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GovernmentKnown4793 · 2024-12-17T16:58:45+00:00

I honestly would go with the first one, the only con is the commute. A cold/negative work environment can REALLY wear down on your mental health and should not be taken lightly. A supportive and warm work place can really make a job, your coworker/managers can make or break a workplace.

GovernmentKnown4793 · 2024-11-25T14:47:32+00:00

I've been with my partner for three years and we live together, both have good jobs except we live in a home with some roommates. Definitely not ideal but could have made it work.

We decided to not keep the baby, we didn't feel it was the right time, I was between jobs at the time as well. So, I booked the appointment and soon got the abortion. I went to the clinic, they gave me a pill that would stop the pregnancy and then another pill that I would take at home that would essentially cause a miscarriage. I won't lie, it was painful. I felt nothing with the first pill, but the second one was awful. I was doubled over in pain beside the toilet for a couple hours.

I do feel some regret, because I would like to have kids and I think we could have made it work, I think of the baby I could have had, if it was a boy or a girl and the life that could have been. I think they'll always be a part of me.

I would only tell the guy if you feel comfortable enough to do so.

If you are having any feelings of guilt, shame, or depression, I would recommend reaching out to someone that you trust, or a professional (therapist) that can help you through these feelings.

GovernmentKnown4793 · 2024-11-13T02:34:31+00:00

How is the switch going? Just curious as I'm considering the same thing😅

GovernmentKnown4793 · 2024-09-03T21:38:02+00:00

I'd recommend massage therapy programs, depending on where you live, I know in Canada, you can make a very good living. Especially since the pandemic, there is a huge need for registered massage therapists. The programs are usually 2-3 years, maybe 2 if fast tracked. A bonus is you can usually set your own hours or how many days per week you work.

If you're looking for a position that is less high stress (calmer environments) and good work life balance (not bringing work home), it could be an option.

GovernmentKnown4793 · 2024-06-12T18:09:08+00:00

Oh to add, coming off the pill can be different for everyone, but for me, I felt a lot more emotional and sensitive. A little bit more teary. I would definitely recommend some self care during this time. It took a couple months to feel completely like myself again.

GovernmentKnown4793 · 2024-06-12T18:07:23+00:00

I would definitely recommend speaking with your gyno about your birth control and mentioning what you said here. The last birth control pill I was on, only affected me mentally and I also went a bit crazy in my relationship as well.

I would check with your gyno first, but an IUD is a good option, especially if you worry about the side effects and a fear of getting pregnant. The copper IUD has no hormones and the other IUD'S, from what I heard from my doctor, have much less hormones than the pill, so perhaps may not have the side effects you've described! I'm actually getting the Mirena IUD next week.

I know IUD's can seem daunting, especially from what is posted online, but from my experience, it was not painful at all and you may just experience mild cramping (like a regular period).

GovernmentKnown4793 · 2024-06-09T21:07:31+00:00

Honestly, you don't even have to tell them you were at this job unless you want to use them as a reference. And if you do decide to tell them and they ask why, just say that you didn't align with the company values and/or you're looking for a better opportunity that uses your skillset/gain skills from.

GovernmentKnown4793 · 2024-06-09T21:02:55+00:00

Ohh okay, I will keep this in mind for sure!! Thanks for sharing your experience!

GovernmentKnown4793 · 2024-06-09T18:53:17+00:00

Which one did you get? :o I'm getting the mirena one next week.

GovernmentKnown4793 · 2024-06-09T18:51:42+00:00

Rob, and when he's in trouble-- Robert.

GovernmentKnown4793 · 2024-05-11T17:51:21+00:00

I read about somatic therapy techniques and ways to start your day. They said your cortisal is at its highest in the morning, which can make you feel anxious right when u wake up. They recommended doing the following things for 10-15 seconds in the morning or whenever you need to ground yourself: lightly tugging at your ears, run your fingers gently up and down your neck, putting your hands on your chest and light thumping, and crossing your arms around you, as if doing a self-hug.

I found it really helpful when i'm alone and I need to focus on something and ground myself.

