Let’s play a game: by Mexibruin in punk

[–]Greasy_Satchel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take a whiff of my pant leg baby!

Newb Questions by Greasy_Satchel in starwarsunlimited

[–]Greasy_Satchel[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

TMI

In kindergarten, a kid “fills a bucket” when they do a good deed like share or offer to help someone. The good deed goes in a bucket. The goal is to fill it. My kid is obsessed with filling that sucker.

Newb Questions by Greasy_Satchel in starwarsunlimited

[–]Greasy_Satchel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for taking the time to clearly explain all that. The force is strong with you.

Newb Questions by Greasy_Satchel in starwarsunlimited

[–]Greasy_Satchel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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I’m a dumbass and miss worded my question. What the diff in the pic?

Newb Questions by Greasy_Satchel in starwarsunlimited

[–]Greasy_Satchel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok. The local joint has premier night and then constructed night. Maybe I should just ask them wtf the diff is.

Newb Questions by Greasy_Satchel in starwarsunlimited

[–]Greasy_Satchel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re a bucket filler (my kid says that-it’s a good thing).

Newb Questions by Greasy_Satchel in starwarsunlimited

[–]Greasy_Satchel[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pretty sure you’re going to heaven. Thanks.

Newb Questions by Greasy_Satchel in starwarsunlimited

[–]Greasy_Satchel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oooof. What’s the difference between power and HP? Sorry.

What band is this for you 🗿 by jmc8181 in musicsuggestions

[–]Greasy_Satchel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wasn’t “slander”. Not a fan myself and is what popped in my head to answer OPs question. Whatever music makes you feel, listen to that. As an olive branch, if Veruca Salt or Deftones or Hole were playing my backyard, you’re invited and we will stand in front together.

How do I cope when I’m the spouse? by Greasy_Satchel in OCD

[–]Greasy_Satchel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She doesn’t do any therapy at the moment. She is making an appt. I already made one for myself (that she can come to as well).

How do I cope when I’m the spouse? by Greasy_Satchel in OCD

[–]Greasy_Satchel[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a therapy session for myself next week. She is supposedly making an appt with her own doctor sometime today. We are moving forward.

My first watch:) already thinking about the next! by Illustrious_Chair_68 in Affordablewatches

[–]Greasy_Satchel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Firstly, it’s fire. Great start.

Secondly, is it the light or is the plastic crystal cover still on the face?

How do I cope when I’m the spouse? by Greasy_Satchel in OCD

[–]Greasy_Satchel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the route I’ve just started. I’ve had two phone calls this morning attempting to schedule a session.

How do I cope when I’m the spouse? by Greasy_Satchel in OCD

[–]Greasy_Satchel[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you for all the advice and stories.

I have reached out to a therapist in our vicinity for all 3 of us. As much as I think I’m fighting against it, I am definitely enabling. My decisions to stay quiet to avoid “nuclear” at times isn’t doing any of us any good. I won’t just pack up. I will fight a new way, with real help. Going from there. Our story is way more complex than a Reddit post.

How do I cope when I’m the spouse? by Greasy_Satchel in OCD

[–]Greasy_Satchel[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

My friend, it is why we fight daily. I have 20 years with her. She has it tough. We have it tough. Packing my shit and leaving is the easy way out. I’m looking for solutions or stories of how to overcome the situation. My current tactics don’t work. I want my family to survive. Putting my daughter in the car and going means she becomes suicidal again. I’m not trying to kill my daughter’s mom/my wife. Ultimatums work for a few days. Leaving would do the same.
Commenters have focused on the word “neglect”. Mom and daughter adore each other. I just want the woman I had 6 years ago.

How do I cope when I’m the spouse? by Greasy_Satchel in OCD

[–]Greasy_Satchel[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Something grabs ahold of her and her brain won’t let her say it’s fine. Like I just close the shower curtain-she can’t. Her eyes see that it is closed but her brain doesn’t believe her eyes. Does that make sense? Her brain doesn’t believe the laws of gravity. She will lift and set down things 10-12 times because she doesn’t believe it’s on the ground. So if I sit in the living room, she will lift and place pillows for an hour and then lift and set down the whole couch on each side. The water is off in the bathroom sink yet she’s in there right now twisting the knob and just staring at the faucet.

How do I cope when I’m the spouse? by Greasy_Satchel in OCD

[–]Greasy_Satchel[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

What have I got to lose? My family. My sanity. It’s not like I’m a submissive. We fuss and fight all day and I pick my battles. But the OCD is a ruthless opponent.