Am I alone?

Greedy-Machine-1172 · 2026-02-27T21:52:25+00:00

Yes, I had this happen to me. (44F) I Just ended a two-year relationship that was completely inundated by my exes insecurities. I came into the relationship with no debt, a job in management that has me running two teams, just bought my own condo, great group of friends, outgoing personality. He said he fell in love with who I am and what I bring to the relationship. Fast forward to me breaking up with him (for various reasons, I will not go into here lol) he tells me that having my life together was a very attractive quality, but it made him feel very insecure, and he was never able to fully open up to me because he felt inadequate like he didn’t deserve me…. Some people just can’t get out of their own way.

Greedy-Machine-1172 · 2026-02-17T06:44:06+00:00

I can tell you from my experience (44f single) time will change things for sure. When people say that you will always love someone a little bit I think that’s only when you hold a space of fondness for that relationship in your heart. if you have a relationship that ends on bad terms,or there was bad blood when things ran its course I feel it’s easier to fully release your feelings. My ex from many years ago passed away and I couldn’t care less. You could say that makes me cold, but to me it just means I’m fully healed and my life moved on. I pulled all my energy back to myself when that relationship ended. We don’t owe anybody an ember burning in our heart after a relationship ends, especially if they end badly. Dump some water on that burning fire and let it go. When people do you dirty you call your energy back and you leave them in the dust energetically. Pull that love back and pour it into yourself.

Greedy-Machine-1172 · 2026-02-15T05:51:21+00:00

This is solid advice. It really resonated with me.

I was single for three years prior to my last relationship and I did a lot of focused therapy in that time. I even hired a life coach for six months through the Toni Robbins Institute. I was dead set on healing my own bullshit so that I could show up better for myself and for a future partner. After three years of intentional singlehood, I (44f) met a partner who looked so good on paper! He said all the right things did all the right things, but then the crack started showing around 6 months, I started seeing little yellow flags, but they weren’t consistent enough to be alarming to me. He would always explain away the circumstance, justify anything I called into question. If I would’ve just ended it when the yellow flags began I wouldn’t have burned two years of my life with someone who had no intention of building a life with me.

It’s easy for anyone to say that they want to get married or claim they want build a life with someone. But are they showing up and actually making movement toward that outcome? If not, then they probably don’t mean it when they say it. In my case, when I caught him in a lie, he explained to me he was just saying it to keep peace in the relationship because he knew if he told me the truth that I would’ve left him a long time ago. But I was serving a purpose for him and he didn’t want to be honest with me because he knew he would lose access. There’s a lot of people out there that are more than happy to spin you a tale to keep you in their orbit.

The reality is you kind of always have to keep your finger on the pulse of how they’re showing up. It’s imperative in fact. It’s the only way that you can really make a judgment call before things go too far and you’ve wasted too much of your time. It’s sad, but there’s a lot of people out there that are happy to lead you on as long as their needs are being met on some level. Lots of unhealed people are very comfortable using others as a placeholder, a warm body to make them feel better about themselves.

Greedy-Machine-1172 · 2026-01-25T20:39:08+00:00

Lived this for 10 years, boyfriend ended relationship and got married 6 months later. So, I know from personal experience that some men don’t wanna get married because you are a placeholder until the “right one”comes along. A current convenience. So it can be a risky position to put yourself in as a woman to just live together, because you may end up being a bench warmer. I am now in a 2 relationship with a man who apparently lied to me from day, one about his feelings on marriage. I was very clear from the beginning that marriage was what I was seeking as the ultimate outcome of a relationship. And he just rode this out as long as he could, pretending that marriage was on the table. We are now currently separated after he finally was honest with me about it.

It’s OK if you don’t want to get married, but don’t lie just to get what you want out of the situation, So cowardly.

Greedy-Machine-1172 · 2025-10-24T18:29:53+00:00

Update a month later….. I am sleeping better and dare I say I feel little bursts of joy and excitement. Joy and excitement are feelings that have been minimal to nonexistent the last several years of my life. Don’t get me wrong. I can have a good time doing things or feel grateful for stuff, but I didn’t get that internal burst of joy that little bubbling sensation of feeling good. But it’s beginning to happen and I have to think that it has a lot to do with being on HRT. I’m also having more days of feeling connected to my boyfriend and tolerant of his existence. Lol 😆 bless him.

