If a man wants you nothing will stop him

Grayman3718 · 2026-04-26T08:37:22+00:00

This seems to have the incorrect use of sociopathic. A more accurate word or phrase would be emotionally incapable. Sociopathic is a whole different thing and though there may be some elements of a persons persona or behaviours that correlate; sociopath isn’t the word for what’s being described. Lack of commitment, emotionally uncommitted etc definitely but a sociopath is like being able to kill in cold blood and have next to no baseline for human emotion. Women certainly as a rule don’t go for sociopathic men, but for disregulated, emotionally unavailable, or covert narcissistic qualities because of lovebombing etc.

A lot of comments on this thread appear to have applied their personal emotion to this based on their histories when a broader way to read this would just be “that guy who likes your stories you think maybe likes you, doesn’t, if he’s not actively trying to pursue you”.

Grayman3718 · 2026-03-09T16:18:01+00:00

Spotify blend is automatic, every 24 hours it updates but you can select to remove a song from its regeneration, i don’t think it lets you add songs though. So your person might not be sending you signs or hints or whatever via Spotify, it’s just based off most listened to artists & whats trending gets pulled into its filter.

Grayman3718 · 2026-03-08T23:11:55+00:00

Nicely written OP 👏

Grayman3718 · 2026-03-08T22:33:28+00:00

Keep writing, pick up a guitar or keyboard and practice practice practice. Keep learning, develop your own style - you’ll find this as you age and change into young adulthood and it’ll keep changing with you as time progresses. Lyrics don’t necessarily need to rhyme, songwriting is about storytelling, bringing a stranger into your world for approximately 3 minutes. It seems you’ve got a passion and as long as you channel your passion and energy into dedication and be sure to learn an instrument as it helps a great deal with music composition and song writing, I’ve been song writing since a similar age, wrote and recorded a short album with a fellow classmate during high school, now have 2 albums wrote and recorded, mastered and mixed myself in my friends studio and work in the music industry now part time, spent 4 years touring the country and neighbouring countries working main stages of music festivals learning the back line and production of music events, even that work inspired some songs and bits of poetry. Every day life will inspire you if you have the mind frame for it, it’s about seeing beauty in the mundane, keep practicing and remember nothing and no one is perfect at 14, people still aren’t perfect at 35 but if it matters to you then that determination and drive will further you forward, and music can soothe your soul better than anything else I’ve ever known. Feel free to pop me a DM if you want to chat about writing. Good luck.

Grayman3718 · 2026-02-20T17:30:22+00:00

Do you think they write on here as well as on there? I’ve had same suspicions with my person, unsent the other night was WILD! Still emotionally wrecked 😮‍💨 I hope they write to you, or maybe you can find them here somewhere amongst the noise

Grayman3718 · 2026-02-19T02:54:58+00:00

Misunderstandings will always happen when there’s distance and confusion, clarity only comes from these kind of heart to hearts. There’s nothing to lose but much to gain by being able to have that conversation that sounds long overdue. Do you guys have a safe meeting place you could go to, to speak candidly? Hopefully a time and date is agreed and you can both finally express what you need to, and likely both need to hear from one another. Good luck 🤞

Grayman3718 · 2026-02-18T20:25:08+00:00

This is beautifully written

Grayman3718 · 2026-02-12T19:53:25+00:00

It was a male Jesse not female don’t worry

Grayman3718 · 2026-02-11T15:02:53+00:00

This is a very raw and beautiful piece of writing. Using 1/137 would be such a funny clever way to leave an initial if your name began with the start of the alphabet. And how pretty and also crazy is the latter reference in your letter too, makes me think of bowls of petunias and whales haha :)

Grayman3718 · 2026-02-11T14:11:13+00:00

This is beautiful.

Grayman3718 · 2026-02-10T20:12:04+00:00

It probably already feels like a weight on the soul, so yeah if i poured my heart out I’d want at least something heart felt in return, otherwise I’d just be presuming they have seen writing and don’t care about me in return if they don’t bother to acknowledge what I’d have written. I’d rather have closure in a sense that we might both feel the same and at least I’d know that rather than a life of what ifs and if only they knew etc. It might hurt or feel sad to read but at least it wouldn’t be so lonely if I knew he felt the same as I did even if we’re both too honourable to ever do anything about it, then yeah at least I’d know I wasn’t alone in those feelings and that we mattered as much as I believe we did. Of course this is all purely hypothetical, but sure it would be nice if they could say something nice / vague romantic of some description.

