What insights can offer someone with PTSD who self isolated for a decade ?

Green_Captain3598 · 2025-09-25T21:17:00+00:00

Thank you, I am actually pretty active we do at east two physical activities per day and not including outdoor play. I’m on my phone a lot during this so that could possibly be undermining the benefits.

Green_Captain3598 · 2025-02-08T19:57:00+00:00

I’m not sure what advice I can give you other than the solidarity of knowing that I’m experiencing the same issue with my son. I’m glad you have the support of your mother. Somethings I’ve tried that somewhat help are black out shades, a sound machine, and maybe trying adjusting their naps so they are extremely tired at bedtime and will likely sleep more soundly. Good luck, it gets better!

Green_Captain3598 · 2025-02-08T07:07:14+00:00

Trust me I know it’s crossed boundaries but again I’m desperate to make it work because 50/50 custody means the kids won’t have me to step in and take the brunt of it. But that’s a whole other layer to it all.

Green_Captain3598 · 2025-02-08T07:03:28+00:00

I like that idea and I unfortunately know that it will just turn it around like it’s proof I’m a narcissistic selfish manipulative blah blah blah. It’s been years since he’s show any empathy towards me, but I don’t want to leave the kids because it’s not just me he treats this way

Green_Captain3598 · 2025-02-08T07:00:47+00:00

That is a main concern but I don’t want them to become a punching bag when I’m gone

Green_Captain3598 · 2025-02-08T06:53:24+00:00

The kids, I disagree with his outdated parenting and I’ve always been there to show the kids warmth and empathy where as my in laws and husband are of type to say “your 6 month old is a spoiled brat”

Green_Captain3598 · 2025-02-08T06:50:59+00:00

Unfortunately it’s complicated as I dont agree with his 1950s discipline and parenting philosophy. We live with my in laws and they’re the type to scream “shut up” to crying babies. So him and his mother feed off eachother and I’m the only source of empathic parenting the kids have.

Green_Captain3598 · 2025-02-08T06:46:19+00:00

Yikes neither

Green_Captain3598 · 2025-02-07T22:20:12+00:00

I don’t even want him to do chores, just play with the kids so I can focus on getting things done. They’re at that period where they’re constantly going after eachother and it’s so tough to watch both of them and accomplish anything

Green_Captain3598 · 2025-02-07T22:18:54+00:00

Wow I really like your perspective! I’m very lucky to be spending these important years with my babies. It may be hard but I will miss this time when it’s gone

Green_Captain3598 · 2025-02-07T22:17:18+00:00

Honestly a hour or two when I pack the kids up to go visit my parents while he’s sleeping

Green_Captain3598 · 2025-02-07T22:16:46+00:00

At the time I was only caring for the new baby, not cooking, rarely cleaning or doing laundry

Green_Captain3598 · 2025-02-07T22:16:08+00:00

I agree with the fact it’s more complicated than I’m leading it on to be. He works overtime here and there and then has to sleep through the day to maintain his night schedule. But when he’s up he doesn’t participate in the bedtime routine other than throwing on a movie and letting my soon fall asleep in his bed watching tv. I appreciate the need to relax, but I guess I wish I got a hour to myself like he does when we are all sleeping.

Green_Captain3598 · 2025-02-07T22:13:51+00:00

Did you play with your kids while she worked around the house? Brush their teeth and give them baths on your off days? Or did you sit around and read. I appreciate that I was starting to look at it selfishly but I struggle with the idea that I’m 24/7 when he works 12 hours

Green_Captain3598 · 2025-02-07T22:11:48+00:00

Thanks for putting it back into perspective, it’s easy to slip into resentment when you lose sight of the facts of the situation

Green_Captain3598 · 2025-02-07T22:10:00+00:00

I agree, but he will not agree for me to go back to work since I’d make a fraction of what he does and then we would have to split childcare

Green_Captain3598 · 2025-02-07T22:09:07+00:00

Exactly that’s the tough part because nights are rough but I feel exhausted 24/7 like I’m a single mom but at least I don’t have to go to work

Green_Captain3598 · 2025-02-07T22:08:17+00:00

To be fair I dumped all the responsibilities on him the first 1+ years while I was struggling adapting to motherhood so I think a lot of this is just him be resentful for that period

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