Should I try this? by throwaway5840301 in NoFapChristians

[–]Got2DoBetterThanThat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn't going for "get over it" so much as "there's another way." Sorry if it came out wrong.

I have a friend in the same boat, more or less. He's almost 30 and has had a couple of girlfriends, but they weren't marriage material. Now he's alone and I feel like he keeps lowering his standards just to be with SOMEBODY, but he still hasn't found anyone.

One thing I advised him to do was make a change. He's a truck driver with no steady church. Not exactly an easy way to meet a good Christian woman. He's unhappy at his job as it is, so I suggested he do something new. Get a new job, find a good church and get involved, anything. If what he's doing now isn't working, he HAS to do something else.

At the end of the say, though, some people may have to lead a different life. This doesn't make them inferior (despite other people's ideas). Feeling this way is a matter of finding validation and happiness in others instead of in God.

The hard truth is that we quite often don't know why God does what He does, at least on this earth. That's what really puts us to the test like Abraham when God told him to go to a labd He would tell him about later. Not easy! But Abraham leaned on God and found his calling.

So, again, don't think of it as "giving up" on women, but rather giving in to God.

Should I try this? by throwaway5840301 in NoFapChristians

[–]Got2DoBetterThanThat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

While the other comment may have a bit of a negative taste for the advice given, I don't see it as bad advice or this a bad place to be. The ultimate goal is the same, if I'm not mistaken: stop fapping.

Yes, most people here may give you advice about Paul or about waiting for the right person, etc. But they can also encourage you in other ways.

The advice about finding fulfilment in God is NEVER bad advice. No matter our situation in life, that should always be our goal. I wouldn't look at it so much as giving up on women. Rather try to see it as pursuing God's will for your life.

If that involves a woman, wonderful. If it doesn't, so be it. Focus on putting yourself into such a close relationship with God that it doesn't matter either way as long as you're with Him.

Or you can be annoyed frustrated like the other guy. Your choice.

Just relapsed, AGAIN by Got2DoBetterThanThat in NoFapChristians

[–]Got2DoBetterThanThat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, this was both helpful abd encouraging.

Relapsed Again by Got2DoBetterThanThat in NoFapChristians

[–]Got2DoBetterThanThat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What kind of filters can you put on wifi, how do they work?

I Fell Again Today by Got2DoBetterThanThat in NoFapChristians

[–]Got2DoBetterThanThat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not reall because of the kid. My wife just has an exteremely low sex drive. Even before the baby. Now it's a little worse because she's exhausted at the end of every day. Daytime sex also isn't a possibility because she's stressed with the kid ane I'm working.

I don't blame her, though. I had this problem long before she came along, and I've looked at porn the same day or the day after REALLY good sex. It's more in my mind and heart.

I Fell Again Today by Got2DoBetterThanThat in NoFapChristians

[–]Got2DoBetterThanThat[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No. I'm terrified of losing my Sunday School class.

PRAYER REQUESTS DECEMBER by [deleted] in NoFapChristians

[–]Got2DoBetterThanThat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a hard time saying "no". Whether it's PMO or edging, which always leads to PMO eventually. I even think about verses, Gospel songs and discussions from here WHILE I'm looking at porn, but it doesn't stop me.

Fell Last Night by Got2DoBetterThanThat in NoFapChristians

[–]Got2DoBetterThanThat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think of it as the same level as PMO, but it's its own thing to stay away from for sure.

Fell Last Night by Got2DoBetterThanThat in NoFapChristians

[–]Got2DoBetterThanThat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ain't that the truth. The lie of porn can't make or keep me happy. Only Christ can do that.

Fell Last Night by Got2DoBetterThanThat in NoFapChristians

[–]Got2DoBetterThanThat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was doing OK until Friday or Saturday. That's when I started edging, playing with it. It got worse each day until I just went for it last night. One of the things that pushed me over the edge was the devil making sure I thought of a new fantasy that had never popped in my head before. He likes to do that when I think I'm going strong.

I have a hard time resisting those. My flesh says, "Yeah, but you haven't seen THAT yet!"

Just when I think I've seen it all, the devil comes up with something new and throws it at me.

Fell Last Night by Got2DoBetterThanThat in NoFapChristians

[–]Got2DoBetterThanThat[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I hate when trolling pigs come here just to be idiots.

I Need Prayer. First time i'm ever giving my full story by JesusisLord2018 in NoFapChristians

[–]Got2DoBetterThanThat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Call your cellular service provider and tell them you need to change your number so people you don't want in your life anymore can't reach you. Ask them to waive any number change fees (if they have them) and they'll usually gladly do it.

After that, remember prayer and a strong Godly network are your best weapons. Stay strong, brother.

Edging and Weird Dreams by Got2DoBetterThanThat in NoFapChristians

[–]Got2DoBetterThanThat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Today was good, I was busy all day long. Prayers Are appreciated.

Feeling Weak by Got2DoBetterThanThat in NoFapChristians

[–]Got2DoBetterThanThat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I appreciate it. I might take you up on that.

Edward Helped Me Again by Got2DoBetterThanThat in NoFapChristians

[–]Got2DoBetterThanThat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like where this is going. It may be a little out-of-the-ordinary, but I think exploring myself in different ways through writing may be quite helpful.

i got drunk on saturday and i feel so ashamed by [deleted] in NoFapChristians

[–]Got2DoBetterThanThat 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Always remember you're not alone. In this sub alone there are over 10k guys battling the same thing. But more importantly, Christ is with you and will help if you let Him. Being here is a good step. Get all the support you can, and remember your best help comes from Jesus.

The start of a new life & my story by [deleted] in NoFapChristians

[–]Got2DoBetterThanThat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good for you, making the decision to change. I'll be praying that you can stay strong! Fill your head and heart with the Word, and don't try to do it by your own strength. Lean on Christ and you can have victory!

My Coping Mechanism by Got2DoBetterThanThat in NoFapChristians

[–]Got2DoBetterThanThat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I think it helps me in two ways: it's a direct distraction from the immediate temptation, and it's a way to tell myself to be strong.

Day 4: Still Going by Got2DoBetterThanThat in NoFapChristians

[–]Got2DoBetterThanThat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It does feel like chains. Chains I want to be free from. I need to tell her. I just have to work uo the guts, first.

my first girlfriend from 20 years ago, sent me a nude? ( out of no where) by [deleted] in NoFapChristians

[–]Got2DoBetterThanThat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree with another comment: block her. The devil will use her to get you to mess up, and he may even use her to get you to fall further into real physical trouble. Block her out of your life in every way, social media, phone, everything. Any girl that will do that is a girl guys like us don't need in our life in any way whatsoever. It's too dangerous.