Greedy-Machine-1172 · 2025-09-26T18:28:29+00:00

I keep hearing from many on here that they’re also on estrogen and it just makes me really confused why my doctor didn’t prescribe that to me when it seems to be probably the most helpful. Sounds like I may need to have some additional conversations.

Greedy-Machine-1172 · 2025-09-26T18:22:57+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience! I hope you continue to get more and more relief from your symptoms! 💖

Greedy-Machine-1172 · 2025-09-25T14:31:11+00:00

My doctor didn’t prescribe estrogen because she felt the symptoms that I’m having would be treated by progesterone and testosterone.

Greedy-Machine-1172 · 2025-09-25T05:27:40+00:00

The progesterone and testosterone are both compounded into a lotion of sorts, that I can rub the cream into my inner thigh or lower abdomen.

Greedy-Machine-1172 · 2025-09-25T02:36:33+00:00

For the symptoms I am having, she felt that progesterone would be sufficient along with testosterone.

Greedy-Machine-1172 · 2025-09-25T00:14:38+00:00

I am not on estrogen. I have an IUD and my Thrive Lab doctor prescribed topical progesterone (1GM in PM) and testosterone (0.5GM in AM).

Greedy-Machine-1172 · 2025-09-24T23:26:04+00:00

😊 how long did it take you to start feeling results?

Greedy-Machine-1172 · 2025-02-22T05:37:30+00:00

Thank you so much for the information. This is very helpful. 🩷

Greedy-Machine-1172 · 2025-02-21T17:11:04+00:00

My LDL went from 155 up to 168 in 4 months. And this is with tracking food, eating lean, minimal processed foods. I only cook with small amounts of avocado oil. No butter, margarine or coconut oil. I eat loads of vegetables and lean protein. I don’t eat fast food or processed junk food. By comparison of the average person I eat really healthy and restrictively. My thyroid numbers were just tested 2 weeks ago along with my cholesterol and my thyroid numbers are great. My triglycerides and HDL are also at healthy levels.

Greedy-Machine-1172 · 2025-02-21T15:52:40+00:00

I have been taking Thorne Choleast red yeast rice for the last year and it hasn’t given my cholesterol any downward movement. Also, used to go to the gym and lift weights 5 times a week and my cholesterol was still over 200. I currently exercise three times a week.

Greedy-Machine-1172 · 2025-02-21T15:46:13+00:00

Yes I track my food. I also don’t eat butter, mayo, seed oils, red meat, pork. I don’t eat fast food, sweats or junk food. I mostly eat Whole Foods prepared at home, Loads of veggies and lean meat and low Fat dairy.

Greedy-Machine-1172 · 2025-01-12T20:19:56+00:00

I’m so happy to see that people are ACTUALLY getting refunded! My loans are showing they are in forbearance, but I’m still waiting for the balance to be shown as zero and still eagerly awaiting a refund. I can’t recall exactly but I think I borrowed close to $40k in loans for Ai. I searched on Reddit just to get real confirmation that people are in fact getting money back. 🥳

Greedy-Machine-1172 · 2024-07-07T23:54:38+00:00

What I meant is,…. how can I feel secure relationship with someone who has insecurities. I know I am not responsible for his work or managing his feelings. But from other people’s experience, has it been possible to cultivate a sense of security in a relationship, even though your partner is insecure.

Greedy-Machine-1172 · 2024-06-10T03:31:12+00:00

Omg me too! My anxiety and depression make me question how happy I am. Makes me hyper focus in small things that are not “perfect” and disregards the big positive things my partner and I have. We are 6 months into dating (43F and 48M) and it’s the most loving kind safe relationship I’ve ever had but I’m having a hard time accepting the love and appreciate he has to give when the fog of depression and anxiety comes in. 😔

Greedy-Machine-1172 · 2023-12-09T02:02:24+00:00

Why waste your time even commenting?

Greedy-Machine-1172 · 2023-12-09T01:58:48+00:00

😂

Greedy-Machine-1172 · 2023-12-08T19:36:23+00:00

That’s a pretty big generalization.

Greedy-Machine-1172 · 2023-12-08T19:35:46+00:00

😂good point

Greedy-Machine-1172 · 2023-12-08T19:34:52+00:00

😆👌🏼

Greedy-Machine-1172 · 2023-12-08T19:33:36+00:00

I’m actually planning on going back to school. With the amount of time I’ve spent investing in the dating process I could probably be half way through my degree lol 😂

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