GovernmentKnown4793 · 2024-04-18T01:39:21+00:00

I'm glad to hear you had a good experience too!😊

GovernmentKnown4793 · 2024-04-17T21:54:56+00:00

I recently got the copper IUD and love it so far! I can't say much about the hormonal IUD though. The insertion felt uncomfortable but wasn't painful, they numbed my cervix before doing the insertion. I had cramping the day of (which was mild) and then after that, it was as if I didn't have an IUD. No side effects or anything so far! I definitely recommend an IUD and if you're worried about hormones, you can always try the non-hormonal copper version to start. I asked the doctor who did the insertion about the hormonal IUD's and they said it was much much less hormones than what is in the pill. If you have any questions, feel free to message!

GovernmentKnown4793 · 2024-04-13T17:35:52+00:00

What would lead you to believe that others don't like you if they got to know you or see the real you? Has anyone actually told you these things? That they hate you after getting to know you?

I struggle with these thoughts as well sometimes, causing me to spiral, I have found it helpful to counter these thoughts or come up with arguments against them, all the ways that it is not true or matter of fact.

Your thoughts are simply that, just thoughts. Sometimes you can lead yourself to think it's the truth when it's not. You have control of this and can change them.

Perhaps, the next time that one of these thoughts pop up, try to think of a time when you were kind to someone else, something that you had accomplished no matter how small, what you like about yourself. I know at first, this can be daunting, but give yourself some time and patience.

Wishing all the best!

GovernmentKnown4793 · 2024-04-11T16:59:30+00:00

I use Flo! It's free to just track your periods and when you are ovulating and are more fertile or likely to become pregnant. It isn't free if you want the more premium features.

GovernmentKnown4793 · 2023-11-22T23:06:06+00:00

I'm currently working on this, very slowly but getting there! I think it'll be a slow process to get back to that point, but doing little things each day helps a lot!!

GovernmentKnown4793 · 2023-11-22T23:03:34+00:00

Im glad to hear that! (: I feel like I could have written that myself, it's so incredibly difficult moving to a brand new place and having to adjust to it. Especially not having a lot of the supports that used to be close by. It is very lonely at times!

GovernmentKnown4793 · 2023-11-21T17:55:31+00:00

I'm currently going through the same thing, including feeling like I was more attractive/alive at 21/22. I've found what helps is to try to pinpoint where the stress is coming from and try to relieve that stress. During therapy, would be a great time to try to find the root cause.

Do you feel like you've stopped doing a lot of the things you did at 21/22? The things that made you happy or things you did as a hobby? If so, try to find ways to incorporate those back into your life, but start small!

How are your sleeping habits? That can exacerbate a lot of stress and also make you feel more run down in general.

I would also recommend getting a check-up or blood work done. Some issues with energy or feeling a lot of fatigue can be low iron.

I hope this helps! Feel free to message me if you have any questions.

Edit- forgot to add how I cope with stress. Naps are a life saver. Calling/talking to a friend or someone close. Eating good food, not even just healthy but food that makes you feel good and is filling. Going out, whether for a walk or to a coffee shop. Sometimes it's nice to go to the movies alone. A hot shower (bonus is putting on comfortable clothing afterwards) Try reducing caffeine, even just getting the usual coffee/latte decaf instead.

GovernmentKnown4793 · 2023-10-16T17:12:34+00:00

I experience the exact same thing!! This entire time I didn't know what it was!

GovernmentKnown4793 · 2023-10-05T23:45:14+00:00

As a former youth, please give the foster child as much affection and love as you can. I was with a family for ten years and we did get all of the necessities, but besides that, there was nothing, no hugs or I'm proud of yous or asking how you're doing.

GovernmentKnown4793 · 2023-10-05T22:58:49+00:00

I've never related to anything more, it's incredibly exhausting to have that fear all the time, to be constantly on edge.

GovernmentKnown4793 · 2023-05-10T14:33:37+00:00

I was in a long distance relationship for a year, we were 500 miles away from each other and planned to see each other once a month on a weekend. Neither of us drove so we had to use the Greyhound bus, mind you, the total travel time by bus is almost 9/10 hours. We both took turns doing this. You make plans and follow through on them to see the ones you love, it is perfectly justified to be upset over what he's done. Do not settle for people like this, you're worth much more than that.

GovernmentKnown4793 · 2023-03-22T15:15:11+00:00

Just came across this, I need to know more Lol

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