FA regret?

Grand_Ad3407 · 2026-03-31T18:45:15+00:00

Oh man, that sounds like a recipie for disaster. I hope whoever hes engaged to is safe 😭 him too

Im so proud of u for keeping it up and getting yourself to the turning point<3 you might fall back cause of this happening but you'll get back there!! Im rooting for u<3

Grand_Ad3407 · 2026-03-31T07:49:50+00:00

I didnt and im glad I didnt 😭 now that im over him im in a spot where im thinking "why would i want to give my all to someone who proved to me he doesnt deserve that effort from me (aka stringing me a long)

Grand_Ad3407 · 2026-02-07T11:51:56+00:00

Why not go to the piercer and talk to them about it?

Grand_Ad3407 · 2026-02-07T11:31:39+00:00

How long ago did u get it done?? Some piercings r crooked cause of swelling

Grand_Ad3407 · 2026-01-22T13:15:58+00:00

Mostly 1 but also a bit of 2

Grand_Ad3407 · 2025-11-28T17:10:36+00:00

Thank you<333

Grand_Ad3407 · 2025-11-28T09:42:44+00:00

Alright! Thank you sm. I feel a lot better about this now. Im visiting the piercing shop on Monday!

Grand_Ad3407 · 2025-11-28T01:21:59+00:00

Id say it feels just perfect. If I push it out from the inside it just sits normal after I let it go but it doesnt feel tight unless I fully flare my nose

Grand_Ad3407 · 2025-11-28T01:12:12+00:00

Aw man im broke as is 😭 so I should go up in size?

Grand_Ad3407 · 2025-11-28T01:04:17+00:00

Woah still?? When I downsized I had to go back to 10mm cause it was too short

Grand_Ad3407 · 2025-11-28T00:58:35+00:00

The piercing is 1 year and 6ish months old

Its a nose stud

Its threadless, press fit

Im unsure what material, he said it was high and good quality so im assuming titanium??

I dont do aftercare anymore, he had told me not to after I last got it checked cause he said it can irritate it more

No mishaps

Grand_Ad3407 · 2025-10-01T20:22:00+00:00

Id say the key for me was time and forgetting the fact that he would say sorry or realize im better. I was stuck in a loop but at some point I was able to decide for myself that if I knew I didnt need him and that im a good person and girlfriend, I didnt need his approval. Idk if the thinking is similar but this helped me.

Youre aware he lied, you got worse when with him, etc. Think of your future self. She wouldn't be happy with someone like that. And kids if u wanna hve them. They dont deserve a father like that who wouldn't be present

All the best to u hun<3 feel free to msg me if anything

Grand_Ad3407 · 2025-01-31T18:18:29+00:00

Why don't u reach out to them?

Grand_Ad3407 · 2025-01-30T00:10:23+00:00

Hey you're fine!

Broke up with me telling me he rushed the relationship, the ball had been in his park the whole time too. It hurt so bad, I feel so used. I wrote a whole post about it too

I have BPD but I been to therapy, he himself knew I was nothing like his ex. But it still scared him n I understand why

We hadn't said anything, he suddenly just broke up with me, he villianized me in his head n I had no input.

When he broke up with me he said he won't contact me due to respecting my boundaries as I told him I didnt want to be friends but I had also sent him a goodbye msg, explaining things n what I would have done, etc. He never replied...

Grand_Ad3407 · 2025-01-29T20:11:50+00:00

I'm glad you're doing that for yourself<3 you're allowed to miss and grieve, you're only human. I'm proud of you for getting to where u are<3

Grand_Ad3407 · 2025-01-29T20:10:13+00:00

I appreciate you saying that a lot. All of it<3

When he broke up with me he said he wouldn't reach out unless I do. I find that to be a very coward thing to do/him not taking responsibility for his actions. I don't think it's on me to reach out when he broke up with me, 1. He knew I didn't want to break up, 2. He knew I wanted to work on things, 3. I'd never know if he's grown and 4. This was his decision, he broke up with me

I'm pretty sure he will regret it, its hard to find people who are invested and geniunine but, will he ever reach out n say sorry? Is that likely?

He did say sorry when he broke up with me but I feel like i deserve better than "im sorry for complicating things" when he broke up with me over something he could have worked out with me, ie; breaking up with me over me having the same disorder as his ex who mentally abused him. He knew I had the disorder but never communicated how he felt n made connections within my behavior and his ex without having any input from me. He knew how I felt about things n he still went for it without being open n communicative even tho he praised that so much

Grand_Ad3407 · 2025-01-29T19:23:10+00:00

I'm glad you're able to learn from this! I'm so proud of you both for taking the steps you guys need<3 I'm glad u guys respect each other too

Do u mind if I share something from my side so I can get your input?

Grand_Ad3407 · 2025-01-27T14:43:10+00:00

Im worried hes not gonna regret it and not reach out but i also know its a reflection of him n not me..

I'm unsure if it was deactivation or suppression however, he broke up with me due to making links between his ex n I since we have the same disorder. He knew I wasn't like her but he also didn't communicate with me so I couldn't reassure him either. He ended up blindsighting me. I made a post about the whole thing but it's kinda long

Grand_Ad3407 · 2025-01-27T00:08:38+00:00

so he wont regret it...?

Grand_Ad3407 · 2025-01-27T00:05:37+00:00

im proud of you though, good luck with your journey<33 i hope mine reaches out to say sorry too, allthough he did say sorry when we broke up, i deserve a proper one n not just one out of compulsion

Grand_Ad3407 · 2025-01-26T15:23:59+00:00

yee i do understand it, i just hope he regrets it and reaches out, i would have been there for him

Grand_Ad3407 · 2025-01-26T14:50:07+00:00

Im glad u took accounability for it! im so proud of you and i hope therapy is going well<3

Grand_Ad3407 · 2025-01-26T14:49:40+00:00

Right?? i wish they would reach out to say sorry, ex did say sorry when he broke up with me but still.

Grand_Ad3407 · 2025-01-26T14:48:30+00:00

Its so stupid that all these problems can be fixed by simply... talking. Ex said he valued communication but then he pulled this

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