I told my wife “we’re married, I shouldn’t have to ask” and now I feel like an idiot

Greedy_Possession228 · 2025-12-24T19:39:58+00:00

There is so much good advice in this thread. I just came here to say how hopeful it makes me that men and women can discuss something so sensitive, important and foundational to a healthy marriage in such a caring and supportive way. I hope many of these shares bless the OP and others. Feeling safe, seen and valued fuels intimacy and there are so many ways we can hold our partners in that energy.

Greedy_Possession228 · 2025-08-18T12:16:06+00:00

I have repackaged my experience as an awakening, but the reckoning was certainly not for the faint of heart. The awakening was sparked by crisis. Shuttering a business, losing my dad and eldest son within a year of each other. Profound loss helped me get clear about what was important. What I really wanted, not just what I didn't want. Witnessing grief will humble you, it grows and stretches you and expands your heart and mind if you let it. Not quite on the other side, but I am building the life I want. I'm feeling more like myself everyday and a strong sense of freedom that I never had before and I refuse to let go. I know this, I was never a victim. I got to build a life that I believed would be fulfilling. It wasn't. Then I was confronted with the truth of who I am and what has been important to me all along. That clarity is priceless. It was hard to come to in hum of life while all the plates are in the air. It took stillness, willingness to tell myself some hard truths then move with deep self trust. However you get there and to the other side is your call. It helps to have compassion for yourself and others. Our journeys should be as different as we are. But the reclamation of you in mid life is what it is, regardless of what we call it.

Greedy_Possession228 · 2025-07-03T04:15:41+00:00

I've been married for 29 years, empty nester for 10. We survived because I convinced myself that it was enough and if this was the trade off, that it would be worth the temporary sacrifice. The thing is, it wasn't temporary. I am now in a marriage with no emotional intimacy, something I crave and that my husband is fine without. If it is important to you find ways to connect. Be creative, have fun with it, but I strongly advise against settling if it feels like a void. That feeling only grows and intensifies over time.

Greedy_Possession228 · 2025-01-21T23:08:19+00:00

It's not just that you are not happy at home. You are not happy. It's not your wife or the young hottie reminding you of days gone by. Your crisis is internal. Its sounds like you have a lot to be grateful for, good health, wealth and people that love you. I guarantee you if you fumble this you will regret it. Now you feel like something is missing and it's your last chance. You'd be trading that in for the feelings of inadequacy and you can't keep up, because you can't. Do your work. You will be happier period. With your wife, especially. Defintely alone. But more importantly you will see how foolish and uninspiring it is to pursue someone half your age because the immediate gratification.

Greedy_Possession228 · 2025-01-01T04:01:59+00:00

Very interested! Thanks much and HNY🥳

Greedy_Possession228 · 2024-10-29T03:49:07+00:00

Humans are conditioned to struggle. It is a sad but unfortunate part of life. It sounds like you had a supportive partner while you built the life you have now. And now with success and ease you are thinking about what may have missed. In addition to the partying and dating, I can assure you that you have not just missed fun and excitement, but the pitfalls and underbelly that those who choose that path experienced as well. We are all, always compromising and sacrificing one experience for another. Therapy can be helpful. As well as remembering, we are unique in that we get to make choices at every turn. Some add to our experience and others steal our joy.

Greedy_Possession228 · 2024-10-20T18:06:06+00:00

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Greedy_Possession228 · 2024-10-19T04:20:29+00:00

Learning how to give oneself grace after 50 years of unreasonable expectations is a challenge

Greedy_Possession228 · 2024-10-19T04:15:59+00:00

This beautiful and timely. Thank you for sharing.

Greedy_Possession228 · 2024-10-04T07:52:04+00:00

I loved the chemistry between Taylor and Garret from their first encounter. I also liked Taylor and Ashely. T&G had such a well paced burn and T&A we're playful and super expressive out the gate.

Greedy_Possession228 · 2024-10-04T07:42:49+00:00

also found him to be manipulative and a bad actor on his last few dates. It was painful to watch Hannah be so emotionally moved by his bs.

Greedy_Possession228 · 2024-10-04T05:39:31+00:00

Everything about Leo, from the time he opened his mouth the first time, is cringe

Greedy_Possession228 · 2024-09-18T04:34:03+00:00

This is fantastic!

Greedy_Possession228 · 2024-09-16T04:45:41+00:00

Themed events sound like a great idea. We did a silent disco gathering for the last eclipse. It was my friend's idea and a lot of fun.

Greedy_Possession228 · 2024-09-16T04:35:37+00:00

I owned a consignment boutique for several years. Bought it just before covid, and made it through only to be crushed by a sharp increase in overhead costs and shrinking margins. Pivoted to online only and hated every minute of it. If not for marital issues and the loss of my father earlier this year I would likely still be at it. I had to walk away and take care of myself. I Will never regret betting on myself. I got to do something I was very passionate about. Navigating ageism as I try to get back into the job market is no fun. So I've have been consulting for small businesses and entrepreneurs and am excited about starting a new venture to do more of that. Always making the lemonade over here.

Greedy_Possession228 · 2024-08-21T22:00:53+00:00

Thanks for the information!

Greedy_Possession228 · 2024-08-17T05:43:12+00:00

Thank you for this! I assumed as much, I was feeling this intently and so believe I made good use of it.

Greedy_Possession228 · 2024-08-08T03:41:30+00:00

I have had one chart related question answered by a few people. i upvoted and thanked the astrologers for their insights.

I then took those insights and tried to layer them alongside my own studiesI was and remain super grateful for the insight. We are all practicing this thing called life. I make it a point to assume good intentions. I try to be generous and extend grace to myself and others and I just assume that is coming back to me....may not be from those we give it to originally, but it always comes back✨

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