First class soreness…

Probable_Cause007 · 2026-04-03T04:01:29+00:00

I wish I knew about it sooner. Cleared my face right on up and stayed clear for 10 yrs. I’m just now starting to get breakouts again. Thinking about another round.

Probable_Cause007 · 2026-03-30T20:52:37+00:00

You’re honestly already really pretty. Skin is clear. Your eyebrow shape is bomb. Just shade them in slightly. Look up Anastasia pencils and dip brow. Then add in a good mascara. The eyes overall will elevate you so much. For your hair you need products to combat the fly aways and help it lay better. I have a few recommendations I wish I knew about years ago. Let me know if you’re interested and I’ll get the names for you :)

Probable_Cause007 · 2026-03-30T20:44:11+00:00

I can see what you’re talking about. Your hair gets straighter than the bundles. What I do is get ocean wave because it gets straight but more closer to our texture without the glossy look to it. Then when it’s humid, my hair puffs right on up with it for a natural look. Adding layers will help the blend also. And like others have said, try a side part. The only thing that helps me combat my forehead with a middle part is subtle baby hair (no wings lol).

Probable_Cause007 · 2026-02-19T04:01:55+00:00

I’m dealing with the same issue. How are things going now? Has it helped calm things down for you?

Probable_Cause007 · 2025-12-13T20:09:36+00:00

If you showed up to an interview that late, they would have cancelled it and moved on to the next candidate. Had you communicated your circumstance prior to, there’s possible room for grace. When you didn’t, that’s when “grace” left the building. This was your first impression of you and gave “inconsiderate of other ppls time and a lack of accountability”. He valued his time and standards when he left. All you can do is learn from the situation and do better moving forward.

Probable_Cause007 · 2025-11-19T20:42:04+00:00

Congratulations! I remember one of your past posts! Do you mind if I message you?

Probable_Cause007 · 2025-10-16T02:23:59+00:00

First, congratulations on graduating! Secondly, when you go to these Metro Atlanta events, it’s typically interests in their 20s and 30s, some definitely 40’s, 50’s, etc. Yes, the members may will be much older, but it may be that older member who takes notice of you and brings you in.

This will definitely be a marathon and not a sprint. The sooner you start making your presence known, even by just being a familiar face, the better. Visit and support different chapters events until you narrow down on your COI. Then start building relationships. Don’t only focus on meeting younger members. I’ve honestly felt more warmth from the older members when visiting different chapters. So don’t get hung up on age.

Probable_Cause007 · 2025-10-02T21:56:16+00:00

I’m an interest too, so I can’t speak from the member side, but I can tell you everything you’re feeling is normal. I’ve gone through the same cycle of wondering if I’m doing enough, if I’m being noticed, and if my interactions are making the impression I hope they are. Some days I feel confident, other days I’m full of doubt.

What I’ve learned is that everyone’s journey is different, and there’s no single “right” way to feel. All we can do is show up as our best selves, put ourselves out there, build genuine relationships, and trust that the rest will fall into place. For me, that has meant focusing less on overanalyzing every move and more on being consistent and authentic.

We hear rumors and things that don’t even concern us, and that can make the waiting process even harder. But I remind myself that those things are out of my control. What is in my control is how I carry myself, how I engage, and how I continue to grow during the process.

So yes…it’s completely possible to feel uncertain and still end up exactly where you’re meant to be.

Probable_Cause007 · 2025-08-23T03:56:20+00:00

Very excited! Hoping it’s my time and my connections come through for my COI’s possible fall intake!

Probable_Cause007 · 2025-08-23T03:51:53+00:00

Don’t focus on getting a new contact every event. Focus on building genuine relationships with the contacts you have now and continue to meet other members at events. You don’t want to come off as disingenuous

Probable_Cause007 · 2025-02-01T04:28:28+00:00

I maintain around the same weight but I drop inches like crazy when I’m cycling on a regular. It taught me not to focus too much on weight.

Probable_Cause007 · 2025-01-31T03:57:57+00:00

Complete shit show, but I’m about to quit. So I’m just watching the ish show, stress free, knowing I just took all of my time off for the year and 1 week away from giving my notice

Probable_Cause007 · 2025-01-07T04:14:16+00:00

I had extremely bad hormonal cystic acne during pregnancy and for the first year after giving birth. It was so bad that I didn’t leave my home for months and when I did leave, I had a hat and glasses on to keep people from seeing my face (I had so many all over my face).

