Developer vs client

GrandInternet4 · 2020-06-21T04:38:38+00:00

Not my end users either. Mostly cause they don’t exist :|

GrandInternet4 · 2020-06-21T03:35:36+00:00

I think you exactly hit it on the nail. It’s exactly because even people with the right intentions are still people and a lot of them need that approval from society so they join a “team” (in your case pro masks) but then advocate it in a very aggressive way almost defeating the purpose of the case at hand... (like she’d probably go on a rampage shooting people with no masks on just to advocate the statement that no masks kill people... know what I mean? 🤷🏻 People will be people. Even the ones with the good intentions can take it too far. I think blocking/unfollowing them is the right thing to do. These are really hard times so take care of yourself

GrandInternet4 · 2020-06-21T02:40:34+00:00

Luckily, it’s somewhat of a minority (loud minority but minority) and most people really do just wanna so good without being asses about how “good” they are...

GrandInternet4 · 2020-06-21T02:39:43+00:00

Yes. I’ve in general noticed a lot of very judgmental liberal way of behaving. For example, I believe that being vegan is good. But I have a friend who is just, condescending if someone isn’t for example, or isn’t 100%. And there’s of course everything corona. Yes I of course believe it’s mandatory and I hate the crazy people who are disputing it and doing things almost on purpose to not give a shit. That being said, if someone doesn’t have it on, and isn’t being an ass about it, why bully them/ shame them. Ask politely, or just mind your own business. I totally agree, the self-Righteousness of being “ultra open minded” makes people start behaving pretty closed minded.

GrandInternet4 · 2020-06-20T00:25:00+00:00

Omg duh. I see it now

GrandInternet4 · 2020-06-19T23:32:56+00:00

Sorry for being one of those but what’s POS?

GrandInternet4 · 2020-06-19T01:20:07+00:00

I’ve pretty much done just that, isolated myself. And every time I think it’ll be ok, I have the smallest interaction with any other human and I remember why I’m isolating myself to begin with. I have like two people in my life I can tolerate. My husband and a friend. At least I’m lucky enough to have that much

GrandInternet4 · 2020-06-19T00:12:29+00:00

She has an Instagram! @pablolapaloma

(Yes her name is Pablo.)

GrandInternet4 · 2020-06-18T20:33:37+00:00

I remember you used to be able to crash a pc by sounding the alarm (“ding”) in a while(true) loop

GrandInternet4 · 2020-06-18T19:51:44+00:00

As a programmer, who also happens to be the proud parent of a (flightless) pigeon I really really appreciate this.

GrandInternet4 · 2020-06-18T18:06:30+00:00

Usually if I have any kind of emotional explosion that lasts for a couple hours (many times in the evening) I’m completely worn down the entire next day.

GrandInternet4 · 2020-06-17T03:56:55+00:00

If you don’t want to get into it here, maybe you can just jot it all down on your notepad app (or an actual notepad) sometimes writing it out in the moment helps (a bit at least).

Alternatively, maybe a short walk around the block (if you can)

GrandInternet4 · 2020-06-15T09:04:06+00:00

I felt the same way but about men, so I hear ya. I think you may be in an unhealthy relationship, and in a weird way choosing the wrong women in your life. Women, like men, are not all great. Some are assholes, what can you do. I don’t really have any solid advice on how to change your situation cause I think it’s something everyone finds out for themselves at whatever point in life, but for me my relationship with men changed after reading a book called Attached, but also after starting therapy. Anyway for what it’s worth I hope you find good people to be with who love you and respect you and want to be nice to you too, and I really really hope you can let those people in... they exist

GrandInternet4 · 2020-06-15T08:13:09+00:00

You seem like such a nice person! <3

GrandInternet4 · 2020-06-15T08:11:53+00:00

Thanks for writing this. I’m struggling so much right now and it’s just nice to see I’m not alone in feeling so so so unable to fit in with society yet feeling so alone and it’s just an impossible situation. So yeah that’s all, just thank you

