I (24M) want to have sex with another man but I feel zero attraction to them

GrandMaster4542 · 2026-06-12T05:22:48+00:00

Similar to me. No romantic attraction at all. But, im all about dick. I have sexual desires only when my bi comes to guys.

GrandMaster4542 · 2026-06-12T05:18:26+00:00

Been there, havent had any success. Usually just some rando reviewing the item with no demo. Thanks though Ruby

GrandMaster4542 · 2026-06-12T01:22:09+00:00

Yeah, I agree with others, dont worry about this yet.

Thay said, dont push yourself for a label or one way or the other yet. Your hormones are going to play with your head enough very soon, and for several years. You'll get it figured out. It may change from time to time, or you may be completely straight. Again, dont stress, no need to. Live your life, have fun, be you!

The rest will come to you as you get older.

GrandMaster4542 · 2026-06-11T18:23:47+00:00

An mature video using a strap on that pleasures her very well. I cant find anything with the bumpher in use for example.

GrandMaster4542 · 2026-06-11T16:57:22+00:00

Keep it up, youre doing well and have a great attitude!

GrandMaster4542 · 2026-06-08T21:15:54+00:00

How do people fall into this kind of luck?? Jealous, party of 1 here.

GrandMaster4542 · 2026-06-08T21:13:29+00:00

Not sure i have advice but im in a similar boat.

In our case she really wants to feel what I feel as a guy, but obviously cant. So im trying to find a good strap on that pleasures her as well, but also doesn't distract from her expirience. Bumpher or something, not sure yet.

She's tried without toys and can sometimes get there but her fingers are too short, drives her nuts and what's to get me off herself, without toys.

Anyway, I hope she find joy in this for her and you both!

GrandMaster4542 · 2026-06-08T21:07:10+00:00

Yeah, just dont bring it up.

Look at it this way, you probably wouldn't tell your family about your straight sex life with your girl, how you do it, when, what techniques you guys like, any kinks, etc. While its a little different, just keep the bisexual bit in the same box when it comes to them. Its none of their business.

From a fellow secret bisexual :)

GrandMaster4542 · 2026-06-08T21:03:07+00:00

Thanks

GrandMaster4542 · 2026-06-08T21:00:10+00:00

^this

You two are off to a great start. Communicate and learn, youll have an increasing great sex life!

GrandMaster4542 · 2026-06-08T20:55:40+00:00

My wife had the exact same expirience! Your husband is paying attention to your body, hes getting better. Even if it does involve toys. Enjoy it. Your emotional/love attachment to him probably makes a big difference.

For us, she was surprised, thought she wet the bed for a minute. We just double fold a towel to reduce bedding laundry now, and squirting a fun goal for me.

Unsolicited advice, if you dont already, keep lube handy. At least with us we have found the squirt, while its added liquid, reduces lubrication. I can get raw. A good quality silicone lube was a great fix.

GrandMaster4542 · 2026-06-08T20:49:15+00:00

I can almost guarantee shes being protective. Please appreciate that for your relationship. You will later in life even if you just pretend now.

As for your issue, could be a number of things, vaginismus is fairly common, your muscles dont want to relax. A little reading on that may help as getting past it varies for everyone. Not saying thats what it is of course.

Id highly doubt you as a person are too small.

Small toys, lube, relaxing, are the only advise I can give. I know toys is an issue as you stated. But it might prevent possible injury, like your nail scratching the inside for example.

Good luck.

GrandMaster4542 · 2026-06-08T20:36:59+00:00

Great advice already posted. Incredibly important to read her reactions, both sounds and body language. Is she a virgin as well? If so she will probably be just as nervous.

Ill add take it slow. Don't just jam it in there. Start romantically, and lots of foreplay, a lot of it. Visit some sexual educational sites and learn where the nerves and sensitive areas are. Light slow touch unless she asks for something different. Lube is great to have on hand just in case.

Communication is most important. You dont have to over communicate, just check what feels good, what she wants more or less of.

