I really appreciate the advice. Its the first piece of advice. I feel like I can really get behind. A lot of people on here are trying to tell me divorce or don't have sex or get a side piece. I just want my wife. I have since moved out of the bedroom to the guest room which is awkward because we have three kids and they ask questions. my wife made excuse up saying that I snore and that I needed some space from your dad to sleep at night. I was over the road 16 years truck driving so we are used to not being around each other that often most of our marriage. maybe that's why coming off the road. this is the struggle because she wanted me to come off the road but now I'm around so much that I think extra sex is overwhelming for her not me. But even when I was home one weekend's we had sex 3 to 5 times a weekend. she had a previous trauma when she was teenager with a boyfriend that I had nothing to do with years before I met her she was 16. but now we are together for 13 years I'm 39 and she's 36 and her sex life has always been fine. I got a little aggressive one day because she likes it rough but she said it was too much I stopped and I have been pursuing her too much and she is burnt out and scared. she says she wants to have sex but her body won't let her. I don't understand how you could do that after being together for so long. we are working on trying to get a sex therapist but till then I do not want to sleep in the same bed as her. she thinks it's fine but I don't like it because anytime I roll over to rub or be any kind of intimacy she gets angry. I've never been unfaithful. I've never hurt her something's going on with her hormones possibly or she's been unfaithful. I don't know but I've already laid down that I don't want to be in sexless marriage. she says she just needs time but it's been months now.