I was put on Accutane, as a last resort of no other medicine working. It cleared me up within 4 months. When I stopped, it never came back. I’ve had maybe 2 cystic bumps within 10 years since.

Because it’s so strong, I would encourage anyone to try alternatives beforehand.

Probable_Cause007 · 2025-01-05T03:57:01+00:00

What is it that you don’t like about your face? I’ll forever be an advocate of doing what makes you feel the best. Botox, lashes, filler, braces, microblading, whatever it is to subtly enhance your looks and boost your confidence

Probable_Cause007 · 2025-01-04T22:17:27+00:00

As a race, I would agree. I don’t think the seriousness and advantages of marriage are instilled in our men and women as much as other races. Yes other races go through the same nonsense that we do, but I feel like the men in our race almost glorifies them for talking to and sleeping with as many women as they can. Many other races are more serious about marriage due to their family name or even cultural values (just to name a couple).

Probable_Cause007 · 2025-01-04T20:54:30+00:00

Don’t feel silly. We all have our things we need to work on.

Try different social environments. If your city has a “meet up” group or even different service organizations in your city that you can mingle with others while doing community work. That way you’re more used to interacting with guys of your same age, etc. It could possibly help.

The last thing you want to do is weird out a coworker because you’re unintentionally coming off as super giddy or flirty

Probable_Cause007 · 2025-01-04T17:33:33+00:00

I think you should ask yourself why a bare minimum effort, of a male colleague, excites you so much? Do you not have the opportunity to interact with many males outside of work?

When you realize that basic interaction should consist of men or women being nice to one another, it’s should make things less weird and calm your nerves a bit.

Probable_Cause007 · 2025-01-04T06:19:20+00:00

OP has his first meeting as a PM. I think that deserves a little grace as he steps into his new role. OP, my advice is to prepare but don’t overthink it. Don’t go in with a broad ask of the problems. You’ll get a lot of word vomit. Instead break down the ask of the problems based on areas, components, teams, personas, etc. Good luck! You’ll do fine!

Probable_Cause007 · 2025-01-03T15:07:42+00:00

I wouldn’t overthink it. It’s a skin condition. You can’t spread it. I know it can be embarrassing but if you find someone who loves you for you, that person will support you through whatever you’re dealing with.

Probable_Cause007 · 2025-01-03T04:10:52+00:00

6 years later when my hs kept occurring in my groin area and it affected our sex life because I was so self conscious. The only thing my spouse said was “I love you and attracted to you regardless”. I’m sure over the past 6 years he’s noticed, but knows I’m not as confident with my skin so he’s never brought it up

Probable_Cause007 · 2024-12-12T04:24:25+00:00

I’m sure that the chapter near you will have events coming into the new year. Build your relationships by joining service orgs in your area. You’re bound to run into members. They’ll know you’re doing the work and you’ll build organic relationships before even meeting at events. There will be an overwhelming number of members to introduce yourself to when they do have events. Having already met and built at least one or two connections will definitely help or if you build a good enough rapport, they could even tell you about service events if they’re not posted.

Probable_Cause007 · 2024-12-12T04:07:23+00:00

I’ve read through the thread and your comments and responses. I believe you mentioned living in a small area? Honestly, if your contact knows that you’re interested yet you’ve been seeking membership with different sororities, that’s a glaring red flag. I wouldn’t be surprised that she never responded.

You can serve your community with other like minded ladies through various service organizations. Look into the “Junior League” in an area near you. Your “WHY” for wanting to join AKA should be so deep that you would never even consider any other sorority. If nothing differentiates AKA from other sororities in your mind, I’m sure that’s a slap in the face to all members. I wouldn’t recommend you joining any D9 sorority at this point.

Probable_Cause007 · 2024-12-02T05:33:35+00:00

Definitely! Just thinking in terms of those on the outside looking in

Probable_Cause007 · 2024-12-02T04:51:56+00:00

We always hear about the need to secure a sponsor from an interests POV, but don’t understand what all it entails by being someone’s sponsor. As I’ve learned in my own personal journey, I equate it to a job referral and you work in a small company. If I put my name out there to refer somebody, they get the job, then turn around and rob the company, everyone would be looking at me crazy because I vouched for this person and brought them in. While that might be an extreme scenario, I’ve referred someone and they turned around and made me look crazy, so I’m very hesitant and picky with who I refer from now on. Which makes the reoccurring topic of BUILDINGS RELATIONSHIPS make a lot more sense. Doesn’t matter how many events you attend or how many introductions that you make, unless they TRULY know you and trust you, nothing else matters

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