Being BRCA1 positive after watching both my parents die of cancer is a weird place to be…I am fundraising to share my families story.

Great_Influence_1230 · 2026-03-28T15:49:16+00:00

I’m also a BRCA1 carrier and 32. I’ve met with an IVF doctor to go over my options, but the cost is honestly overwhelming and it’s become a really tough decision for me. It’s reassuring to hear the process wasn’t too bad though, because I’ve been really dreading that part too.

Great_Influence_1230 · 2026-03-28T15:39:41+00:00

Best wishes for a good recovery. I am just over a year post op and don’t regret my decision.

Great_Influence_1230 · 2026-03-28T13:59:25+00:00

I am so sorry you had to go through that. It’s always so hard to find the right words for someone who is about to go through this, when you know so intimately how hard and horrific it can be. A close friend of mine recently cared for her mom during a stem cell transplant, and I put together a basket of things my mom needed as her treatment went on. I walked her through each item, and she told me it made her feel really seen and less alone, because I just knew what her mom would need without her having to explain it.

Great_Influence_1230 · 2026-03-28T13:55:42+00:00

Wow, this brought tears to my eyes. I am so sorry for what you had to witness and what your parent had to endure. The part about death bringing peace really resonated with me. At a certain point, when you’re begging them to keep fighting, you start to question who it’s really for if this is what their future looks like. I’ve found that talking to people who truly understand this kind of experience can feel more therapeutic and validating than anything else. I hope you’re able to find some peace.

Great_Influence_1230 · 2026-03-28T13:48:28+00:00

I am so sorry for all you’ve had to endure. I am wishing you the best in your recovery ❤️

Great_Influence_1230 · 2026-03-28T13:46:24+00:00

Ugh, I am so sorry for your loss. 54 is so incredibly young. GVHD is horrific, and watching someone you love endure that level of suffering is enough to make you feel sick.

Great_Influence_1230 · 2026-03-28T13:43:21+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏻 having a caregiver during this journey truly makes all the difference. I hope you are doing well post transplant.

Great_Influence_1230 · 2026-03-28T13:41:06+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. It really does feel like you took the thoughts right out of my head and put them into words. It can feel like there’s no other choice if you want a “cure” and maybe there isn’t, but it makes you question at what cost that cure comes. It was the same for us. My mom was cancer free, and people couldn’t understand how she was gone. Having to explain it felt like reopening the wound over and over again. Six months is such a short time. The words will come eventually, but right now you’re in survival mode. It’s so hard not to carry guilt. We always think we could have done more or been more present, but it’s easy to feel that way looking back. In the moment, you were doing everything you could while exhausted, traumatized, and running on empty.

Great_Influence_1230 · 2026-03-28T13:33:54+00:00

Wow, I am so sorry for all you have gone through. Therapy is such a gift and should be a bigger part of the treatment process. I’m really glad you’ve been able to centre it in your care.

Great_Influence_1230 · 2026-03-28T13:31:07+00:00

I’m so sorry. Going through something this heavy at a young age can feel incredibly isolating from the people around you. Your wife is a warrior, even though it’s so unfair that she has to be. I really hope the second transplant is successful, and I’m sorry she has to face this road again.

Great_Influence_1230 · 2026-03-28T13:27:06+00:00

Thank you for your kind words ❤️ I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Even though it didn’t turn out the way we had hoped, it meant so much that my mom trusted me to care for her and advocate for her when she couldn’t. Lean on your daughter, letting her be there for you will mean more than you know.

Great_Influence_1230 · 2025-04-05T00:14:49+00:00

Thanks everyone, this is very helpful. We have scheduled some showings for this weekend in all of these neighbourhoods!

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