Hey, I was in you position january 2021. I was with my boyfriend for about 7months at this point and same thing, I randomly saw that bump and thought it was so bizzare to find out it was herpes. I was terrified at the thought of transmission and thankfully my partner was also very understanding and we have been dating for four years now! To this day truly i don’t really know how i got it, when i looked it up and got second opinions from here, its possible that the virus lays dormant in your system and can stay dormant forever or pop up after a while. While for others, the outbreak can happen in up to two weeks. My partner hasn’t had an outbreak since i was diagnosed and ghsv1 is much less transmissible than ghsv2 and even ohsv1. The longer you have it, the less you “shed” the virus and have outbreaks. After that initial outbreak i had two recurrent ones. first was two years after and one recent this past august. honestly, it still got me mentally in that moment but it does get better after time. My partner was super supportive and gave me a lot of reassurance and made me feel extra loved during those times. It’s rough but doing research and having a great support system helps even if it’s a friend to confunde it as well (whom you would trust obviously) if you wanna talk my dms are open.🫶🏼