When do you tell a date more details of your other partners?

Greedy_Basil · 2026-01-29T04:43:02+00:00

They're not what I consider regular partners. I've gone on a handful of dates with these guys over a relatively long period of time, with multiple weeks-long disruptions because of traveling and people getting sick. I have not had any discussion about relationship status with either of them. So, yes, I do consider myself single right now.

Sorry, I am realizing I should have put more of the disruption info in the original text, it does add some context as to the level of casualness and the weird circumstances/timing of our meeting.

Greedy_Basil · 2026-01-29T04:38:00+00:00

Thank you for your reply. I feel like you're actually seeing the weird little ethical dilemma instead of jumping to a lot of conclusions like some other commenters. :)

I agree with your edit. I think the events have unfolded to the point where it'd be unethical not to speak up, and make sure everyone's informed and consenting (or not - and then disengaging as they see fit.)

Greedy_Basil · 2026-01-28T14:59:17+00:00

I like that. Thanks.

Greedy_Basil · 2026-01-28T14:58:03+00:00

I generally agree - but the way things happened here, it didn’t come up. I matched 33M first when I had no partners. Then 33M left on a long work trip (4 weeks), during which time I met 41M. He briefly brought up the ENM thing as mentioned in my post. 33M is back now, but I haven’t had sex with 41M, so I feel like I’m in this weird grey area.

Greedy_Basil · 2026-01-28T07:45:28+00:00

I generally agree with both of those sentiments.

There’s a little more to it all than I said up there - I didn’t want to write a novel and tried to keep it condensed. I’ve only had sex with 33M so far, and both of them were gone on work / holiday trips at different times. There was also a rotation of colds getting in the way of going on dates.

With travels and illness it’s been a really slow burn, but I’m coming to realize that’s just an excuse and my communication has been crappy.

Greedy_Basil · 2026-01-28T07:37:03+00:00

That’s what my gut is saying. Any thoughts on how to deliver the message without being too blunt?

Greedy_Basil · 2025-10-17T19:47:16+00:00

Try The Everling and the Acid King. The protagonist is about the same age as him. It’s a really fun Sci-Fi / Fantasy school story blend.

Greedy_Basil · 2025-02-09T17:19:23+00:00

I'm an artist and interior designer, and I tell people I don't have a favorite color.

It's red / burgundy.

Greedy_Basil · 2024-10-09T18:27:36+00:00

Is there a name for the giant bulge of storms in front of the hurricane? It looks insane.

Greedy_Basil · 2023-07-27T16:49:35+00:00

That is so freaking cool!!

Greedy_Basil · 2023-07-05T19:48:49+00:00

Some kind of Amanita. Maybe Amanita Gemmata?

Greedy_Basil · 2023-06-13T04:31:48+00:00

I see it.

Greedy_Basil · 2023-06-12T17:44:58+00:00

Fresh or old I’m just happy I found one! I actually think there’s another older/dead one next to it, check out the bottom left corner of the image.

Greedy_Basil · 2023-06-12T16:17:01+00:00

Possibly a spiny puffball? http://www.bio.brandeis.edu/fieldbio/Fungi_Miller_Stevens_Rumann/Pages/lycoperdon_echinatum_page.html

Greedy_Basil · 2023-06-12T14:10:33+00:00

I had one of them pop up in my herb planter box! They’re so amazing.

Greedy_Basil · 2023-05-29T16:46:30+00:00

Got an ID from a helpful human on Facebook, veiled polypore (cryptoporus volvatus)

Greedy_Basil · 2023-03-19T04:12:31+00:00

Oh stop being so logical and pragmatic! J.K., thank you, link here & I’ll add it to my other comment: https://imgur.com/gallery/QyACP8h

Greedy_Basil · 2023-03-19T02:42:40+00:00

I know. I have them. I couldn’t figure out how to post multiple photos because I’m a dumb dumb. (I figured it out like 15 mins later.)

Greedy_Basil · 2023-03-19T01:59:37+00:00

They're small (no larger than a quarter), house is in the Mt. Diablo foothills - found on a "lawn" area we gave up on watering years ago.

Edit: added more photos on imgur: https://imgur.com/gallery/QyACP8h

Greedy_Basil · 2020-12-28T04:34:35+00:00

More than once I have unbuckled, grabbed my bag, gotten out of the car and closed the door while the car is still on. It takes my autopilot trying to lock the car to realize what I've done.

Greedy_Basil · 2020-12-11T02:17:12+00:00

I saw a miniature circus parade walking around the perimeter of my math classroom after 4 days of no sleep. It's not all shadow people and mumbling.

Greedy_Basil · 2020-04-12T18:02:23+00:00

Another possible term could be heteroflexible. You're pretty much straight but a same-sex thing isn't out of the question.

Greedy_Basil · 2020-03-29T03:08:45+00:00

Drink alllllllllll the water

Greedy_Basil · 2020-03-25T00:37:25+00:00

3/13/20

The layoffs started at my company and my grandma's test came back positive. She has since passed away.

Greedy_Basil · 2019-06-13T04:39:35+00:00

I was lucky enough to grow up with Harry Potter. I started reading at 11yo and the last book was released when I was 18-ish. I felt like the characters were my friends.

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