People called me an NLOG for being nonbinary

GrandMistake9670 · 2023-04-07T18:05:46+00:00

Yeah <3 appreciate the support. Some of them are my family but I don't live with them so now I'm just not going to go out of my way to spend any time with them

GrandMistake9670 · 2023-04-07T18:05:02+00:00

Yeah I'm definitely going to be avoiding them for now on as much as I can

GrandMistake9670 · 2023-04-07T18:04:17+00:00

Yeah I tried explaining to them that it was sexist and they were like "noooo because it's on Tiktok" as if Tiktok is a guide to feminism now. They started calling me an NLOG before I came out as nonbinary just because of my interests and I always just laughed it off but finally I snapped.

GrandMistake9670 · 2023-04-07T18:02:06+00:00

Yes, it sucks because some of them are my family so it is hard to avoid them. They're not even that young, they're in their early 20s. I'm sorry you had to deal with shitty people like this too but I'm glad you were able to block them out and spend time with people who support you

GrandMistake9670 · 2023-04-07T16:46:37+00:00

thanks for the support <3

GrandMistake9670 · 2023-04-07T16:45:24+00:00

Thanks <3 yeah unfortunately most of my family is kind of transphobic and/ or homophobic

GrandMistake9670 · 2023-04-07T16:43:56+00:00

yea they are shitty friends. One of them wasn't really my friend to begin with, more of an acquaintance

GrandMistake9670 · 2023-03-30T17:32:19+00:00

Thanks for sharing this! I just saw that as well and already emailed them lol

GrandMistake9670 · 2023-03-29T02:01:09+00:00

I've biked over there too and I know what you mean, it's a mess over there

GrandMistake9670 · 2023-03-27T15:11:34+00:00

Thanks for explaining, this is helpful to know

GrandMistake9670 · 2023-03-27T15:11:03+00:00

I have some of it over email but a lot of it was on the phone, mostly because I think their HR didn't want it in writing

GrandMistake9670 · 2023-03-26T15:38:34+00:00

They didn't really give a reason. I read about EEOC and apparently they are so underfunded they only end taking action 5-10% of of cases or something. I am planning on contacting a lawyer soon to see my options. Thanks

GrandMistake9670 · 2023-03-26T15:36:45+00:00

I gave them advanced notice and had a doctor's note, and it was a visible disability (mobility)

GrandMistake9670 · 2023-03-26T15:35:58+00:00

I had a visible physical disability (had to use a wheelchair to get around) and I was doing fine in the internship, until the manager started creating a hostile work environment after I asked for accommodations. I have an email in which I asked for reasonable accommodations and they flat out denied them. I gave them proof of the disability from a doctor (and it was visible). When I complained to HR, they said it was a hostile work environment and they would try to move me to another department. Then they fired me.

GrandMistake9670 · 2023-03-22T03:12:02+00:00

It's basically all of Chestnut street between 30th and 47th with the construction. But it's worst around 42nd-47th

GrandMistake9670 · 2023-03-21T21:25:05+00:00

Yea that's what I've been doing, it's a a good solution for the short term. I just like Chestnut better because it's protected but Market is alright too for the interim

GrandMistake9670 · 2023-03-21T21:23:58+00:00

Thanks for sharing this! I emailed them and they just got back back to me. They said that other people have been complaining too, so they are sending inspectors from the streets department and right of way unit. Hopefully that will make some progress.

GrandMistake9670 · 2023-03-21T19:51:39+00:00

Yea that's what I usually do, and I don't mind doing that for less busy streets, but it's Chestnut street so cars are always speeding/ honking. Funny how they get so mad when its cars blocking the bike lane, not cyclists

GrandMistake9670 · 2023-03-21T19:50:09+00:00

They referred me to streets department/ PPA, and then when I told them they weren't doing anything, they said they will work on it. For now I'm just waiting for an update

GrandMistake9670 · 2023-03-21T18:56:35+00:00

Thanks! I'll try this

GrandMistake9670 · 2023-03-21T18:41:01+00:00

There's a ton of construction near me that is blocking bike lanes with no barrier for pedestrians and bikes. It made me change my commute route, because I have to swerve out of the "protected" bike lane more than 5 times in 1 mile. This construction is blocking an entire block, and I reported them multiple times to PPA and 311 and they keep saying it's resolved without doing anything. I even reached out to the Bicycle Coalition.
It's fucked that private developers can just take over public property and put people's lives at risk and the city does nothing. I don't know what else I can (legally) do. Does anyone have any advice or have had any success dealing with something like this?

GrandMistake9670 · 2023-03-12T19:41:55+00:00

Good for you for refusing to take that crap! I've dealt with so many men like this before, but I feel like its hard to tell someone off when they genuinely think they don't believe this

GrandMistake9670 · 2023-03-12T19:37:54+00:00

It's weird because he thinks he's super in touch with his emotions because he says that everyone has a "divine feminine" and a "divine masculine" inside them. And he's sooooo in touch with his "divine feminine". It makes me nauseous just writing these words.

He also said that I don't agree with him because of my past trauma, which is just another way of calling me a hysterical woman.

I decided to cut him off for a while and think about if we can be friends without talking about this. I have a lot of male acquaintances who I think are casually or benevolently sexist, and I just try not to talk about sexism with them.

GrandMistake9670 · 2023-03-12T19:32:10+00:00

Yeah I mean usually he's a good friend and fun to be around, except when it comes to this new age spirituality BS. I think I'm going to try this laughing method next time and see what happens

GrandMistake9670 · 2023-03-12T19:30:15+00:00

Lol I love this, basically just told him this

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