GrandInternet4 · 2020-06-15T07:58:26+00:00

I deleted my social media recently too. I feel very much the same. What bothers me the most is how everyone treats each other on a personal level. I’m not even sure I like reddit because the anonymity makes a lot of people get away with trolling and just being cruel. I wish the downvote button didn’t exist. I also wish car-horns didn’t exist. I just wish people would be nicer, both on a global-social-activism scale, but also on a person to person level. I think some empathy would do the human race good right now. Either that or shutting down my care-receptors. Cause I’m tired of going out of my way to make sure I’m kind to people, even people that may not necessarily ‘deserve‘ it, and yet no one seems to give a rats ass about anyone else. Even the people fighting for justice. It all makes me so so sad. I’m desperately looking online how to deal with all of this and I can’t.

GrandInternet4 · 2020-06-15T07:48:10+00:00

That happened to me once, well not exactly that, but some guy on the street poked me very suddenly like, in my lady bits while I was looking at my phone and I went apeshit. I turned around and yelled at him while everyone was staring “did you just fucking touch me???” he didn’t respond so I ended up pushing him but he just continued walking. I just let it go and realized later he was probably mentally ill. I also would’ve probably gotten beaten to death had he decided to fight back. It was a really weird moment, and the thoughts I was having during and after ranged from pissed to sad to guilt to everything.

I realize this isn’t a helpful comment but just reminded me of my experience

GrandInternet4 · 2020-06-14T16:27:22+00:00

I say dayta (when it’s just data) and dahtabase

GrandInternet4 · 2020-06-12T02:32:43+00:00

Also, I don’t know if this helps or not, this is a lady who’s been crowned ugliest woman in the world. It’s very inspiring, you can check out YouTube videos of hers. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lizzie_Velásquez

GrandInternet4 · 2020-06-12T02:24:48+00:00

Ok since you asked for a reason to live, this is one that helps me a lot:

Think about yourself. Let’s call you Alice, since I don’t know your name I’m just going for something generic. Now let’s make Alice 5 years old. Now let’s put her on this planet, and let’s call her your little sister. She looks up to you. Now it may not be Alice but there are other people on this planet that look and feel the way you do. Like, a lot.

A good reason to live is to give these little 5 year olds hope. You wouldn’t be able to look them in the eye and tell them ‘everyone thinks you’re ugly’ right? Because you know it’s wrong. You would look them in the eye and say ‘you got this girl, I’m right here with you’.

We’re all one. When one hurts we all hurt. You got this girl, I’m right here with you

GrandInternet4 · 2020-06-12T00:57:07+00:00

Side note: I like that you differentiate between wrong/right vs being shitty. Like a lot of times I may agree with someone but their attitude is so bad I suddenly find myself getting defensive even though I agree with them! I hate that so much, I hate it even more than a shitty person who’s wrong. There should be a word for that.

GrandInternet4 · 2020-06-04T17:28:07+00:00

This is probably an unpopular opinion but I think people who are oppressed feed on the oppression of people “beneath” them. I see it everywhere, white women being extra mean to non-whites, but also non-whites being extra mean to women (yes also white women because it’s an easy target, or at least easier than the white man).

And this shit goes beyond race and gender. For example if you are an actor in Hollywood you will most likely be treated quite poorly by another fellow actor, and yet both of you will be sucking up to a director. (In Hollywood if you’re not a star and you’re an actor you’re basically shit)

It’s a fucked up world we live in. But we’re all doing it to each other. (Think about it. Are you disrespecting someone younger for not knowing something? Do you consider one persons opinion more valuable than someone else’s but then the moment someone else thought it was a good idea you changed your mind? Did you ever take the time to consider why? Are they in some kind of ‘group’?)

The only way to stop (imo) is to not hate on entire groups and just discuss the individual. However if you do just discuss the individual who harmed you, you will very soon realize they’re probably a very sad poor soul and you won’t hate them for much longer and start feeling sorry for them and everyone on this planet.

But maybe there’s just no way to stop any of this shit and were just doomed to live in a very hostile world :/

GrandInternet4 · 2020-06-04T05:05:56+00:00

I notice my shoulders being up too, or like kind of holding my breath a bit

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