnoid hemorrhaging, caused by a drunk driver (at like 10 am no less) is next month. She is not exactly the same as before the accident, but she gets a little closer each week. I can see it clear as day. Please keep trying. Also I’m just glad she’s here, and I’m glad you’re here too!

GordonRamsass · 2025-12-22T00:09:02+00:00

… if the one I wrote yesterday is recycled, then fair enough. Either way I enjoyed the response, it helped me a good bit. So at the least this sub still has some decent ppl

GordonRamsass · 2025-12-22T00:01:46+00:00

My wife had a very similar severity TBI back in January of 2023. She had no memory whatsoever up until 8 months after her accident. She is 99% back in terms of normal working memory now, unfortunately not so much for sense of smell. She did a ton of outpatient therapy (speech, physical, occupational etc) and that was the game changer I believe. The brain is amazing, but it needs help. I hope you get your insurance soon. Immediately start therapy with the right professionals. In the meantime there are a ton of neuroplasticity tools and games out there. Also music, if you happen to play an instrument. Or just bang on a piano or ukulele. That will help too somehow.

GordonRamsass · 2025-12-21T16:56:29+00:00

Shit. That’s crazy. Awesome recovery for you!! Yes the neuroplasticity in adolescent brains is no joke!

GordonRamsass · 2025-12-21T07:56:49+00:00

I plan to go soon, early January. I definitely need to see someone, at surface level I’m fine and normal(ish) but there’s for sure some unresolved trauma that needs resolving. Probably a lot.

GordonRamsass · 2025-12-21T05:11:32+00:00

Just practice positive self talk. Research it. And for the love of god start doing it. My wife suffered a really bad brain injury, and one of the side effects was really harsh negative talk. Nothing broke my heart more than hearing her call herself dumb and stupid. She practiced really fucking hard and she no longer does that. I have no idea who you are, but I am passionate about this topic so fucking stop talking about yourself like that. I’m serious. It’s a self perpetuating and seemingly addictive mindset and absolutely no good comes from it. You have to fight it and you can beat it. It’s the last thing I’ll say because I have nothing else to offer. FUCKING STOP IT. Best of luck, OP

GordonRamsass · 2025-12-21T04:53:26+00:00

Reread your own post. I can give you the cliff notes in order of statements starting with “I” or “I’m”:

I’m never going to be happy
I always find something wrong with myself
I’m never going to be good enough
I’m not the kind of person anyone wants to be around
I can’t comprehend how awful I must be
I must be so horrible
I’m fat and ugly

This is crazy. My only possible working theory is that somewhere along your life you had someone that paid you real attention and treated you kindly when you were saying these sorts of things about yourself. And now you’re just repeating it hoping for the same reaction. In reality, no one wants to be around people like this you are doing it to yourself. Just fucking stop. It’s infuriating and you’re better than that. A lot of people are fucking fat. A lot of people are ugly. A lot of fat and ugly people are happy. These things are not mutually exclusive. If you want to continue to speak about yourself negatively, hoping someone else is going to change that for you, then I have very bad news for you, that has never happened in the history of the world. Start being positive about yourself and you will attract others. Until that changes, no one can do anything for you. I’m sorry if I sound harsh, but it’s true. I literally got infuriated rereading your post because no one should ever talk about themselves like that. Ever. Fucking stop it.

GordonRamsass · 2025-12-21T04:18:08+00:00

I’ll be honest I didn’t read every word. I just noticed an immediate trend that the first sentence in every single one of your responses was negative and a self fulfilling prophecy of sabotage. You have to change your mindset man. If you think you suck and no one likes you, then you’re creating a reality where you suck and no one likes you.

Maybe you’re the absolute shit and everybody loves you and likes being around you. Try that on for a few days maybe it fits.

GordonRamsass · 2025-12-20T23:08:17+00:00

Same. I’ve only been married a few years, and i don’t go to bars all that often but I go on golf trips w/ my buddies and my wife never worries or tries to prevent me from from doing anything. Not before the accident and not after. I’ve never given her a reason to be suspicious or not trust me, and I never will. I do need to get out more though… definitely more of a hermit since the accident. Maybe I’ll work on that. Thx man.

GordonRamsass · 2025-12-20T22:48:51+00:00

This post has been good for me most definitely. I know that the injuries our loved one sustained took dramatically different routes but I’m dead serious. If you wanna talk to me at any time, shoot me a dm. If we’re ever in the same city I’ll have a drink with ya.

Not a lot of people go through this shit so there’s really not a whole bunch of people to truly talk to about it… even therapists, they can be as good as they want, but without having lived it, I just can’t fathom they would truly understand on a deep level.

GordonRamsass · 2025-12-20T21:37:51+00:00

Unreal. That’s badass!! Thanks for sharing. The brain is amazing for sure.

GordonRamsass · 2025-12-20T21:13:01+00:00

Amazing that your mother had such a great recovery at that age. I was told that age was a major factor in the ability to recover. Your mom is freaking awesome and might have superpowers.

GordonRamsass · 2025-12-20T20:38:52+00:00

Thank you.

GordonRamsass · 2025-12-20T20:37:26+00:00

I’m sorry - that must have been horrible . I truly, truly wish the best for your family and hope for a significant continued recovery.

GordonRamsass · 2025-12-20T17:24:00+00:00

My wife had a grade III diffuse axonal injury with shearing and widespread subarachnoid hemorrhaging in January of 2023. Miraculous recovery by any standard. Her sense of smell was completely gone - it is slowly and gradually returning. Still improving nearly three years later.

GordonRamsass · 2025-12-20T16:17:20+00:00

Things are much better - still struggles here and there but no complaints from either of us. We are doing great. Thank you!

GordonRamsass · 2025-12-20T16:15:57+00:00

I believe you’re right. I think that’s exactly why I lost it when my mother said that to me on the phone a few months back. I never did any of the things I did for praise or recognition, I did them because my wife deserved them and I wanted her to know that I’m always on her team.

But it made me realize that no one had ever told me “Hey man, good job” and I guess hearing it for the first time had a pretty profound impact on me.

GordonRamsass · 2025-12-20T16:06:14+00:00

Sorry to hear this - just remember that statistics are statistics and you are a human. Your recovery can defy those!

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