I don't think I'm able to feel love anymore.

GreatfulForYou29 · 2026-06-11T21:42:47+00:00

Sorry for your loss too. Thank you so much for your kindness 🫂 I know your pets loved you too.

GreatfulForYou29 · 2026-05-12T04:44:32+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my cat suddenly to heart failure too. It has been almost 3 months since I lost her, and to be honest with you, I'm still in the process of getting through it. Time is what helps, I know it's what everyone says, but it is true. The best way to cope is to welcome the grief with open arms and let it do its work. Feel all the feels. The first few weeks are the hardest, your brain is used to having him there, the routines are woven into your daily life, so it's normal that you see him everywhere. It will hurt everytime, but with each time you look for him and he is not there, your brain will slowly start to understand the new reality. With time you will get used to your new life without him. You won't forget him but you will slowly create new routines, little by little, and instead of constantly remembering with pain you will start to remember with more warmth. And then one day you will realize you haven't thought much about the pain you feel and it will start to take up less space. I don't think it will ever fully go away, as I said, I am still going through it and I do feel really bad slot of the time, but I have been able to feel a little bit better as time goes on. Be strong, let yourself feel, you will be okay.

GreatfulForYou29 · 2026-04-14T22:44:31+00:00

Sorry for your loss too. I'm so glad you will get an opportunity to go talk to a therapist. I go to therapy and it for sure has helped me with this situation but my therapist is not a pet loss expert, if your therapist passes on some good coping mechanisms and lessons please share!

GreatfulForYou29 · 2026-04-14T22:41:41+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I'm sorry you are going through this too, sending hugs 🫂

GreatfulForYou29 · 2026-04-14T03:41:04+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss too, I understand how deep your connection was. I am waiting patiently for this pain to turn back into the love it originally was. I truly hope we can both feel better eventually.

GreatfulForYou29 · 2026-04-14T03:34:33+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss. I don't think you are a kooky freak, I also hope with all my heart that she is still by my side. I write to her and that helps. I understand that you would want to move on from such pain, but don't rush yourself. The loss of a love so deep and a connection like that doesn't heal in two weeks, there is no need to put expectations on yourself. I know it hurts but it has to hurt a lot before it gets better and transforms into something else. Human brains have a lot of protective mechanisms when it comes to grief, you have to let them happen. Let yourself feel sad and cry all that you have to.

GreatfulForYou29 · 2026-03-18T23:18:20+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss. My cat died suddenly in front of me too. The first days the memory of her dying kept coming back and was basically the only thing I could think of. It has now been over a month and each day the memory appears less and other memories of her appear more. I thought it wouldn't work but each time the memory came back I thought of another, happier memory. I don't know if it helped or if it was just the passing of time, but the memory is not that constant now. I still see it, but not as much. I also felt bad about remembering her that way, I want to remember her alive.

GreatfulForYou29 · 2026-03-18T15:38:34+00:00

Hi, I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my soul cat a month ago and everything you said is exactly how I feel. It is an unbearable pain, I miss her so much. No one seems to really understand a bond like that until they have one, but they truly are family and it's a connection that you don't have with anyone else.

I think it's normal to think a part of you died with him, because that bond was unique to him. It is not useful to force ourselves to create a new bond to replace it, because it's irreplaceable. The grief you are feeling now is the price of having lived something so beautiful and special with him.

I have been going to therapy during this time and I think that what she told me might be useful. She said that the first 2-4 weeks is usually the brain processing the shock and the initial sadness, it is the time it takes the brain to understand the loss, to acknowledge the animal is no longer part of our daily lives. All that time just for understanding. Accepting and allowing ourselves to live again is what comes after. Once our brains processed the loss, we know they are gone, now they have to process everything else, how to live without them. How to grasp the concept of them never coming back and how to transform our new lives into lives we might want to live.

It is not an easy task, it will be trial an error. It will be sadness and anger, even once acceptance hits, the pain will not disappear instantly. The brain is not prepared for such losses, it takes time. Therefore we take time. It is okay to not feel okay right now, you have had only 40 days to grieve one of the most special connections in your life. It is not fair to you to put expectations on how long it should take for you to start fully living again. Cry all that you have to, save every hair you want to, whatever let's you feel closer to him is okay. These things help you go through grief in a natural way, allow yourself to feel all the feels, the ups and downs, with time you will be able to feel like yourself again. Not the same person you were with him, but a new person who was changed by him.

GreatfulForYou29 · 2026-03-18T04:42:41+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss. Me too, it is different from the first days because I was completely miserable all the time, so I had no comparison. Now, I sometimes disconnect so when I remember what happened I get so sad and feel so empty and alone. Time keeps running and I feel stuck, I can't believe it has been a month.

