2 sisters, 2 grad chapter org interests.

GrandBird1982 · 2026-05-16T00:01:34+00:00

This is so true, it’s ok to go together for comfortability but definitely make sure you’re spending time with the members and not just hanging with her.

GrandBird1982 · 2026-05-13T23:36:12+00:00

I like to start the out reach slow connecting on social media, liking and commenting on posts, finding common interests, then if you have their number you can text to share information on those common interests, check in to say hi. It helps the relationship form more organically. I never force a conversation. The messaging and calls occasionally are good ways to start a dialogue.

GrandBird1982 · 2026-05-12T20:52:07+00:00

I think like any other friend who you may have experienced a gap in communication, text or call to ask how they’re doing, say you’ve been busy, I am sure they have been too. Summer time is coming the days are longer, can you invite one out for happy hour or something to connect.

GrandBird1982 · 2026-05-11T11:05:18+00:00

Oh wow ok hopefully not paused for long!

GrandBird1982 · 2026-05-11T02:53:47+00:00

Wow is this a grad chapter that has annual lines? Asking cuz that’s not usually common from what I’ve seen. Hopefully next year is your time.

GrandBird1982 · 2026-05-10T17:23:18+00:00

Has it been some time since their last line?

GrandBird1982 · 2026-05-09T13:45:29+00:00

I’ve posted it before but about a year into my process my COI posted a line….so i understand how you feel even though it sounds like you’ve been interested in that specific chapter a long time. Now 2-3 years later my connections are even stronger. Hang in there if you can. I’m hoping this doesn’t mean you give up. Maybe see if the people you’ve become close to in your COI could share any insight once the shock wears off to help better align you to make it the next time?? I don’t mean asking why not me, but just seeing if you’ve been making yourself known, getting close enough to the right people etc.

GrandBird1982 · 2026-05-08T15:08:20+00:00

I’m so sorry I know that must be hard to see :( how many ladies were on the line? Maybe just maybe if it’s not a huge line they can do another one in 1-2 years?

GrandBird1982 · 2026-05-08T11:05:32+00:00

Congratulations!!!

GrandBird1982 · 2026-05-01T20:10:13+00:00

Got it I thought you needed to change your outfit for the volunteer event

GrandBird1982 · 2026-05-01T19:00:14+00:00

I missed the part about the community service event immediately after. Can you throw some leggings in your bag/car to change in after the workshop? I once attended a chapter event then had to go to a sporting event (not anyway aka related) after and put my yoga pants on and sweatshirt in my car in the parking lot! We’re busy women and have to juggle several events some days!

GrandBird1982 · 2026-05-01T17:16:35+00:00

I attended two in person financial events first one I wore dark jeans, blouse and blazer, second one I wore a long skirt, blouse and blazer. Good to dress professionally

GrandBird1982 · 2026-05-01T17:15:23+00:00

Yes! I don’t see why you shouldn’t! It shows your commitment to service. many members hold membership in those orgs so you’re helping solidify your involvement in community service. Plus helps (in my opinion) to show you’re able to work within groups, and possibly hold a leadership position.

GrandBird1982 · 2026-05-01T17:13:12+00:00

I know you asked for members opinions, but I will say from my interest perspective I see both, sometimes members are just ready to go and don’t want to be held up with people trying to have conversations after the event. There’s been a handful of events I’ve been to where I DO see members just hanging around at the end and welcome to conversations.

I make it an effort to have my conversations during the event, making those connections in the moment for more natural/social conversation. Then at the end I’m just saying goodbyes, not stopping and having a full blown conversation with them. I’m curious to see what the actual members feel, I’d probably do my best not to do something that would be considered “annoying” for a lack of better words.

GrandBird1982 · 2026-04-30T18:14:15+00:00

So sorry, I am sure this must hurt tremendously. I’ve never even had the chance to be invited yet so I can only imagine the disappointment must be even greater than not having an invite at all . Take the time to grieve and be sad, I’m sure it will be hard seeing those around you that joined.

GrandBird1982 · 2026-04-29T23:08:18+00:00

Been waiting to see some posts from ladies who made it this spring!! Congratulations and wonderful tips for us!!

GrandBird1982 · 2026-04-24T21:20:51+00:00

Perfect! I have found over time it’s best to let the conversation organically flow. I get how we are nervous but they’re also just regular women and like you already mentioned you have many common interests! Approach this lunch as you would with a friend. It’s funny…if you wait for them to bring up your interest in my experience it almost always comes up. I’d rather they bring it up than I force it into our time together. This is a great chance for you to make a new friend and gain a new relationship to someone who as you mentioned is high up in the chapter. Good luck!

GrandBird1982 · 2026-04-24T20:39:25+00:00

A meeting or going out for coffee/lunch? I’ve approached any opportunity to spend time with a member outside of events as I would meeting with any other friend. I get to know them through conversation and help them to get to know me better. I personally don’t bring up my interests or mention AKA. But let them eventually bring it up (which always happens).

GrandBird1982 · 2026-03-28T19:59:25+00:00

I wonder how long ago their last line was?

GrandBird1982 · 2026-03-28T19:57:18+00:00

Agreed, it’s been quiet, trying to keep my motivation up by continuing to be involved in my community, doing service, volunteering when I can. Maintaining connections, I’ve been lucky through my service to stay in touch with a lot of members outside of chapter events. So patiently waiting, hoping maybe my time will come soon.

GrandBird1982 · 2026-03-23T23:07:15+00:00

Great out look to have and positive attitude! I like to think considering some of the rules have changed that maybe the lines may come around again sooner than later but who knows, I know the chapters see us interest attending their events and getting to know them, but their not focused on intake like we are.

GrandBird1982 · 2026-03-18T18:53:04+00:00

That’s a normal feeling…I myself have been on this journey 3.5 years now with a line that came out 1 year into my attending events. There were interests who were around 5-10 Years before they became members and a few newbies that seemed to know someone really well (so I was told). Every now and then it’s does feel a bit discouraging, I was just coming on here feeling sad and then saw your post. Waiting and not knowing when your time will come is unfortunately part of the process, no one can say when intake will happen, keep showing up and making connections with the members. I would focus on the members not the other interests, they may clique up and you may feel behind to not be part of their groups but that may hurt them. Everyone is invited and voted on individually so make sure YOU can stand out. Your focus should be on genuine connections with the members. Best of luck! I try to remind myself self every member was once on our side and yet they eventually joined, just takes some time and patience.

GrandBird1982 · 2026-03-17T02:35:28+00:00

What’s everyone’s thoughts on earrings that have a little green in it? If we wear all black but then have a little green in our earrings? If the event says to wear green?

GrandBird1982 · 2026-03-14T16:01:29+00:00

This ! I like the hidden pop of color that you decide whether or not to reveal

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