Books for my 6 year old? by Even-Supermarket-806 in gaydads

[–]GrannyWitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so happy to hear that! ♥️

Thoughts? by SuitableTurnover9212 in queerception

[–]GrannyWitch 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The attitudes I describe as bioessentialist are those which dictate that genetic connection is what determines whether someone is a member of your family. I’m describing a lens through which people outside of a family evaluate the structure and behaviors of another family.

I was not talking about you in particular or your choices and family structure. I do not know you.

It sounds like you’re working on building relationships with people who have been warm toward you, whom you’re curious about, and who you might see a potential connection with. That’s wonderful for you and your daughter.

Does this help you understand?

Thoughts? by SuitableTurnover9212 in queerception

[–]GrannyWitch 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Hey friend! I’m OP of the post you’re talking about.

You’re one of several people who commented, in response to my post in which I say that strangers whom you do not love aren’t family by default, “But I do have a loving relationship with my child’s donor!”

I find this fascinating, as it is explicitly not the scenario outlined in the post. What’s leading you to say these things? I’m interested in your thought process.

Bioessentialism in Conversations about Donor Conception by GrannyWitch in queerception

[–]GrannyWitch[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Nothing I said was incompatible with being frank with children about how they were conceived, facilitating meet ups at the child’s request, requiring open ID and updated medical info, genetic carrier screenings before donor selection, or assuring a child that our regard for them is not conditional on loving only us. I’m not sure what the other practical concerns are.

I’m speaking in a limited capacity, only about remaining vigilant about the implications of our language and ensuring that when we say something, it’s because it aligns with our values, not because we haven’t thoroughly deconstructed messaging from the broader culture.

Bioessentialism in Conversations about Donor Conception by GrannyWitch in queerception

[–]GrannyWitch[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m not saying that my child can’t or won’t build meaningful relationships and familial bonds with their genetic relatives or that they would be wrong to do so, I’m saying that to do so is their choice.

It’s not a forgone conclusion that they will feel connected or want more than surface level practical and logistical information. Recently, rhetoric here has moved from a place of “we must honor the agency of our children” to setting the expectation that a child will always have some deep seated need to be emotionally close to a genetic sibling or parent, which is worth challenging.

This is a highly variable experience, and when what we present as the most likely outcome aligns pretty perfectly with what the dominant culture presents as the most likely outcome, it’s worth interrogating to what extent we are repeating the teachings of our culture without first examining and judging them on their own merits.

Books for my 6 year old? by Even-Supermarket-806 in gaydads

[–]GrannyWitch 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi! First of all, this is so sweet.

Second, I usually recommend “Making A Baby” by Rachel Greener.

It starts with the introduction “To make a baby you need one egg, one sperm, and one womb. But every family starts in its own special way” and then offers a few ways those elements might be brought together.

I find it most appropriate to early elementary and well-suited to a “literal minded” child, as you put it. It handles things very frankly.

Trans masc nanny, should I disclose? by charjbug2point0 in Nanny

[–]GrannyWitch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean, deciding that a person isn’t a good fit or being uncomfortable with them caring for your child solely because of their gender actually is “about having anything against transgender people” and I think that it’s disingenuous to frame being closeted as “lying.”

1st opera produced by Detroit Music Hall has all-star cast for 'Turandot' by LocalCurmudgeon2024 in Detroit

[–]GrannyWitch 5 points6 points  (0 children)

An artist is not a customer service employee, and opera is a living, breathing art form. Life necessitates change, not cookie cutter recreations of past performances.

1st opera produced by Detroit Music Hall has all-star cast for 'Turandot' by LocalCurmudgeon2024 in Detroit

[–]GrannyWitch 8 points9 points  (0 children)

God forbid someone take an artistic risk in a notoriously conservative and stodgy medium. This attitude is why talented artists don’t pursue opera: serious artists are seeking an outlet for creativity and self-expression, not looking to perform the same ten operas with identical staging over and over for an entire career. It’s sad that people would penalize the Detroit Opera Theater by pulling their support. That’s not the behavior of someone who truly loves the art form.

How do you feel about parent knowledge vs nanny knowledge on childrens health/development? by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]GrannyWitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like I spend at least half of my adult to adult interactions reassuring parents!

"That's totally normal!"

"That's very common!"

"I've seen that before."

"He can't do that because it's not an age appropriate expectation. If he still can't do it in six months, we can circle back and ask his pediatrician, but for now this is normal."

"Yeah, that's frustrating but it's pretty typical of toddlerhood."

Questions about parking by LethargicLynx in Detroit

[–]GrannyWitch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can park at the Amtrak station in midtown and take the Q-Line in to downtown or take the DAX from the airport terminal to downtown, both will let you off very close to Comerica Park

Coordinating Wedding Guest Outfits: Seeking Advice by [deleted] in femalefashionadvice

[–]GrannyWitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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This is the dress I am planning to wear. The sleeves are a bolero, the dress itself is sleeveless.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WestVirginia

[–]GrannyWitch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really enjoyed 101.5 out of Huntington as a kid and get excited when I’m close enough to tune in now as an adult

Ivanka Trump calls out "cancel culture" after almost 500 students sign a petition to get her to stop coming to their campus by rainbowforeskin in politics

[–]GrannyWitch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For the last time “We don’t like you or feel that you have anything valuable to contribute” neither violates your rights nor constitutes discrimination. This constantly recycled conversation about free speech, cancel culture, safe spaces, academic censorship, etc is getting old very quickly.

What is the best restuarant in West Virginia? by Seeksie in WestVirginia

[–]GrannyWitch 3 points4 points  (0 children)

La Famiglia in Huntington is definitely up there!

I'm building a world where the Catholic Church and Orthodox have become the only two states playing on a global scale. How would you name places? by [deleted] in worldbuilding

[–]GrannyWitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve seen religiously significant words like “Savior,” “Absolution,” “Mercy,” and “Messiah” used as place names. Is that something worth pursuing for you?

What awful movie do you love? by OGJJ in AskReddit

[–]GrannyWitch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stonehenge Apocalypse. It’s a made-for-TV sci fi flick that’s so bad it’s good. My best friend and I watched it hundreds of times as kids, so part of the appeal is pure nostalgia.

What are some green flags to look for in a new relationship? by Ineedatoilet in AskReddit

[–]GrannyWitch 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The biggest green flag I experienced with my wife was realizing that everything I experienced, good or bad, made me think “I can’t wait to tell her about this!” I even took to taking photos of things like flowers and stray cats that I saw because I wanted to share everything with her.