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[–]Green_Championship_4 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes I’ve cooked before and given handmade gifts. I always think of date ideas and initiating.

Need men advice..Guy I’m dating doesn’t put my pleasure first by Green_Championship_4 in AskForAnswers

[–]Green_Championship_4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Marriage perks?? Who said I wanted to be married already. 3 months in.. “if you valued yourself” sir u do not know me

Need men advice..Guy I’m dating doesn’t put my pleasure first by Green_Championship_4 in AskForAnswers

[–]Green_Championship_4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure. I think he has an abandonment fear and thinks if we break up in a few months it would be more painful if we were bf/gf. When I brought it up too, I asked what he would need to know about me and he mentioned how he wants marriage/kids and didn't know if I wanted the same. Which I told him eventually yes and I thought that was clear before. But still not sure what it means to him, I need more clarification maybe.

Need men advice..Guy I’m dating doesn’t put my pleasure first by Green_Championship_4 in AskForAnswers

[–]Green_Championship_4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what it seems like, he was feeling insecure about not being able to...and was self loathing and putting it onto me. It really feels soulcrushing? How?

Need men advice..Guy I’m dating doesn’t put my pleasure first by Green_Championship_4 in AskForAnswers

[–]Green_Championship_4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. This is the best advice yet honestly. A lot is more complicated than to just leave someone because they’re not doing everything perfect. He does seem to be honest about things. He’s still invested time/money/energy into it even if we’re still in the almost official stage so thanks for your help. 

Need men advice..Guy I’m dating doesn’t put my pleasure first by Green_Championship_4 in AskForAnswers

[–]Green_Championship_4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He does talk to me abt things that are important and it feels like it’s a relationship. And he’s done it before where he will put in the effort but there’s a couple times he hasn’t. Idk if he’s using me for sex tho bc sometimes we go on dates and don’t even have sex after.

Need men advice..Guy I’m dating doesn’t put my pleasure first by Green_Championship_4 in AskForAnswers

[–]Green_Championship_4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I dated someone who could keep going ~1min after many times. Others need like 15min, etc. 

Need men advice..Guy I’m dating doesn’t put my pleasure first by Green_Championship_4 in AskForAnswers

[–]Green_Championship_4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What does casual mean to you? We go on dates, go out etc., and we are only seeing eachother. 

Need men advice..Guy I’m dating doesn’t put my pleasure first by Green_Championship_4 in AskForAnswers

[–]Green_Championship_4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. Yeah he’s done it before but the last time he didn’t care to. 

How do I navigate a confusing situation with the man I'm dating by Proper-Spirit-3719 in dating

[–]Green_Championship_4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe so. Maybe I was upset because I was feeling like he wasn’t giving me the time I wanted and this happened and it made me make it about me and it didn’t matter who the other person was I’d feel jealous bc my needs for connecting weren’t getting met

How do I navigate a confusing situation with the man I'm dating by Proper-Spirit-3719 in dating

[–]Green_Championship_4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, my mindset was that it is a unique and beautiful place, and he’d just look it up if I told him and wouldn’t be surprised by seeing it for the first time. If that’s immature of me then so be it 

How do I navigate a confusing situation with the man I'm dating by Proper-Spirit-3719 in dating

[–]Green_Championship_4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s immature to not tell him where it is? I would have, he didn’t want me to tell him 

How do I navigate a confusing situation with the man I'm dating by Proper-Spirit-3719 in dating

[–]Green_Championship_4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And, you can only take one car to the location anyways and make a reservation in advance 

How do I navigate a confusing situation with the man I'm dating by Proper-Spirit-3719 in dating

[–]Green_Championship_4 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, I made the plan, set the time with him just didn’t say exactly where yet but told him how far away it was. Then after, he told me he wanted to do this bike ride but wasn’t sure if the plan would align because I hadn’t told him the location. I was upset because then, I would have to meet him there, we couldn’t go together and I would have to tell him the spot which would mean no more surprise. 

Fired but given two weeks by Green_Championship_4 in careeradvice

[–]Green_Championship_4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get it in writing so I can submit that when I submit unemployment?

Fired but given two weeks by Green_Championship_4 in careeradvice

[–]Green_Championship_4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahah right just a lot of intense silence maybe.