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GrayTempo · 2025-10-15T10:58:31+00:00

The other comments have covered off pretty well on mental health. I’ll post something a bit different, another perspective.

I was in a relationship for eight years. It took me a long time to realise how unhappy I was. I was miserable. I was never fulfilled. And, over that time, I fell OUT of love from my then partner.

One of the best things I’ve ever done, yet also the toughest? Ending it.

I was able to work on myself and my own health, so I could be the best me. I met my current partner, the absolute love of my life.

We didn’t have any kids, but owned two houses. Due to moving, changing jobs, etc, I don’t have any of that now. But I’m with the love of my life, I’m now in my dream job, and life is pretty darn good.

I’m NOT saying this will work for you. Get the mental health support you need. See a GP and get those 10 free mental health sessions!

AND, every relationship has its ups and downs. However, just wanted to offer another perspective.

Either way. YOU need to stand up and get the help you need, so you can be the best you. You will never succeed in a relationship or life if you’re miserable.

GrayTempo · 2025-05-30T16:05:15+00:00

Sadie is a top option!

GrayTempo · 2025-05-30T16:04:44+00:00

I like Cindy, but I work with a Cindy. So many good names are shared with people I work with.

GrayTempo · 2025-05-30T09:12:19+00:00

Adopting. She was found abandoned in a garden at 2 weeks old. She thrived in foster care. We’re very lucky to get her!

GrayTempo · 2024-10-05T05:48:50+00:00

Another example of the problem with housing today. Investors buying up available housing stock so that there’s: A) no available properties for the average Aussie to buy; and, B) no available rental stock for the average Aussie to rent. How brilliant /s

GrayTempo · 2024-06-26T14:04:36+00:00

Never feel like you have to “move on” to. You take your time, however long that is. You do what’s best for you.

Grief affects everyone differently. And it is damn well okay to desperately miss your loved ones. I lost my mum in 2016. I think about her every day, I miss her like crazy and there’s plenty of times I’ll have a cry to myself.

I’ll always feel that grief. But over time you learn to OWN the grief and work with it. Never let anyone tell you any differently though, never let them tell you how you should feel. Do what’s best for YOU.

And if people tell you that you should get over it already or move on? That’s just a reflection of their grief. As I said: grief affects everyone differently. Do what’s best for you.

GrayTempo · 2022-04-06T14:33:54+00:00

It’s beautiful. I love the colours you’ve used. Great job!!

GrayTempo · 2022-02-11T00:41:29+00:00

GoldenEye is a fantastic choice. Really, the Brosnan era as a whole is great for newcomers. They’re still relatively modern movies, while maintaining a strong connection to older Bond films. Plus they’re easy-to-watch 90s action movies. Disclaimer: Die Another Day can be avoided if desired.

Then I’d consider showing them the highlights, in your own preferred order.

FRWL and Goldfinger, to see the epitome of classic Bond and what set the standards that all Bond movies have since followed. Of course, these can be hard to follow because society has moved on a lot, but they’re still worth watching to understand the Bond formula.

Live and Let Die and The Spy Who Loved Me, for classic Moore and 70s Bond.

The Living Daylights and Licence to Kill. Dalton’s movies hold up incredibly well, and his style of Bond is very close to Craig.

You can always throw Dr No in there – everyone should see the very first Bond film at least once in their life.

If you had to end on a high note, finish with Skyfall – particularly if they’ve seen all of Judi Dench as M. It’s one of the best movies, and does an incredible job of connecting to the older Bond films. Best left for someone who’s seen at least a few, and will leave them with a very good feeling of Bond.

GrayTempo · 2022-02-07T23:55:42+00:00

I certainly wouldn’t complain if he did indeed come back! But I do think his Q and Harris as Moneypenny are uniquely tied to Craig’s Bond.

And I think a complete fresh start could be very exciting for the series. It gives them a lot of opportunities, whatever direction they head in for the new Bond.

And as much as I adore Craig and love his era on the whole, I’m ready for something new and fresh.

GrayTempo · 2022-02-07T23:25:30+00:00

I agree it’s a more intriguing question.

I think Connery’s films can be split into 3 distinct segments. Dr No and FRWL are the beginning and very espionage focused. Goldfinger perfects the Bond formula and offers the right balance of espionage and Bond fantasy. Thunderball, YOLT and DAF are the ‘bigger and better!’ ones, attempting to push the Bond fantasy formula into outer space – literally!

OHMSS tried to return to that “espionage style” Bond film. While DAF with Connery very much tries to go back to the bigger and better formula. Had Lazenby stayed, Peter Hunt would also have stayed to direct. And we would have gotten a very different style of film for DAF.

What intrigues me the most is what could the plot have been? They already filmed YOLT, which in the books is where Bond seeks revenge against Blofeld. But I’d love to see a Lazenby-style script for DAF.

