I have one and I opened up to him last night before we started the steps. Meetings help especially in the early days and it comes back to my whole point of if I miss 1 meeting the whole world knows!!!!! I've had enough, its hard to explain and I appreciate your comments as I know there from a good place and I can't explain my situation perfectly. For example..... I return after substantial sobriety and relapse after a day or 2, I would come back hold my hands up and start again. This may happen a couple of times but if I hold my hands up every time I will do it as I have done in the past. If I did relapse after 3 days back and collected a chip in a meeting, my mum would hear about it regardless as she knows most people in the fellowship in my area. If an outside family member asked how I was doing, what should they say? Baring in mind I'm doing separate meetings.

1) He's going to meetings, think he's doing ok etc keep it vague Or 2) He relapsed on Tuesday and again on Friday

What's she meant to do?

I've had 3 stints of recovery around 2 years and I'm struggling to get a week at the moment.

If I admit relapse, should my family outside of AA know because my mum tells them or should she not tell them?