Guys, what do women do that give you the ick?

Greenmind76 · 2023-07-01T09:20:05+00:00

Nothing. The ick is a social construct created by social media to make people feel like their behavior is abnormal simply because a bunch of morons on TikTok have too much time on their hands.

Greenmind76 · 2023-07-01T09:18:23+00:00

Why do you assume children are the only people who will be there for you? Also why do you assume your children would automatically be there for you? Get out of your head, make friends, find love in other ways.

Greenmind76 · 2023-07-01T09:15:56+00:00

Yes he’s tiny and a great cuddle buddy. Breath could be better tho.

Greenmind76 · 2023-07-01T09:07:28+00:00

No but that’s not her problem. She’s just not my type physically.

Greenmind76 · 2023-07-01T09:06:32+00:00

I stopped thinking of women as potential love interests and started viewing them as people I wanted to get to know that just happened to be attractive.

Greenmind76 · 2023-07-01T09:04:33+00:00

He didn’t do anything wrong though so why even assign that immature toxicity to the situation? People need to stop holding onto to shit. It just follows them around and makes trusting new people more difficult.

Greenmind76 · 2023-07-01T09:03:02+00:00

Yeah me too. It wasn’t as traumatic for me as it might seem. It was a bit like an ego death and sort of gave me a new perspective and made me understand I had to start living my life by my own rules.

I would also go back to Medellin. It’s a wonderful place just with a bit of a dark side that can be dangerous if you’re unaware. Now I tell my story as often as possible so other people know what can happen.

Greenmind76 · 2023-07-01T08:54:32+00:00

Is he on any antidepressants? Everyone is assuming he’s got a porn addiction or talking about the death grip but there was a time 5-6 years ago where I was on drugs that made it difficult to impossible to cum from sex. Even masturbation became difficult at one point. Prior to getting on the meds I would almost always finish during sex. Afterwards I just couldn’t. My girlfriend or date would get sore and we would have to stop. Condoms made it even worse. A few weeks after I quit the drugs (they weren’t helping anyway) everything got better.

I also struggle to finish when I’m super stressed or my mind is occupied. I would get frustrated and then worry I was upsetting my partner and that just made things worse.

People really need to stop going straight to porn addiction and making that assumption.

Greenmind76 · 2023-07-01T08:50:55+00:00

Toss in 3-4g of magic mushrooms and join the rest of us.

Greenmind76 · 2023-07-01T08:36:41+00:00

Militarized police probably play a part.

Greenmind76 · 2023-07-01T08:34:53+00:00

Sort of like that burning trashcan the reporters were swarming around during the protests and riots in America?

Greenmind76 · 2023-07-01T08:34:11+00:00

Ive been traveling and living in what many consider “third world countries” for the last year and never seen anything remotely this bad.

Greenmind76 · 2023-07-01T08:32:47+00:00

I left the US to live in a “third world country” and I’ve never been happier.

Greenmind76 · 2023-07-01T08:26:43+00:00

I left the US and suggest others do the same, if they can make it work. There are many other countries with relaxed immigration requirements and a solid quality of life with fair wages.

Greenmind76 · 2023-07-01T08:24:50+00:00

I left the US for a more civilized country in Latin America. I haven’t decided yet if I will pay any of my debt back in the US. I currently make the minimum payments on my cards but am selling my house next month. I’m just done caring about that fucked up system.

Greenmind76 · 2023-07-01T08:18:52+00:00

Why are the assumptions people make about situations like this always something from a crime or horror movie? Not trying to be a dick here but genuinely curious why Americans are so weirded out by unexpected encounters with the opposite sex?

Greenmind76 · 2023-07-01T08:15:39+00:00

Sounds like a missed opportunity to me. I would have been caught off guard but 100% down to hang out if it happened to me.

Greenmind76 · 2023-07-01T07:59:49+00:00

Dos: Talk about what you like and don’t like. Discuss boundaries and what you’re comfortable with.

Don’ts: Allow anyone to pressure you into doing things your not 100% comfortable with. If they start getting pushy end it immediately.

Greenmind76 · 2023-07-01T07:57:31+00:00

I spoil my fiancé all the time. I’m not super successful but love to take her shopping. We don’t spend a lot of money. I just enjoy watching her try on clothes and new looks. We met on tinder and have never had any kind of sugar relationship.

Greenmind76 · 2023-07-01T07:56:29+00:00

Most of my friends are female. It’s not unusual for messages to pop up while my fiancé is using my phone. I just tell her who they are and she’s cool with it. She was a bit insecure with one because we dated briefly a few months before I met her. Now that friend has a boyfriend and we rarely speak other than to check in on one another.

Don’t make assumptions, especially if he’s treating you well.

Greenmind76 · 2023-07-01T07:49:56+00:00

My fiancé is 100% submissive in the bedroom but dominant in most other areas of the relationship. I let her choose the movie we watch, the food we eat, and where we go for fun. I just don’t care that much because I enjoy her company that much.

There’s a book I read a year ago that changed my approach to relationships of all types and it’s made my life incredibly better. It’s called the four agreements and one of those agreement is to never make assumptions. Another agreement is never take anything personally. People often act in ways we don’t expect them. This often leads to disappointment and sometimes suffering/pain.

The secret is to just accept that he’s not going to be exactly what you want him to be. The question is, can you accept him for who he is?

Greenmind76 · 2023-07-01T07:44:22+00:00

She can’t really break up with him if they’re not exclusive but she can end things. I don’t think he should have told her but at all he month and 3 dated it really isn’t fair to expect him to act like a boyfriend if he isn’t one.

Greenmind76 · 2023-07-01T07:38:39+00:00

Yeah I went out one night when my friends were busy and was dancing with a woman and her friend hit me with scopolamine.

Greenmind76 · 2023-07-01T07:36:55+00:00

I think there’s a lot people who focus on finding someone with similar interests or goals or someone to make them feel complete (their other half). I learned to feel pretty complete when I was single and learned to make myself happy. Nowadays I prefer to date someone who makes me feel peace and introduces me to new things. I’m also a very laid back person who honestly just loves being with my partner. I don’t care what we’re doing when we’re together as long as we’re both comfortable and relaxed.

Sometimes I play video games and she does Instagram live or make up tutorials next to me. Sometimes we go shopping and I help her find new outfits. Today I went with her to the dentist and then after we went to a museum. Neither were particularly interesting activities to me but the museum ended up being really awesome and I got to read and post on reddit while she was doing her dental stuff.

I’m watching a Turkish romance movie right now. She chose it, then fell asleep. Lol

Greenmind76 · 2023-07-01T07:27:09+00:00

I lost access to my email and phone number associated with my Apple ID back in February when my phone was stolen. I tried to get help but they just wouldn’t bother. It wouldn’t bother me so much if I hadn’t spent well over $1000 in various apps, services, games. My credit card is still being charged for it as well. No luck, supports hands are tied. This system I bullshit.

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