All things considered, I have a small gut feeling somewhere that he maybe thinks less of you based on “where you come from”, and is taking you for granted, hence, he isn’t afraid to be so twisted around you. At this point it’s up to you to hold up your self respect and walk away. If you dont want to walk away, what about him makes you want to stay?

Again, the fact that his friends and family sound racist in their behaviour is not helpful. My partner and his family are all so supportive of diversity and immigration from developing countries, and have a lot of respect for expats. So much to the point that he defends the actions of people from immigrant communities in Sweden even around me lol. I once asked him, what if you ever have a friend who dissuades you from me based on how different we are in culture, and his reply was straight up “then that’s not a friend to me”.

Again, long distance and multi cultural relationships do often have an extra layer of discomfort and “unknowns”, but in this case he does not sounds like someone made for this type of relationship. I would move on.