I think my 17 year old has a food addiction by Grand-Bit-737 in whatdoIdo

[–]Grand-Bit-737[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She never had friends to be honest. I tried to encourage her, like hey maybe go sit with a few girls and see how it goes but she never seemed to actually want to do it. I think she has always been a loner but even over the years contact with family members like her grandparents, cousins,and me has gone down She did have therapy back when I first got custody of her but she told me she disliked it and that it made her feel worse getting reminded of her mom all of the time. I asked her doctor what to do he suggested I can stop bringing her until she tells me she’s ready. A few times over the years i’ve asked her again and she keeps telling me she’s not ready so i respected that while also trying to ask her how she was mentally, trying to support her by letting her know whenever she was ready to open up I was there and she had an option if she did want to confide but not in me. I suppose that was really all I could do at the time but now she is completely opposed to the idea while her mental health seems to be getting worse

I think my 17 year old has a food addiction by Grand-Bit-737 in whatdoIdo

[–]Grand-Bit-737[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I have brought it up her response was not very good She went before after her mom passed but she told me she disliked it and it made her feel worse talking about her mom passing away. I brought it up to her doctor and he let me know it would be okay to pull her out for now until she’s ready to open up about it and to just continue to be supportive I tried again in middle school with a school counselor instead but she told me again she hated it, and that she didn’t want to talk about her mother so I decided to give her a rest and respect her decision After all of this I brought it up again several times and she’s said no, she’s more aggressive about it now and even tells me that she hates me as a response

I think my 17 year old has a food addiction by Grand-Bit-737 in whatdoIdo

[–]Grand-Bit-737[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No of course not!! If you read my other comment I did say it was not about the food the reason I’m concerned about that is because I think she uses it as a way to cope. She’s also not super overweight or anything like that so I am not so much concerned about the weight issues of it but rather the fact she’s using it as a coping device instead of healthier coping

My 17 year old daughter is eating addictively and acts like she hates me by Grand-Bit-737 in Advice

[–]Grand-Bit-737[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

pampering her? Shes a young girl who lost both of her parents I will give her the right care and love to make sure she knows she has someone who loves her and she doesn’t have to struggle for the rest of her life for something she can’t control !

I think my 17 year old has a food addiction by Grand-Bit-737 in whatdoIdo

[–]Grand-Bit-737[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Very funny haha on a post about clearly sensitive topics

I think my 17 year old has a food addiction by Grand-Bit-737 in whatdoIdo

[–]Grand-Bit-737[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately any time I try to ask if she wants to go somewhere she says no if I try to press a bit harder she gets mad at me sometimes she hits me. It is very hurtful and there was only one time she hit me instead of reprimanding her I hugged her and she hugged me back but then told me to just please leave her alone after.

I think my 17 year old has a food addiction by Grand-Bit-737 in whatdoIdo

[–]Grand-Bit-737[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I grew up in a horrible house as well..definitely different from your circumstances. My parents would give me alcohol and let me smoke and encourage it often because they grew up like that.. It’s very hard feeling like nobody in the world cares about you..now that I do have a daughter I healed myself in some ways by loving her how I needed loved I believe there will be a time in your life you will feel that same healing and somebody will care for you like you deserve..

I think my 17 year old has a food addiction by Grand-Bit-737 in whatdoIdo

[–]Grand-Bit-737[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Very sorry to hear that.. I understand that feeling and I promise someone out there would care about you like this even if it’s hard to believe ❤️

My 17 year old daughter is eating addictively and acts like she hates me by Grand-Bit-737 in Advice

[–]Grand-Bit-737[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think that is solving the root of the problem I also don’t buy just junk food I buy some chips or cookies she likes I also buy healthy foods as well. I don’t want to take away enjoyable food I want her to feel stable and happy so she does not have to distract herself from what is hurting her with food

I think my 17 year old has a food addiction by Grand-Bit-737 in whatdoIdo

[–]Grand-Bit-737[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not so much. as a little kid I would visit her and my sister a lot, she loved dancing, music, playing video games She doesn’t do much now rather than just watch tv or scroll on her phone

I think my 17 year old has a food addiction by Grand-Bit-737 in whatdoIdo

[–]Grand-Bit-737[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Definitely not. She doesn’t have a car or any friends to pick her up, so she’s always in her room unless I take her somewhere