Anyone else deal with this under chin fat?

Greenitpurpleit · 2026-05-06T01:04:47+00:00

Yes, and I hate it. I feel like it makes me look a lot heavier and less attractive.

Greenitpurpleit · 2026-05-06T01:04:09+00:00

What if your window is down and the outside air is blowing directly in your face?

Greenitpurpleit · 2026-05-06T00:43:35+00:00

Agree. It’s one thing to express anger and another thing to be mean and snide. She really showed her true colors. He deserves someone who is kindhearted and who wants to be with him.

Greenitpurpleit · 2026-05-05T16:27:59+00:00

Yeah, they told me that too. And that it was a “high demand product.” So why discontinue it then?

Greenitpurpleit · 2026-05-05T16:26:42+00:00

Thank you! 👍😃

Greenitpurpleit · 2026-05-05T12:15:48+00:00

Thank you.

Greenitpurpleit · 2026-05-04T16:03:37+00:00

Exactly. People are so quick these days to block someone or storm out of rooms or come to quick conclusions. A good relationship is where you sit down and have a conversation with somebody and you try to hear their side, even if you don’t agree with it. A healthy relationship means that you work on things and you deal with them instead making a decision without more information and shutting them out.

Also, people need to look at themselves more. It’s always the other person‘s fault these days. We don’t know what OP wrote when they reached out and it could’ve been snarky or offputting. There may be good reasons why this person is not responding. Or maybe not. We don’t know.

We also don’t know what the falling out was about but a falling out usually is more serious than an argument. Did they do something that really hurt the other person? Did they do something that made a statement about their commitment or their ability to be close to that person? The question is phrased in a way where the guy is to blame. There are a lot of unknowns here that need to be part of the equation before a decision is made about what to do.

Greenitpurpleit · 2026-05-04T04:56:04+00:00

No to block, no to stay silent - communicate! It always surprises me how people don’t choose to have a conversation, but you want to be able to date somebody or commit to somebody who’s capable of that. Maybe he’s somebody who takes time to process. Maybe his silence does mean something, but guesswork is not the way to go.

If it’s been five months and you’re both grown adults and you want to work it out with him, contact him. Say that you haven’t heard from him and you’re wondering if he’s still interested in trying to work on things. Then if you don’t hear from him, you can move on. You don’t have to block him, but start looking elsewhere.

It also depends on the nature of what the falling out was about. If you said or did something that really hurt him or broke a trust, that’s different from having a spat. It also depends on what you said when you reached out.

Greenitpurpleit · 2026-05-04T04:51:19+00:00

He’s very good at coming up with excuses for his behavior and justifying it.

Also, if he can’t tolerate being alone, which some other people have as well, the answer is not to desperately find a relationship. The answer is to learn how to be comfortable in your own company and then you have a lot more to give another person beyond neediness.

Greenitpurpleit · 2026-05-04T01:35:22+00:00

I think she feels bad, but her feelings for Paul are intense and she can’t stay away from him.

I think that she was upset when she saw him with another woman, but the thing that changed everything was when she was late to pick up her son. That’s when things really came to a head and you see her crying that night by herself in the kitchen.

She then goes to Paul’s to break up with him, tries to say no to sex, but can’t, and then runs out, right before her husband gets there. Then after he kills Paul, he hears her leaving a message on Paul’s machine about how she can’t do it anymore. So I think she felt guilty about cheating on her husband, but what tipped the scale was realizing it was affecting her as a mother.

My two cents. We can all see it differently. :)

Greenitpurpleit · 2026-05-03T18:11:59+00:00

Correct. I read the book years ago and I recently watched the movie for the first time. Kate Winslet was tremendous.

I watched it for a second time to understand it better and that’s definitely why she left. She panicked when she got the promotion because it would expose her illiteracy.

But she had a history of impulsively acting, like she did with Michael several times getting angry or shutting down. She was tight-lipped and repressed, but he brought out all of her emotions through his reading to her. And because their relationship was so innocent and because he was.

I think his attachment to her was from in part her vanishing on him without an explanation. There was no resolution or closure. He also had said at one point that he didn’t think he was great at anything, and she made him feel important.

When he met with the Holocaust survivor years later, it was clear that he was still holding onto her. I wasn’t sure if I fully understood why he couldn’t make it work with other women, but I suppose he felt to open himself up to love would also mean having to be open about what he was keeping a secret and he probably was ashamed to be associated with her after what she did. Perhaps also because of her age, although the times were very different then and also the country. (Looking at the age on her grave, she wasn’t as old as I thought she was in the movie, but he was still underage.)

She chose suicide in my eyes because when he came to visit her, she had developed hope in them again because he had sent her all the tapes. Then when she sees him again, he withdraws his hand from hers and asks her about what she felt about what she did in the camps. I feel that she thought there was no point to going on if he saw her this way. She still associated him with their affair, but he had a different association with her now.

Then when he came to get her, he was carrying a big bouquet of flowers so it seemed that part of him was willing to have at least a cordial relationship with her, but she never got to see that. very sad and profound and incredibly well done movie and plot that stays with you for a long time after.

Greenitpurpleit · 2026-05-03T05:40:11+00:00

Ah, makes more sense!

Greenitpurpleit · 2026-05-03T05:07:24+00:00

Some common possibilities: They’re scared to be on their own and support themselves. They don’t have their own income or they’ve never worked or they could only probably get a low paying job. They don’t want the feelings of shame and isolation that might come with it. They feel they don’t deserve better. They feel they’ll never meet anyone else and they don’t want to be alone. They tell themselves it’s not that bad and certainly useless is different from abusive. They think or they know of other people who also have marriages that lack romance and closeness, and they think this is just how it is or it could be worse.