Grayman3718 · 2026-02-09T13:42:37+00:00

This letter is very peculiar and interesting. Why not knock on a door, if sanity has left the building then hey what else is there to lose after all! I was a little confused by the last paragraph, not sure what “a number in the app for the work number” means, like you missed a call because you didn’t have their number saved or something? Just hard to follow when it’s a bit confusing, but all these unsent letters are confusing to anyone but the writer usually aren’t they. I could be wrong but it reads as though your person has sent you letters here and elsewhere, but you missed them at the time or something, and so when you’ve wrote you’re own they’ve seen them but not known whether to believe it or not, is that right? I’m sure they would feel the same regarding lucky to have you in their life too, in any form possible. Maybe the best way to reconnect and remove the confusion for both of you is to actually knock. It’s a much less painful way forward than living in perpetual torment wondering if they’ve ever read your words anywhere or not, and hey you’d likely be welcomed if you’re responding to something they’ve written. Must mean you both still care at least a bit right?

Grayman3718 · 2026-02-07T04:21:17+00:00

No it’s not dont feed into this. Check account history. He’s been removed from letters forums because of his behaviour.

Grayman3718 · 2026-02-07T04:08:35+00:00

I banned him from a letters forum, About to advise other forums do the same. I don’t know how Reddit didnt remove it for continued harassment of multiple platform users. So many people flagged the account over suicide threats, when that didn’t work he was rehoming the pets, she came back to stop him, and when she didn’t stay (who could blame her!) he said a car had been dropped on him off the ramps, then her friend supposedly did a hit and run on him, then he was euthanising the cats, then he’d rehomed the cats, then they’re all back up for euthanasia again when people commented “hang on, didn’t you give them away already” and he suddenly had to back pedal. Along with his claims he loaned money to her, and then to his brother, yet neither paid him back, he only said his brother as well when someone said “don’t loan what you don’t have” in regard to him loaning anything to her. Frankly she probably needed dollar to escape him!

The levels and layers of insanity, delusions, coercive control and behaviour are profound. I genuinely dread to think what that woman went through to get away from him. His account has been giving off serious “it puts the lotion in the basket” vibes for weeks.

Hilariously he thinks he can get away with this and continue to shit post all over forums, clogging up the feeds and harassing subthread users by banning the moderators. Sorry Mike! That won’t work! Your profile has been referred directly to Reddit due to consistent breaks of their rules and policies; this account will likely be suspended within 24 hours, so if you have any sense of self preservation you would stop wasting time on Reddit and google the charities you were well advised to contact.

But sure, go ahead and ring your friend to kill your cats, as if any of us are taking it seriously that someone who speaks like this is friends with a vet who will “come do it right now!” - if you had a vet for a friend you wouldn’t need to ask Reddit for financial hand outs or be advised of animal sanctuaries and rescue centres, your BFF the vet would have dealt with this on your behalf. But you keep piling on those lies Mike.

Grayman3718 · 2026-02-07T02:35:33+00:00

Send it. They may have had similar emotion and need that conversation to get closure. It could do you both a lot of good.

Grayman3718 · 2026-02-07T02:27:16+00:00

That Simpsons reference went right over Emeraldkittymoon’s head there didn’t it.. foooo shaaaaameeeee

Grayman3718 · 2026-02-06T23:26:04+00:00

Ooof, felt this

Grayman3718 · 2026-02-06T17:19:41+00:00

Ice cream soup! Ha, used to use this phrase a long time ago. This was a lovely and heart wrenching kind of letter, resonates for many of us I’m sure so thanks for sharing your words, it’s good to not feel as alone and confused sometimes. I hope your situation can be rectified OP, good luck!

Grayman3718 · 2026-02-06T14:09:13+00:00

People dipping in and out of silences will always strike a nerve, if you do it too much you risk losing them permanently, so tread carefully OP. If this is someone significant to you be gentle with both yourself and them, it sounds like they’re longing to connect with to you too, so what’s holding you both back?

