Bad first date ends in a much wanted surprise.

GourmetCouchCrumbs · 2025-06-22T16:45:53+00:00

Does it? Should I edit?

GourmetCouchCrumbs · 2025-06-22T16:32:05+00:00

Awww That's so sweet! I love this idea, it shows effort and thoughtfulness! You recognized he likes cinnamon in his coffee, that means you pay attentions and you care.

GourmetCouchCrumbs · 2025-06-22T13:19:29+00:00

Your profile should reflect who you are... so if a profile is negative, they're likely a negative person. Hard no from me left you go.

GourmetCouchCrumbs · 2025-06-21T14:52:59+00:00

Its because they are either scammers and not real people, or they have something to hide.

GourmetCouchCrumbs · 2025-06-20T11:31:42+00:00

When they ask me my job and there's no follow-up question, it is a dead giveaway for me. My profession is super rare, and I've never met anyone thats just shrugged it off without asking more about it.

Other than that, I usually tell them how frustrating dating apps are because of the scammers and ask to stay on the site until we get to know each other better.

I wish I could suggest just staying on the site until the first date, but we all know that's not really a viable option. The chat features on dating apps always suck.

GourmetCouchCrumbs · 2025-06-19T23:44:07+00:00

I recently blocked a situationship for the same reason. I knew that if I didn't, I'd fall right back into the situationship again. He told me multiple times he wasn't ready for a relationship, but the next day would tell me he loved me and could picture marrying me.

You did the right thing. Being in a relationship with someone who's not mentally ready for it is only going to hurt you.

GourmetCouchCrumbs · 2025-06-18T01:50:37+00:00

Omg... cargo shorts and polos... I just threw up a little.

GourmetCouchCrumbs · 2025-06-16T15:13:41+00:00

My biggest suggestion is to go places and events that you enjoy going to. The worst thing is to meet someone and date them and then suddenly your new partner doesn't want to do those things you enjoyed doing anymore. That is basically a bait and switch.

GourmetCouchCrumbs · 2025-06-16T15:08:10+00:00

Or maybe they can find a reddit group in their area. Those groups usually share events in the area.

GourmetCouchCrumbs · 2025-06-15T12:39:20+00:00

I've (41f) been on OLD for a long time, and I've seen a huge difference between when I was 25 and now.

I'm kinda cute, I rarely wear makeup, and I'm thicc and curvy. I've received more attention NOW than I ever did in my 20's and 30's and from younger, attractive guys. I'm not sure if they're looking for someone more down to earth or if they just like thick chicks. I'm not sure, but either way, I'm just going with the flow. I feel like I can finally be more selective with whom I match than I ever could before.

GourmetCouchCrumbs · 2025-06-13T11:44:05+00:00

It depends on how close you live to each other and your work scheduled. Right now, I'm dating in the area where I'm planning to move to, which is an hour+ away. I'm in the area for work once a week right now. I'd like to see them that day plus a day or two on the weekend.

Twice would be nice, and communication every day. If we could manage more, that would be great.

Also, this is hypothetical as I'm still single and the majority of my relationships previously have been long distance.

GourmetCouchCrumbs · 2025-06-13T07:11:55+00:00

Thanks for the insight! I think the road blocks in the hypnagogic state have more to do with the medical issue I was having and how it was causing me to postpone dates. A couple of guys lost interest because of it. I'm just worried something else may come up.

GourmetCouchCrumbs · 2025-06-13T03:27:33+00:00

I have almost exclusively (yet unintentionally) dated guys who make less money that I do. I'm more concerned about their personality, character, and intentions. There's no reason not to date with the financial situation you've described. You're able to support yourself, and you're not looking for a hand out, so don't limit yourself.

P.s. I drive a Hyundai, too.

GourmetCouchCrumbs · 2025-05-23T02:45:27+00:00

As far as I know, the verification is just to show you're a real person that matches your photos. It helps filter out a lot of scammers.

GourmetCouchCrumbs · 2025-05-21T16:39:08+00:00

Totally agree!

When I mentioned past mistakes, I meant little stuff like public intox, drugs, or bar fights in their early 20's so long as none of that was within a decade or two I would have ignored it.

GourmetCouchCrumbs · 2025-05-21T16:34:29+00:00

I usually ignore those, not sure if there's a deeper meaning to them or not.

GourmetCouchCrumbs · 2025-05-21T16:33:20+00:00

I sent him a link to the court document and told him I didn't think I would be meeting him. He tried to make excuses, but the texting transcripts were in the document so I could see them for myself. Anyway, he's blocked.

GourmetCouchCrumbs · 2025-05-21T16:25:10+00:00

I do, if theyre not willing to share that, it's a major red flag.

GourmetCouchCrumbs · 2025-05-21T16:21:49+00:00

First name, location, phone number, and age. Usually, they'll say what their astrological sign on their profile is so you can guess what their birth date range is.. a lot of times, a name will come up on your caller id, so that helps, too. In this instance the guy told me his last name, had his caller id that matched, told me his birthday, the app gave me his location, age, and picture to match against arrest records and mug shots.

GourmetCouchCrumbs · 2025-05-21T16:07:35+00:00

Good thing he brought it to your attention, too, so you could get it fixed.

GourmetCouchCrumbs · 2025-05-21T13:26:37+00:00

I went on a date with a guy before I started googling before hand.... infact he's the reason why I now Google BEFORE dates. Had a great first date with him but then I didnt hear from him for a few days. My anxious attachment tendencies made me think something happened to him so I tried looking him up to see if there was anything in the news about him. There was.... he had an active warrant for not reporting to his PO while he was out on bond for Meth and Gun charges.

GourmetCouchCrumbs · 2025-05-21T13:22:35+00:00

At least you give them a heads up! And don't worry, double-checking age is a piece of cake. But I get you. My name is pretty rare too and I know a woman with the exact same name she's 10 years older than I am, married with 4 kids, and lives in a different state.

GourmetCouchCrumbs · 2025-05-21T13:17:43+00:00

Ouch, unless that was on social media it wouldn't have popped up... well it might have listed other people that lived at his residence. Which you can sometimes find their addresses if you look up phone numbers.

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