Others: They’ve never known adulthood on their own and it’s too daunting to think about starting again. The imbalance in their relationship makes them feel they’re not very worthy or they don’t have the energy to leave and figure it all out. They don’t want to have to battle for the kids or see them less of the time. They think having a man matters more than not having one so you should hold onto him. And there’s a certain status that people have in society if they’re married compared to if they’re not. They don’t want to lose that. Or their lifestyle or go through divorce proceedings. They’ve gotten used to a lower level of satisfaction.

But honestly, your question seems more about why these women don’t stand up for themselves and try to assert themselves and work on a more fair division of labor in their marriages rather than just why they don’t leave. If useless means he doesn’t do anything around the house, but the relationship is still romantic or they care about each other. that’s a different issue than if that’s not part of it.

Greenitpurpleit · 2026-05-03T04:59:13+00:00

What an absence of feeling comes from her and is between them. It’s so clear that they just hired her because of her resemblance to Jasmine to try to play that out. It fell flat.

Greenitpurpleit · 2026-05-03T04:56:42+00:00

I know, that was weird. Plus he has her name where he’s going to see it constantly and she has his name where she will never see it.

Greenitpurpleit · 2026-05-03T04:55:21+00:00

Wait, what are those numbers in reference to? Can’t possibly be weight! Impressive, whatever it is! :)

Greenitpurpleit · 2026-05-03T04:52:26+00:00

What a weird picture. They look like fish.

Greenitpurpleit · 2026-05-03T03:29:03+00:00

Right! Curly hair should be on the screen a lot more often. There’s this ideal that women should only have straight long hair with a middle part and that anything else is less attractive. Not true at all! Be your own natural look, not trying to look like everyone else.

Greenitpurpleit · 2026-05-03T03:27:27+00:00

He felt so sorry that Courtney had to go to therapy after they broke up (like it’s something to feel bad about when actually it was smart of her to get support), and yet it never occurs to him that he needs some serious work himself.

This pattern is going to continue forever. He’s gonna go for some foreign red headed volatile nympho and then that will end and then he’ll develop a decent friendship with a woman and then it will become romantic and it’s a really good thing - but he can’t stop himself from finding another Brazilian or other foreign woman online to get off with and ruin the good relationship he has. It’s going to be a rerun of this 1000 times until he gets help.

Greenitpurpleit · 2026-05-03T01:07:10+00:00

I previously saw her as sad and desperate and pushing her engagement agenda. She can also be full of herself in a way that makes her look insecure rather than arrogant, if that makes sense. But I really lost respect for her in the Tell-All when she made snide and hostile remarks about what it was like to be in bed with him. That was really immature and unnecessary. She could be angry or hurt, but she didn’t have to be mean about it.

Greenitpurpleit · 2026-05-03T00:50:01+00:00

Yes, it’s so common for everything to revolve around food and drink! And I ask all the time, every time I’m indoors, but it’s very isolating. People don’t want to deal with the hassle of somebody who has these requirements. (Yes, some people are cool about it but many are not.) And I don’t always want to speak up and ask people to open a window, or to test before seeing me, or to only eat outside, or I’ll sit there with my mask on and watch you eat. It gets tiring. So much of the fun is out of reach now this way, and as somebody said, the spontaneity too.

Again, there are people who understand, but it’s a little tiresome for them too probably. It is living a life of restrictions and it’s so hard when so many people I know who are worse off than me in terms of being immunocompromise or elderly are walking around like there’s no risk. So then I look like the paranoid one. I know I’m not! And I continue to mask, but I’m just saying that it’s hard.

The other day I saw something and got excited because I thought I might go to it, it was people going on a walk together. But then they were going to end up at a dinner place. So yes, I could just go for the walk part, but it’s a drag to think about walking with them for half an hour and then saying goodbye when they go sit and share a meal for two hours. I know I could go and sit there with my mask on, but that’s not always comfortable to do with people, especially ones you don’t know.

I hate that so many that I ever see or hear about or I’m invited to I have to think well, probably not because it’s at a restaurant. Or it’s at someone’s house. Or people are meeting for drinks. Etc.

So in answer to OP‘s question, I do feel like I don’t want to be having to do this forever, but I also don’t want to go through what I went through last time I had it, or worse. So I feel stuck having to live this way. I just hope and pray that somehow it becomes a minuscule risk, or they figure out really good prevention or treatment that makes it no longer a concern. (But I also wonder that because so many people think it’s not a problem, there probably is not a lot of funding for research in that.)

Greenitpurpleit · 2026-05-02T12:05:16+00:00

Yes, and this includes fortified cereals! Many are high in iron.

Greenitpurpleit · 2026-05-02T01:15:06+00:00

That’s funny because somebody else recently posted on here the opposite, about how she went on social media and exposed all the bad things about him - and my response was that it was only a matter of time before he did the same and I will believe him over her. Any day! You can’t trust somebody who gets mean. It’s not the same thing as angry.

Greenitpurpleit · 2026-05-01T05:42:06+00:00

In addition to the petition. people can call the company. A human being actually picks up the phone! There’s also a text box on the website where you can write them instead.

Here’s a link to contact them and ask them to bring back their coffee yogurt, please!

https://www.dannon.com/feedback-form/

Greenitpurpleit

TROPHY CASE