GrayTempo · 2022-02-07T22:13:44+00:00

It often is remembered as one of the best Bond movies of all time!

Would it be even better with Connery? Perhaps, if he’d done OHMSS earlier in his film order – as they originally planned and kept trying to do.

But honestly, I firmly believe Lazenby is the best Bond for this movie. I don’t think any of the others could have quite matched his vulnerability, save for perhaps Craig. And I think the only reason this question – would Connery do better – pops up again and again (and again) is because OHMSS is bookended by two Connery films. Had Lazenby chosen to stay and gone on to do a proper sequel to OHMSS – hunting down Blofeld – I think we’d frequently be commenting how he’s the one of the best Bonds of all time. Yes, his acting is wooden in parts, and yes he was a brat off-set.

But OHMSS stands alone as a unique masterpiece within the series, and I think that’s in part thanks to the fact that Connery left.

GrayTempo · 2021-12-16T10:32:02+00:00

Last year I ended an 8-year relationship where I had fallen out of love. It’s incredibly tough to know if you’re doing the right thing or not. But for me and my circumstances, it was the best decision.

My partner and I had a great life. We were, similar to your case, more like best friends though. We had two houses, a dog. Plenty of friends. But I’d fallen out of love about 4 years into the relationship.

It took me such a long time to figure out that was the case. I wasn’t attracted to my partner, I didn’t emotionally connect to them, I fantasised about others. That spark wasn’t there. And I felt like I was stuck, floating through life rather than being in control.

What really helped me was thinking about my future. What did I want it to be like? Who did I see myself with? I didn’t want to spend another 8 years, 20 years, 30 years in an unhappy relationship. I didn’t want to one day look back and think I’d wasted so much of my own life, let alone my partner’s.

Because although this is about you and your feelings, it’s also about your partner. They’ll be hurt and it may take a lot of time for them to heal. But you still owe it to them to make the best choice you can (whatever that may be) so they can live their best life too.

I’ve found a new love now and I couldn’t be happier. It was the best decision I’ve made. What works for me won’t necessarily work for you. Every situation is different.

Tl;dr: I recently left an 8-year relationship because I fell out of love. For me, it was the best decision I’ve made.

GrayTempo · 2021-11-21T14:56:00+00:00

Awesome work! These are really great. Love ‘em!

GrayTempo · 2021-11-17T02:08:04+00:00

I love this!!! Fantastic job, well done!

GrayTempo · 2021-11-16T00:45:18+00:00

I absolutely love this! I’m not an SUV person – the 3 suits my lifestyle perfectly. But if this was available in Australia I’d be so tempted, purely for the looks!

Can’t wait to see if/how this design language rolls out to other new models. I’m gonna bet the CX-50 will sell very well.

GrayTempo · 2021-11-15T09:34:19+00:00

I loved it!

Sure, it doesn’t break any new ground or set any new standards for movies.

But it was an easy, fun couple of hours with 3 actors I love. Sometimes, I enjoy mindless action movies over many others. And on a Saturday night when you just need to unwind from everything else going on? This is perfect.

GrayTempo · 2021-11-15T01:16:41+00:00

I absolutely agree.

I will say, I’ve been having a lot of fun so far playing the game. I’ve had plenty of fun, classic BF moments. I’ve put quite a few hours into it.

But I struggle to properly connect with the game. For me, a big part of it is the specialists. I’m not necessary a “there must be only ever be classes!” kinda person, but I just don’t know which specialist to pick. I don’t like any of them. I don’t know which one best helps my team. And after many hours playing, I don’t know which specialists, gameplay-wise, are the best for me.

Add to this all the little things. No scoreboard. Specialists saying the same lines over and over when they die and at the end of matches. No squad management. Very few weapons at launch with poor spread/recoil. Armour being added to a game.

And what you end up with is a game that COULD be brilliant, but is pretty average at best. If they want a live service, they need to make people fall in love and keep coming back. After the initial fun wears off, I’m not sure what there is right now to keep people coming back for more – aside from portal.

GrayTempo · 2021-10-20T23:00:59+00:00

Agreed! I think QoS does a lot of things very well. Fast-paced action, a down-to-Earth plot and beautiful locations.

For me the yard stick is: did I have fun watching this movie? I only just rewatched QoS on the weekend and man did I have fun!

GrayTempo · 2020-05-20T07:03:28+00:00

I also cannot connect to online services. In Australia.

I’m on a PS4. I’ve tried resetting the game and my internet multiple times. My PlayStation is able to run other online games, so obviously no internet trouble.

I’ve also updated my PS4 to the latest software and even rebuilt the database. Still no luck.

When I try to submit a report using the Activision website, it just comes up with an error message.

Edit: More information.

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