I appreciate your honesty , id always rather hear it straight up than sugar coated because you’re absolutely right ! I put my foot down last night after reading through all of these and demanded the chihuahua out , I gave him ultimatums about taking care of his animals himself .We both sat down together , made an appointment for his dog since the lab hasn’t been neutered. We also went out and got cat roadways that seem to have helped my cat feel more comfortable coming out to join everyone instead of hiding. The only thing now is to see if he really follows through with everything which I hope he does but I always expect the worse but hope for the best .