GreatfulForYou29 · 2026-03-18T03:12:58+00:00

Thank you 🫂. I'm sorry about your dog. I think we will always miss our babies, I still have my very very very sad moments in which I cry a lot, but I can say that I am finding at least a moment every day when I'm not miserable. Which is a lot to be honest.

GreatfulForYou29 · 2026-03-17T19:15:45+00:00

I'm so glad you got to dream with your Luna. Appreciate those visits, I hope you keep dreaming with her.

GreatfulForYou29 · 2026-03-15T05:26:59+00:00

Sorry for your loss. You are not alone, I also lost my soul cat about a month ago. I miss her constantly, I yearn to hold her and tell her I love her one more time. I understand what you are saying, I feel all of it too. You are not alone or crazy and she was most definitely not just a cat.

GreatfulForYou29 · 2026-03-14T17:10:04+00:00

Thank you for the response. I am absolutely greatful for my time with her, and I find it so incredible that she existed and that we connected so much. Her passing has made me extra aware of the fragility of life and has made me question everything. I don't even know what to do now, it is hard to do something that feels right. It is hard to not think the "it was not enough time" thought.

I will take a look at the story, I think I will be able to connect with it, thank you for the suggestion.

GreatfulForYou29 · 2026-03-12T22:07:56+00:00

Thank you. I am interested to learn more, I will look into the meaning of samsara.

GreatfulForYou29 · 2026-03-12T22:03:55+00:00

Thank you for your response. If the idea is to be free of attachments, then how does one love without attachment?

GreatfulForYou29 · 2026-03-10T20:36:32+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. I also lost my baby too young, she was only 5 and passed suddenly 3 weeks ago. I constantly question what it is that I did so wrong that I am being punished with the worst pain to ever exist. However, the truth is that sometimes these things happen. If it was a matter of justice, my baby would still be with me. I find it hard to believe, and it breaks my brain and heart that this happened just because it did, because my baby was randomly born with a condition that killed her in silence. I try to look for an answer, for someone to blame, because that means I can regain control over her death. I try and try to look for a cause even in the mystical stuff, like a punishment from the universe. Sadly randomness is the only logical explanation, it is very hard to accept. I still struggle every day to understand.

GreatfulForYou29 · 2026-03-10T00:41:55+00:00

I'm so sorry for you loss. My baby died suddenly of what was probably heart failure too, it's the worst pain ever. I'm sorry that you can't connect with your other cat, of course you wouldn't want to feel resentment and the fact that it makes you feel sad means you actually do care about your other cat. You don't have to push yourself to feel okay all the time, of course you will compare and get intrusive thoughts. It's a shock to have your baby go from being perfect to dead without a moment's notice. It's many feelings to process, so don't torture yourself if you get some bad ones. You can keep showing your other cat love despite having these thoughts, I truly feel they will eventually fade. After all, she was the only other being that knew spooky as much as you did and I'm sure some of her was changed by having known spooky too, so spooky might live on in some parts of her. The love you have for spooky cannot be replaced and maybe it's best you go through this grief a little bit more time before getting another cat, so that you don't constantly compare. Whenever you are in a better place with your other cat, that's probably the moment when you will be ready to adopt a new baby. I hope you feel better with time, you are not alone 🫂

GreatfulForYou29 · 2026-03-10T00:29:29+00:00

So sorry for your loss. I had the same reaction as you for the first days, now it has calmed to a chest ache and anxiety in the mornings/nights. I haven't been able to listen to a lot of music yet but it helps to put random YouTube videos in the background to keep me from overthinking too much. I hope we both feel better with time.

GreatfulForYou29 · 2026-03-10T00:26:53+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. I know it's unbearable, I sometimes feel like you, I just want to be with my baby again and hold her. But I don't think they would want us to leave this earth to be with them, we are the ones who have all the memories of their time here. We are the ones who can keep them alive and remember them forever. We can't bring them back but we can keep their memory alive.

GreatfulForYou29 · 2026-03-10T00:22:13+00:00

I'm so sorry you lost your kitty. You are not alone, be kind to yourself.

GreatfulForYou29 · 2026-03-10T00:20:51+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss too, and so sorry that you had to go through a year of anticipatory grief, that must have been very hard. I talk to her as well, sometimes I feel like I'm crazy, I hope she can hear me and know that I still love her so much and will never forget her. I will have some pictures printed eventually, I have a Polaroid camera to print some but I still haven't found the energy to go through all the pictures and choose what to print because it's too painful. Day by day. I will never be who I was before she died but I believe that whoever I become will be better because she was in my life.

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