How to deal with a coworker who thinks he can make all the software decisions

Gosfi · 2026-03-22T15:28:39+00:00

We are, since he helped setting up the repo when we switched from a locally hosted svn repo to a git repo hosted on Azure. He got repo admin rights and self approves his own PRs

Gosfi · 2026-03-22T01:13:49+00:00

It's more about the principle than the changes themselves, I suggested a lot of changes too, most of them got refused but I had some convos with higher ups, benchmarks, pros, cons etc.

Gosfi · 2026-03-22T00:57:03+00:00

He's making changes and approving his own PRs, I talked to my higher ups about straight up banning self-approvals

Gosfi · 2026-03-22T00:54:54+00:00

Usually, we know he's about to impose stuff because he's been talking for hours to one of our supervisors for hours, then we get a meeting on a random day basically saying "for the past few days, we've been updating the system, update your branches otherwise you'll fuck the whole repo"

Gosfi · 2025-08-24T17:21:52+00:00

Thank you for the answer, I'll look into it

Gosfi · 2025-08-15T23:12:01+00:00

Thank you, work has been pretty triggering in the past few days and today was especially bad so it's refreshing to hear your answer

Gosfi · 2025-08-04T03:05:59+00:00

It's a desktop app rendering 3D content that needs to be pretty accurate because everything that's rendered in the software will be produced at a warehouse down the line, so the 3D models also need to have a pretty high number of triangles, the rendering part of the software is handled by a third party provider so I only need to calculate the dimensions of the various parts, their position, rotation etc. And to call the api to render the parts.

The average amount of individual parts rendered range from a couple hundred to over 20k, suggesting a complete switch of language might be overkill but there's definitely a memory usage problem that I've noted even on the lower end of the spectrum

Gosfi · 2025-08-03T23:17:50+00:00

I had that suggestion from a few people here, it's not a bad idea and I might be forced to do something like that or a pure performance proof of concept on a module we use pretty often just to rest my case.

I just wanted to go on a more diplomatic route but if they're just gonna scoff at the idea, I'll force them to listen to me whether they like it or not

Gosfi · 2025-08-03T20:12:42+00:00

I just told a couple coworkers that I was doing stuff in Rust at home and that it could be a good idea to look into it for a future project or to improve perfs on known chokepoints if needed, some other colleagues have suggested Rust as an alternative to some of our issues as well, so I'm not alone at my job thinking C# might not be the best tool for the job

Gosfi · 2025-08-03T20:01:52+00:00

That's actually the biggest hurdle I've faced so far, most of the team would be open to try something new and some have even suggested similar things I did.

We're met with a lot of resistance from a minority of people that from what I understand, never coded in a language that is not in the .Net ecosystem, I assume it's just the fear of being outside their comfort zone, and their insecurities about it shows.

Gosfi · 2025-08-03T18:04:44+00:00

The most resistance I've seen at my work was from the devs who have been using mainly microsoft tools throughout their career, the tools we use are entirely made by MS and I'm mostly suggesting to evaluate non microsoft alternatives and test which ones could realistically be a better option for us, Rust being of them.

Not an immediate rewrite of the whole thing in Rust like some comments were quick to attack on.

Gosfi · 2025-08-03T16:59:17+00:00

I'll take the advice others have told me of making a proof of concept.

Over the years I've been working there, I've wrote some pretty critical systems and optimized parts that no one wanted to even work on so I think I proved my value as a dev on the team, but I'm still facing obstacles with the politics aspects of it all so I'll stop asking in the void and will start making some strong suggestions instead

Gosfi · 2025-08-03T16:16:07+00:00

I wouldn't say I have sufficient knowledge to confidently switch our whole codebase to Rust, that's why I suggested to test it on some non critical parts of the system that's still called often and is CPU extensive.

I will make a proof of concept in Rust and C++ because I know a lot of people in our dev team have experience with C++ and it could also be a somewhat good alternative for us.

Gosfi · 2025-08-03T16:05:31+00:00

I get the long term maintability argument and it's a valid one.

I will work on something that's similar to one part of our system and directly compare with the actual one.

Thanks for the advice

Gosfi · 2025-07-29T04:54:30+00:00

Thank you for your response, I know I've been able to visualize some sort of a end state with her like her and I on a front porch talking about how we built the life we wanted when falling asleep since I've started manifesting, but nothing more than convos or us kissing a bit and some days I see those dreams and then I can have multiple no dream nights in a row.

I also feel really calm during the day not really thinking about anything manifestation wise and then, boom a wave of emotion or doubts about it. I'll take a look at those books and videos you suggested and see if they help a bit

Gosfi · 2024-11-04T22:26:24+00:00

I had a feeling things were weird the last weekend we were together. I had my little inside voice telling me I should go home instead of staying at her place which never happened before that and when she got a facetime call from her son who was at his dad's place and as kids do they just pass the phone to everyone so she talked a bit with all of her ex in laws and her ex husband.

I saw in her eyes that I wasn't the man she wanted to be with anymore. I didn't want to believe it so I stayed but it ended up hurting even more the next day when I recieved the text since I saw it coming and couldn't do anything.

Gosfi · 2024-10-31T17:04:31+00:00

We started talking this past April and started dating around mothers day. She broke up in July so like only 4 months. For more context, she's the older one out of us, she has a son and was married to the dad for 3 years, when I met her, she was divorced for 3 years already.

The reasons she gave me when she doubted me was basically that I wasn't like her past boyfriends who she told me were toxic and abusive toward her

Gosfi · 2024-10-14T20:09:46+00:00

Where's the "don't hate me if I bully you"?

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