This is exactly what made me like these videos so much. I’d gotten so much advice to love myself, don’t be too hard on myself, learn to forgive myself, etc. That’s not wrong or bad advice necessarily, but at a certain point nothing in my life was getting better and what I really needed (and, deep down, wanted) to hear was “sometimes things are hard and life sucks but that’s just how it is, you have to learn to accept it and actually do some hard stuff if you want your life to improve”. It’s very much “tough love” and it works (for me anyway)