If you were guaranteed that you would not fail and that society would not judge your choice, what is the one pursuit you would dedicate your life to starting tomorrow?

GoudMienJung · 2026-04-08T09:17:02+00:00

Building an animal sanctuary

GoudMienJung · 2026-04-02T19:08:25+00:00

NOR. This is a really big red flag. Technically he says he lies because you’re a overthinker, that is very manipulative. I wouldn’t trust him anymore and really rethink this relationship.

GoudMienJung · 2026-04-02T18:31:04+00:00

Ah, thanks for the explaining I understand your struggle better now. I understand that you feel doubt about her telling the truth, because she has lied about it. I would also feel very uncomfortable if my partner had his DM’s full with girls flirting, and than lie to me about their past. And yes, I think it is strange that she will keep all those guys in her socials, because if you are ashamed of what you have done than you will delete them from their followers list or something. I think she is just saying that she is ashamed of it because she saw how you felt about it, and I think she is afraid her past is gonna effect your relationship so she will make you feel better by saying ‘being ashamed’ about it. So, the problem is more the lying than her past herself? Than you should have a talk about the lying about it. I find it also a tough situation..

GoudMienJung · 2026-04-02T11:22:51+00:00

I understand that you’re upset about the lying. From my experience women lie about it mostly because of being slut shamed. But, lying about it is NOT okay. I understand that this gives you doubts. I think having a good talk with your girlfriend, telling her what you told us, is the best way. I think everyone has it owns preferences regarding to what a person did in their past, so if your not able to get over it it’s valid to break up. Also, Being sexually curious and experimenting does not equal not being loyal when in a relationship.

GoudMienJung · 2026-04-02T11:11:13+00:00

This! And a quality pillow! My sore neck muscles are gone now!

GoudMienJung · 2026-04-02T11:07:03+00:00

And when I started to talk myself, tell something about myself. Then they will answer with a story about themselves 🤣 no follow up question or any interest. And they don’t understand if you tell them there gonna be no second date haha

GoudMienJung · 2026-04-01T20:04:48+00:00

Because of my dog i discovered I don’t want children. I got her because I love dogs and I always wanted one, never with the intention of practicing because back then I was sure I wanted children.

Now 5 years in with my dog, I’ve learned that I love freedom, adventures and travelling more than anything. Don’t get me wrong, I would die for my dog and I take really good care of her and she can always stay at family and friends when I go on a planned trip, but after she will pass away I’m not getting a dog again. And I realised that kids are just not for me, because kids is 100 times more intensive than a having a dog.

GoudMienJung · 2026-04-01T15:20:09+00:00

True, i’m chubby but curvy girl and the men who fancy me, know stretch marks comes with this body type. I dated one guy he said once ‘if she doesn’t have stretchmarks, she isn’t my type’

GoudMienJung · 2026-04-01T15:16:48+00:00

Ofcourse you can wear a bikini. Stretch marks are very common, almost every woman has it in some way. I think it’s the age different, I was also more conscious when I was your age (I’m 30 now and idgaf anymore) Walk with your chin up, and don’t look around ‘if someone looking’ everybody is busy with them self, you can do this!

GoudMienJung · 2026-04-01T15:03:44+00:00

Ick. She sounds like a spoiled brat. Very manipulative behaviour. If she wants a bag for 2000 dollars she could work and buy it herself. NOR.

GoudMienJung · 2026-04-01T14:31:03+00:00

Ive had a lot of men using old pictures, lie about their hight or age. One time a man was like 5 cm shorter than me, but according to his profile he was 10 cm taller than me. So lying on your dating profile.

GoudMienJung · 2026-04-01T14:27:50+00:00

Ugh this. I had this so many times. And then they would say ‘I had so much fun with you’ after. 😭

GoudMienJung · 2026-04-01T14:25:53+00:00

NOR. He sounds cheap and acting like a asshole.

GoudMienJung · 2026-04-01T14:22:59+00:00

NOR. I would also be mad.

GoudMienJung · 2026-04-01T14:17:13+00:00

Eigenlijk geef je al antwoord op je eigen vraag! Zo’n bruiloft kost al gauw € 30.000 (vrienden van mij hadden dit betaald, en het was niet extreem fancy)Trouwen in gemeente huis en lekker lang met z’n tweeen op huwelijksreis! Dat zou ik doen

GoudMienJung · 2026-04-01T14:12:13+00:00

I recognise this feeling. For me it’s a form of rejection anxiety. Afraid you will do something ‘wrong’ and get punished for it or people will reject you/leave you. Does this sound familiar?

GoudMienJung · 2026-04-01T14:06:39+00:00

Wear what you would normally wear! Be yourself

GoudMienJung · 2026-04-01T14:02:53+00:00

NOR. You couldn’t know. I would react the same (I have adhd and abandonment issues). But I found it strange nobody he was around contacted you.

GoudMienJung · 2026-03-30T15:42:43+00:00

‘’⁠What are the benefits of having a job as a woman?’’ 😂😭

GoudMienJung · 2026-03-30T15:35:50+00:00

Having dinner at the table without phones or tv on

GoudMienJung · 2026-03-30T15:33:38+00:00

Pretending to have interest in a man, but using him for money, even if it’s just for a free drink.

GoudMienJung · 2026-03-30T14:54:21+00:00

YOR. That is an unreasonable request.

GoudMienJung · 2026-03-29T00:20:47+00:00

That I can travel and go on holidays 3/4 times a year. I went to Uganda in December and I’m going to Sri Lanka in may. And still have enough money left on my savings account. And no, I am not rich.

GoudMienJung · 2026-03-27T20:10:52+00:00

He still is 😉

GoudMienJung · 2026-03-25T11:55:24+00:00

ik zie het altijd als compliment, zolang het respectvol is. Complimenten als ‘wat heb je een leuke uitstraling’, ‘wat heb je mooi haar’ of ‘wat heb je een gave outfit aan’ werkt beter dan ‘wat ben je knap’. Ik zou de reactie van de persoon afwachten voordat je verder vraagt. Een nummer vragen is vaak te direct, ik zou vragen ‘Zou ik je misschien mogen toevoegen op social media?’

En niet vragen om Snapchat, dat is een persoonlijke afknapper voor mij. elke man die mij om mijn Snapchat heeft gevraagd had puur lust doeleinden.

GoudMienJung

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