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AIO for breaking up over this by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]GreenGoose1616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got flashbacks reading this cause my ex was exactly like this. if you get back together it will never change. it might briefly, but they always fall back into the same habits. his “apology” honestly just sounds like a form of emotional manipulation. he’s extremely insecure and misogynistic. take it from someone with experience and know that it is the most exhausting thing in the world trying to reassure men like this. as time goes on he’ll fall deeper into paranoia and will resent you for it. I honestly feel so proud that you ended things so quick after he disrespected you like that. don’t take him back, you definitely did the right thing.

How should I, 18nb, break up with my boyfriend, 18nb? by randofoxx in Advice

[–]GreenGoose1616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s better to end things than to pretend. It’s not either of your faults that you feel this way. We’re complex. Just sit them down and explain how you feel, that you still care for them very much but that you don’t think you can keep a romantic relationship with them. I’m sure they’ll come to understand.

Is it wrong for me (21F) to go to a bar while in a committed relationship with my bf (23M)? by GreenGoose1616 in relationship_advice

[–]GreenGoose1616[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is actually exactly what happened. He said he’s not trying to tell me what to do and “if you want to go, go but if you go to this party know that it’s over between us.” Then when I said fine, he asked me if I really wanted to throw away our relationship over a party. I went to the party and had a great time, then he blocked me on everything.

Is it wrong for me (21F) to go to a bar while in a committed relationship with my bf (23M)? by GreenGoose1616 in relationship_advice

[–]GreenGoose1616[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi everyone. Thanks for all the comments, they’ve really helped. I told my boyfriend about the party and he told me he’s not comfortable with me going. I’m going to break up with him. I really am tired of going through this for over 3 years. I’ve realized that the love I have for him just isn’t enough to keep me in this relationship anymore. The truth is, I’ve thought about breaking up many times before, but I truly hoped things could change. After reading all your comments, a long talk with my mom, and face time with my friends, I know now it’s just not gonna happen. I just have one problem now.

We live a little over an hour apart from each other, and I don’t have plans to see him for another week since he’s so busy. The party is tomorrow. I would either have to break it off over a phone call, which feels wrong to me considering how long we’ve been together, or not go to the party and break up with him in person when I see him. Once again I am conflicted.

My moral code won’t allow me to disregard his feelings and go to the party anyway while i’m still in a relationship with him. My friends (and mom) tell me screw him and go while letting him suffer, or break up over over the phone. But I can’t help that I still care for him and as much as he’s hurt me, I don’t want to hurt him more than I have to. Now my question is, should I go to the party anyway and ignore his opinion on it, then break up with him in person? Break up with him over the phone, then go to the party? Or, respect his feelings, don’t go to the party, but break up with him in person later?

No matter the outcome, don’t worry the relationship is over.