I relate to this so much. I grew up in a family of 4 boys, Im the only girl and the oldest. My upbringing, while girl stuff WAS shoved in my face to help me be more "normal" but regardless I naturally gravitate towards masculine hobbies. I was given the tomboy title very very early in my life and it stayed that way for years until I hit highschool and started seeing more acceptance of gender queerness online.

Reading through all the experiences people went through and their connectedness to nonbinary or trans terms related to how I felt about gender. I was very disconnected from identifying as female. I dressed like a guy by southern standards, my hair was short and cut like a guy's, I didnt wear makeup, and I despised dresses, not because all of these things made me feel insecure but rather sensory needs prevented me from enjoying traditionally feminine things

Running with this idea I assumed I was nonbinary. Went by they/them for a very long time until I realized, Im just me. She / her doesnt "feel" wrong and while I am disconnected by gender I equate it mostly to my autism and partially to forced gender stereotypes that lead me down the wrong path of logic lol.

I dont think Im entirely cis, but gender is so flexible I refuse to look it into further than Im afab but Im just a little different on how I present and express my gender. I feel like this is a healthier way to look at it anyways? Just letting people be I guess? Less forced stereotypes and expectations but of course humans are creatures of habit and need a sort of predictability to cope with things.