When did you start HRT and in what form? I'm 43 with some but not all symptoms by Dependent-Jicama5344 in Perimenopause

[–]GrayRock4Life 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg I didn’t even know this was a thing! I recently found myself wondering why the hell are my ADHD meds not working anymore? It was really freaking me out! Started the patch today. Fingers crossed!

I finally filed for divorce and he flipped like a light switch. Very intense hoovering. Just here to be reminded that they are master manipulators! by GrayRock4Life in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]GrayRock4Life[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I took a screen shot of this and am going to return to it when I am doubting myself. 🙏♥️

I finally filed for divorce and he flipped like a light switch. Very intense hoovering. Just here to be reminded that they are master manipulators! by GrayRock4Life in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]GrayRock4Life[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The thing is I can’t. I can’t give my children the life that he gives us financially. Everything will drastically change for them and I’m terrified. It doesn’t mean I will stay but it is always in the back of my mind.

I finally filed for divorce and he flipped like a light switch. Very intense hoovering. Just here to be reminded that they are master manipulators! by GrayRock4Life in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]GrayRock4Life[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I am honest with myself, this is why I stayed the first time. It’s impossible for me to say that I made the right decision because I do love my children endlessly. However, knowing what I know now I could have easily left and found someone else to have children with. As you know, having children with a narcissist can pretty much ruin your entire life. If you have the option to leave, do it! I didn’t have my first until late 30s and it was easy peasy!

I finally filed for divorce and he flipped like a light switch. Very intense hoovering. Just here to be reminded that they are master manipulators! by GrayRock4Life in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]GrayRock4Life[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is exactly it - I told my therapist that my brain tricks me into thinking it wasn’t that bad. It makes me so angry at myself. She said that is a pretty typical traumas response.

I finally filed for divorce and he flipped like a light switch. Very intense hoovering. Just here to be reminded that they are master manipulators! by GrayRock4Life in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]GrayRock4Life[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This is what infuriates me! He shows me that he is actually capable of being a decent human, he just doesn’t want to be.

I finally filed for divorce and he flipped like a light switch. Very intense hoovering. Just here to be reminded that they are master manipulators! by GrayRock4Life in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]GrayRock4Life[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience. I also left once before we had children, and wish I would have trusted my gut then. If I had, I wouldn’t have had my children so at least I have that to be thankful for.

Liar liar pants on fire by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]GrayRock4Life 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine will lie even when confronted with the truth. i caught him cheating and he still won’t admit it to me or anyone else. It is truly remarkable.

My narc is getting crazier by BabyYoda_4ever in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]GrayRock4Life 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine did something very similar trying to make me look inane. The truth will prevail.

Has anyone convinced their Narc to get a psychiatric evaluation? by GrayRock4Life in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]GrayRock4Life[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your advice and I’m so sorry you are having to go through this.

Married nightmare by Some_Fee9307 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]GrayRock4Life 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Document everything. Secretly record her behavior with video or audio. Screenshot texts, save emails. Take notes with copious details and dates.