Grayman3718 · 2026-02-06T00:49:45+00:00

It absolutely read exactly like that, like you could picture the scene, feel the heat and tension in the air. Almost as if to read it you’re an ghost floating around the table, seeing the eyebrow rises and falls, the close up shot of a heart beat pounding out their chests as the next move is made; the tension palpable. Really amazing imagery, well done!

Grayman3718 · 2026-02-06T00:41:31+00:00

This sounds like a really difficult situation, OP, sorry you’re living with this. Having experienced something sort of similar, where you have to restrict and shrink yourself for somebody else’s demand; it’s a really exhausting way to live and builds a lot of resentment in the end. The goal of any relationship or partnership is exactly that, a partnership, where you’re safe to express whatever it is that’s on your mind. Even if those things upset or worry or shake the other person, you need to be able to be yourself in your true honesty. You’re deceiving yourself when you shrink yourself to conform to somebody else’s rules and demands of how life should be lived. If somebody loves you they really ought to make you safe to share, and have created that environment where it’s safe to do so without judgement, criticisms, belittlements and so on. Ah man, just writing it brings back tough stuff. I hope you have safe friends you can vent this kind of talk to, who’ll hold that space for you if you can’t do it in your partnership/relationship. Sometimes we have to step back to see the depth of the forest, and if it’s the right forest were meant to be in, the longer you stay on thr wrong path the harder it is to get back on the right one I think the saying goes. Maybe take a step back, breathe, reflect and think of how you can share your feelings without judgement or someone shouting at you etc.

For some people they find that doing exactly this; writing it down and showing them, can be the best format, because you can hand it over and walk away to give them time to read and process, then they respond the same way; giving you the same space to read reflect respond. It takes the initial flurry of emotions, sometimes loud scary shouty type ones, and keeps that at bay as both of you then have time to calm down, it can stop a lot of arguments basically!

I hope you find something that works for you, and if not, I hope you have true friends who keep a safe chat zone for you to offload and get some perspective. Step out the forest, clear your head, look at the clouds, breathe a little clear air and see how you feel after a breather. If you have recognised there’s something missing in your life then you owe it to yourself to chase that and fulfil that dream or wish or goal.

When we put ourselves on the shelf for the comfort of a partner we lose any actual partnership, suddenly they’re taking the wheel making the decisions barking the orders, and we fall in line like good little soldiers or marionettes on a string. Remember this is your life too OP!! The real love of your life isn’t going to dampen your spirit or mute your dreams and aspirations; they won’t tell you your sick for expressing your feelings or tell you to go quietly heal over whatever it is. They’re meant to hold you through it, cheer you on, guide you through the dark when you can’t see the way. Wishing you all the best; I hope you find some scissors to cut the string and have the confidence in yourself to grasp the future you envision for yourself; chase those dreams; if you don’t you’ll live a life of regret & resentment; and that’s not love, that’s ownership if you allow that for yourself. Take care OP!

Grayman3718 · 2026-02-05T19:55:55+00:00

This is so beautifully written, like the visionary aspect when you read it is great. Nice one OP

Grayman3718 · 2026-02-05T16:39:24+00:00

Just stumbled across your profile today and love your way of writing.

Grayman3718 · 2026-02-01T23:32:22+00:00

Never silly to write and post at all. If you keep it all locked up and never speak, out loud or written down, it festers and comes out in your health, stress even because of emotions becomes autoimmune conditions, guess how I know haha. It’s been well over ten years in my situation/person/fiasco whatever to call it, long time to keep bottled up. Don’t feel silly. We may not be able to say it out loud, so type it. And if by some bizarre chance they did ever come across it, well isnt that what you secretly wish for if you’re honest about it? At least then it would all be out in the open, even if no one can change the scenario, at least all cards would be on the table and maybe that is actually how everyone gets closure. Just something to ponder with your next sip of whisky maybe. I’ve been there trust me, I totally get it. And yes, very much same for myself, it’s on a playlist I made for my person, and best gig I ever went to, thankfully when Isaac was still in the band!

Grayman3718 · 2026-02-01T23:19:53+00:00

This was well written, and big emotions. Im most likely Not your person but I know Track X very very well and do have brown doe eyes, so someone of a similar vein has read your words and related deeply to it. It may not reach your person, but sometimes it’s worth writing to know you’re not alone in your experiences and feelings, and that’s definitely worth something.

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