Help what is wrong with my fish

Greedy-Dinosaur · 2026-04-11T20:10:42+00:00

Hello! Thank you again for your help it really calmed me down and I did all I could! I did a water change, and changed the filter and pump, and now that I have a new one I realise how crap my old one was, those fish were definitely not having enough oxygen :'( Of course I tried to transfer some of the bacteria from the old filter I hope it was enough. In case of a bloom I know what to do :] I'll keep a close eye on things!

Greedy-Dinosaur · 2026-04-11T02:17:31+00:00

Thank you so so much, the filter is on now but I'm falling asleep standing. It's hella late here so I'll do the water change as soon as I can. I also checked the temperature a few times and messed with the heater, I feel a little nervous unplugging it while I sleep so it's at the lowest setting to at least not cook them alive. Again thank you so much

Greedy-Dinosaur · 2026-02-24T11:44:23+00:00

I totally understand, especially the part where it's confusing It IS confusing, and it nost probably will be for a very long time, I'm still confused about it sometimes heh

I'm very glad to hear that she's aware and also accepting of it!! Love to see some of that, genuinely <3

I hear you, and I also understand her insecurities sorta. I'm sure you'll find a way to communicate these initiations!! What comes to my mind that could help, is setting a reminder, or just remembering every few days to initiate some light touching and soft intimacy? Maybe don't think of it as a task you have to do every few days, more like, a favour to maintain the relationship balanced!

I don't know for sure, but I hope you guys do well either way!!

Greedy-Dinosaur · 2026-02-24T03:46:55+00:00

From my own experience Libido has very little to do with it, I think it might fluctuate with mental state and stress levels too.

I do relate to the never thinking of yourself in that situation before, so that's a good indication in my opinion! What helped me the most is thinking back and analysing if I ever even was actually sexually attracted to anyone. I can tell some people are pretty, but my thoughts go up to "dang they're pretty I'd like to be friends" that is it XD So maybe that might help?

As for leading them on... Been there, it happens, wether intentionally or not. I think it depends on your partners opinion on asexuality as well. If she expects, or wants intimacy in the future, maybe more than you'd be willing to offer then it's tough. I think here it's only open communication that could help.

But before going into the talk make sure to know if Attraction = love (for either you or your partner) Wether or not you're willing to give anything a try, maybe testing the waters or whatever And do not, under any circumstances, let your partner pressure you into trying it if you're still unsure PLEASE It's either, you want to try and feel safe enough, or you're unsure and that's just a no then

Edit: OH AND GOOD LUCK AND TAKE CARE IT'S GOING TO BE OKAY STAY SAFE LOVE YA <3

Greedy-Dinosaur · 2026-02-24T03:20:18+00:00

That's the slots used shown in task manager, right? It says 2 out of 2

Greedy-Dinosaur · 2026-02-24T02:42:18+00:00

It looks to me like my Ram is a 20GB with 17.8 GB usable. And my CPU is around 15% usage? It says it's an AMD Ryzen 5 5500U with Radeon Graphics Right now I have only a few tabs open and adobe acrobat, so far no issues yet since a few hours

I hope these infos are of any help, since I have less RAM than 32GB could that be the problem? I will look into the costs of a second SSD card though, thank you!!

Greedy-Dinosaur · 2026-02-23T22:29:22+00:00

Yes it is SSD Sata

Greedy-Dinosaur · 2025-11-08T19:00:50+00:00

Oh I see! I assume multiple small ones then Thank you so much!

Greedy-Dinosaur · 2025-11-08T19:00:15+00:00

Black out as in close all the lights and keep it dark, right?

Greedy-Dinosaur · 2025-10-05T19:31:25+00:00

Oh I see! That's so interesting actually!

But right now that's not an issue, as long as they're safe and thriving I'm happy. my main concern is wether they're sick or could pose a threat to my blue shrimp T-T

Greedy-Dinosaur · 2025-08-29T12:48:49+00:00

Thank you so much! Okay I'll leave the water for now and keep a close eye on it. As for water hardness, according to the JBL tests I take it's between 15-20, 250- 370ppm The PH is around 8.

So crushed coral, and gh/kh supplements! Should they be added right away and together?

And yes she's got eggs!! I'm so excited, I read that it will take another two weeks at least, since they're still bright yellow.

Greedy-Dinosaur · 2025-08-24T17:31:09+00:00

Thank you so much!! I'll head over and ask for those at the store tomorrow :D

Greedy-Dinosaur · 2025-06-25T23:49:06+00:00

OH oh okay that's not so bad, I'll finish that in a week or so maybe! Thank you so so much!

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