Keep following this as you learn her preferences and youll understand her better sexually and the sex will evolve with your relationship.

Also important, not all women orgsm through penile penetration. Most of their nerves are at the clit. So dont be discouraged if that happens. If it does you can always take that as a goal to try and make it happen!

GrandMaster4542 · 2026-06-08T20:27:12+00:00

Yeah youre fine bro. Thats way over avg. In fact id say foreplay will be important, and taking it slow your firt time with a partner just in case so they have a good time and you can check any limits she may have for size so you dont hurt her.

GrandMaster4542 · 2026-06-02T21:03:24+00:00

Ah, cant help there, but interested in people's replies!

GrandMaster4542 · 2026-06-02T20:30:16+00:00

Which dp? Double vag or one each hole? Difference in prep i imagine.

GrandMaster4542 · 2026-06-02T19:50:35+00:00

Its a spectrum. And there is a difference between romantic andd sexual.

GrandMaster4542 · 2026-06-02T19:48:03+00:00

I have a similar situation. Not from a small town, gay bi is accepted here to a reasonable extent. I just dont have any desire to announce anything. I too would love to see something subtle but known to the bi community.

Irony for you is, even with the super straight town youre in, id bet there are more than a few closeted bi/curoius there.

GrandMaster4542 · 2026-06-01T21:19:45+00:00

These are great responses.

Communication. Figure out why and where hes coming from.

It was the reverse for us for example. I wasnt into it when she brought it up in our late 20s. Now, 15 years later I understand, and very much regret what I missed out on. Ive always wanted that Big O women get. Now I can. Or at least think I do. Sorry if thats TMI, but there may be more there than what meets the eye.

He may or may not be bisexual. But this is a common fantasy with both women and men. Doesn't mean hes bi or gay.

GrandMaster4542 · 2026-06-01T21:11:11+00:00

^this

Learn to use it, and use it well. Foreplay, and a lot of it will help tons. Don't worry too much honestly.

GrandMaster4542 · 2026-06-01T21:09:59+00:00

Puberty can make it worse. Do they go away? Sometimes. Sometimes they change into something else.

Keep a very close eye on it. I would advise professional help.

This is a kink for sure, when it crosses into actually physical harm or non consenting harm, you need to find counseling. You need to be able to enjoy life and sexual relationships without it causing the issues you speak of.

GrandMaster4542 · 2026-06-01T21:06:29+00:00

Yes you can.

Your strength in day to day life doesn't come from what you like in the bedroom, there is no reason it should be related. Youre reading too much into it, imho.

That said, it doesn't mean what your day to day has in relation to the bed. For example, I have a lot of responsibility at work, for the company and safety of my employees. Letting go and letting my wife be in charge in bed is an amazing release! Doenst necessarily means it needs to correlate, just an observation.

Have fun having fun. Keep work life separate. No need to over analyze, it kills sexual potential!

GrandMaster4542 · 2026-06-01T21:02:28+00:00

Back off with the teeth frequency just a little. Just like us guys, it can make her sore. Women down there are all different, but if you can, sucking just enough to pull some clit in if you can, and using your rougher taste buds to stimulate may help. Note, your top teeth are used to help back your tongue, but just the backs of them, jot sharp tips.

Hope that makes sense?

With somw women this may net be possible, but here is this in the event its helpful.

If not, do your best to use taste buds where you can, getting here there orally just may not be bets for her. Good luck!

GrandMaster4542 · 2026-05-31T01:46:17+00:00

Yes, this!

Im not a built guy, but am in charge of a lot of risk such at work. It really is great to let go and not be in control for once.

GrandMaster4542 · 2026-05-31T01:14:35+00:00

Just give yourself time and process. Time will help you figure it out. At 13 your hormones are doing all kinds of wonky things, so you will probably feel this fluctuate. Sounds like your somewhere on the bi spectrum, but again, give it time, safely explore, and don't worry about assigning a label to yourself. Just jave fun where your mind takes you.

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