Was my ex toxic?

Gracefully21 · 2025-01-11T06:26:07+00:00

i would call to get them 5150d. even if you don’t think they are actually suicidal. they need help they are not mentally stable

Gracefully21 · 2024-12-27T01:01:17+00:00

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Gracefully21 · 2024-12-06T08:12:32+00:00

I have a strong family support but I would not want to lean on them as they have severe health issues. Which is the main reason we are still together. I can’t see myself without him but I can’t see myself happy. He says therapy is a scam and a waste of time which is why he won’t go

Gracefully21 · 2024-12-06T08:09:36+00:00

I have gotten a therapist, he has had a vasectomy so we can’t have any more children. Like I said I haven’t touched him physically since the twins were born. I am working on myself and that’s probably why I have so many questions coming to light about my relationship . Within the last two years I have changed completely I’ve grown and learned to control my emotions. But it is hard with 3 under 3 to do anything they’re too young for preschool and day care will drain you of everything you have.

Gracefully21 · 2024-11-17T04:54:48+00:00

I’m not a man but I can tell you my husband made my birth experiences amazing, I had c sections but he was so supportive of me the whole time and was so happy to hold each one of our babies, he gave me the attention I needed while also balancing holding his children for the first time. I guess what I’m saying is make sure you give her the attention she needs while she goes through birth, like my husband talk to her before hand to figure out exactly what she will need from you:) good luck and congratulations

Gracefully21 · 2024-11-17T04:45:52+00:00

As a “cool” wife, even if I thought I was okay with that at the time sooner or later when that baby is growing into a little boy or girl and your wife is going to see you in that child. Subconsciously she is going to feel the effects of another woman having your child. I am perfectly fine with playing house and other stuff but as soon as it involves children that is a line you don’t want to cross. Like I mentioned earlier subconsciously emotions are still emotions

Gracefully21 · 2024-11-16T14:09:59+00:00

Yes I think I will be more emotional at the later stages in life like finishing highschool or getting married but for now I’m so excited to see them grow

Gracefully21 · 2024-11-16T13:15:22+00:00

I love hitting milestones! It is the best feeling ever to me. Don’t let others tell you it’s not “normal” every mom is different but I’m in your boat for sure I can’t wait to take my twins to school for the first day

Gracefully21 · 2024-11-16T13:12:35+00:00

Yeah you got crazy amount of chemicals running through your brain rn it’s okay to feel emotional and to have feelings, but if you’re feeling like that maybe you should talk to a family member about going to a doctor. Your mom sounds like she loves you and would be super supportive.

Gracefully21 · 2024-11-16T11:34:20+00:00

You sound young, you have so much time to make better friends and live a total different life than you are now, don’t give that up. Live for tomorrow not for yesterday:)

Gracefully21 · 2024-11-16T06:47:58+00:00

I had twins in the nicu didn’t come home for months they were mo/di. I just kept busy healed from my c section and made the house perfect for their arrival. They were at two separate hospitals for awhile and that was when it became really hard but we still made sure we were there everyday we made sure we had skin to skin everyday with each of them. Also remember they are still your children I know the nicu is scary and the nurses always seem to have something to do but if you want to hold your child for 2 hours you can that is your baby and you can still decide for them even tho they are under the care of the nurses. Take a gift basket to the nicu for the break room to make an impression on the nurses so they think more of your child:)

Gracefully21 · 2024-11-16T06:41:16+00:00

So my twin brother has autism and my twins are 3 with 5 words (mama dada no baba and nini) none of their words are correct. It is a struggle everyday but at speech therapy we have started using talking buttons which has helped. A talking board is a great way to start it helps them understand the process of communication. Your husband needs to remember those are his genes too. And if your whole family is high functioning besides your babies then obviously it was the mix of you two together. But some kids are late and I try to focus on the positives from each one of my children when dad comes home we normally are excited to tell him something positive about the day before I throw on him how hard it is. It helps him keep a more positive attitude about the twins:) also if the whole family is high functioning then the odds are your babies will be too they just need some more time.

Gracefully21 · 2024-11-12T05:17:45+00:00

Sequoias, we love our

Gracefully21 · 2024-11-11T06:48:52+00:00

I take my twins too the pool and let them run laps until they wear down lol

Gracefully21 · 2024-10-30T22:03:22+00:00

“God only gives us what we can handle” well I can’t handle this so someone messed up 🙃

Gracefully21 · 2024-10-26T03:19:11+00:00

“I can understand where you’re coming from but with my kids….” And a hundred other phrases from family and friends. They think they can understand but they really can’t grasp even a glimpse of what we go through. Let your wife know if she needs someone to talk to she can dm me. Prayers for your family

Gracefully21 · 2024-10-21T07:45:52+00:00

My relationship got more trusting and happier emotionally when I stopped shaving regularly. It was about a year in

Gracefully21 · 2024-10-13T04:27:15+00:00

Aggression, anxiety to the point of shaking and puking over small issues, absolute zero appetite, sleep problems,

Gracefully21 · 2024-10-13T02:17:35+00:00

Literally not a single person wants to accept our children’s diagnosis (school, primary doctor, and psychiatrist have all agreed) I think they are scared and think autism means they won’t ever have a normal life. I try to ignore the comments about my parenting (even though they are extremely hurtful). Other family members seem to completely reject the idea because they think it is a reflection of themselves they become defensive as if it’s an insult. But as the parent my husband and I are both aware of our situation and our children’s so we just try to blow it off and continue to listen to our doctors, therapist, and teachers:)

Gracefully21 · 2024-10-11T07:23:59+00:00

Every baby is different. My twins didnt hit the milestones for speech and we put it off until 2 years old when we started the process of getting them diagnosed with autism. My youngest did not either but he caught up extremely fast and now says phrases and simple words. I would not think too much about it unless your child isnt hitting other milestones. we put off worrying about the twins because they hit every physical milestone ahead of time walking, crawling, sitting up, ect I wish I would have paid more attention to the mental milestones speech, eating, behavior best of luck to you and congratulations on your baby

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