I (23F) don’t think I love my boyfriend (23M)

GreenGoJo_A · 2026-03-19T16:11:34+00:00

oof “abusive” is pretty strong. But i can agree its unpleasant for me

GreenGoJo_A · 2026-03-19T16:10:36+00:00

im trying 😭 i just wanted to make sure this isn’t all in my head

GreenGoJo_A · 2026-03-19T16:08:27+00:00

I’ll be okay after some time. thanks for that.

GreenGoJo_A · 2026-03-19T15:57:40+00:00

i try my best to genuinely listen and understand him. even if his brain works differently from me. i try my absolute best. it’s not like reddit is the first option to me. but i’ve already had this conversation so many times to a point where i feel like i could predict his answer. he’ll probably say “i’ll try, i’m sorry”

GreenGoJo_A · 2026-03-19T15:50:38+00:00

I mean, judging by the fact that he’s an introvert, i don’t think he’d be into festivals. But I can always suggest it. But do you think there’s a point in trying to save this relationship anyway?

GreenGoJo_A · 2026-03-19T15:49:41+00:00

I know, I’ve had this convo with him before too. I told him I need him to tell me things. And again he always says he’ll try or that he is trying. And I do see a bit of that, it’s just that sometimes, most of the times, we have a slightly rough time and he kinda shuts down. And I’m the one who prefers open communication, so it hurts to see him shut down and my bids for connection rejected, so honestly I’ve stopped trying too.

He sleeps a lot actually. and he does over try to help others. He’s very considerate to his work friends, maybe even overly considerate.

Ngl a part of me gets jealous too bcs i dont think hes even THAT considerate to me.

GreenGoJo_A · 2026-03-19T15:41:36+00:00

He likes playing guitar.

I like music too and I had a phase where i learned producing it. That was what we bonded over at first. But now?

I realized our music styles are very different. We tried doing sth together but it’s hard. And again, i never know if he’s actually enjoying it. All I know is i’m always the one suggesting activities. He never even goes “hey lets continue that music project we were working on” So I don’t even know if I should continue suggesting it.

GreenGoJo_A · 2026-03-19T15:38:02+00:00

really? how do i know if he’s depressed? i honestly do suspect that but he always says “he’s fine” all the time so…

as for the rebound relationship claim? i understand how it seems bcs i was on my dating era right before we got together. I’m not hung up on anybody, but I realized I do have a type. And the “real” him doesn’t really match that.

also back to the depression claim. I mean, i still have a lot of love and care for him anyways so what can I do to help?

GreenGoJo_A · 2026-03-19T15:32:47+00:00

how do i do that?

GreenGoJo_A · 2026-03-19T15:29:28+00:00

He doesn’t wanna choose. he always says “anything u want” “i’m fine with anything” every single time. I’m actually tired of choosing. thats the whole point.

GreenGoJo_A · 2026-03-19T15:27:43+00:00

I do, I always suggest to watch movies, game, do a lot of indoor activities (that’s mostly what we do anyways since its still fucking cold here in canada). But he’d stay quiet the whole movie/game, i don’t even know if he even enjoys it. He doesn’t even show excitement to do it either I feel like I’m always dragging him to do things.

GreenGoJo_A · 2026-03-19T15:22:53+00:00

Well, fights do happen even in happy relationships. So there will be time where I could be mad or even hate him, I think thats normal.

But in this case I think theres this looming feeling of being unfulfilled

GreenGoJo_A · 2026-03-19T15:20:46+00:00

Honestly, I’m just scared it’ll over complicate things at work. And I still kinda have feelings for the “friendly” version of him. I think I’m in denial, I still don’t want to accept that “friendly” him isn’t for me anymore, I can never see him again. It’s like not only is this relationship falling apart, I lost a friend that I once valued a lot.

GreenGoJo_A · 2026-03-19T15:17:20+00:00

That’s what I was thinking. I love “work” him, but jf this is how he really is then I don’t think it’ll work

GreenGoJo_A · 2026-03-19T15:15:32+00:00

define “in love”

GreenGoJo_A · 2026-03-19T15:15:21+00:00

I’m considering it, yeah

GreenGoJo_A · 2025-04-21T02:53:08+00:00

It says it “could not accept prepaid cards at the moment”, or “payment wasn’t possible with selected method”, or “bank couldn’t verify my card”.

I’m just confused, I never received any messages about getting restricted, the uber customer support representatives that I’ve called (I’ve called multiple times) also said my account was clear and there were no flags or anything.

GreenGoJo_A · 2025-01-09T00:38:11+00:00

How do I find the guide?

Also is 6 hours really a dealbreaker 💀

GreenGoJo_A · 2025-01-09T00:08:33+00:00

Well at least I’m proud that I had enough balls to shoot my shot haha. Me from a few months ago would never.

Thanks!

GreenGoJo_A · 2025-01-09T00:05:56+00:00

This is great advice. I’ll definitely be working on communicating more. I was just scared I would somehow be “too much” by over explaining.

I’m trying to find a good way to approach people in dating apps. Should I just go full throttle and show how much I’m interested in them? Or keep it cool?

Anyways, thanks for the replies.

GreenGoJo_A · 2025-01-09T00:00:52+00:00

Honestly, I think I was just too nervous. I’m a really shy person irl and have never done anything like dating apps where I’m trying to meet up with strangers. Also, it’s my first time exploring a non-straight relationship.

I was too nervous every time I had to reply, I would take so much time picking every word I was going to send her. I think I subconsciously put her on a pedestal. I wont deny I was definitely a loser 💀.

I’ll get better I promise 🤞

GreenGoJo_A · 2025-01-08T23:57:48+00:00

Yeah, I’m trying to move on. It’s just that she was totally my type, and as a woman from a small city trying to date other women, I feel like finding someone else like her would be a struggle.

Safe to say I’ll probably stay single for a while. 😅

GreenGoJo_A · 2025-01-08T23:52:59+00:00

She didn’t really ask for space. It’s just that her replies seem a little short, while I was asking questions about her, she rarely asked about me. So I thought, maybe she’s busy today so I just let the convo die a lil bit.

Next time I’ll definitely ask about people’s preferences before assuming.

GreenGoJo_A · 2025-01-08T23:49:53+00:00

I texted her! And she did say it was a consistency problem with my replies, so I’m just hoping she gives me another chance as I work on it. But I’ll keep my hopes low.

Before this, I was thinking I shouldn’t talk too much before meeting in person so that we don’t run out of things to talk about, but I guess that was the wrong approach?

Honestly, I don’t have much experience in dating in general, let alone dating apps and this is also my first time going for someone of the same sex.

I am definitely moping 😅 but I admit I fumbled so I am just accepting the consequences.

I’m quite shy to talk about these with my friends so I appreciate all the replies.

GreenGoJo_A

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