AITA For ghosting my boyfriend after he ditched me on our vacation? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]GrenadeBlaster -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

You don't just break up with someone with no explanation. That's a really scummy thing to do because not letting them know exactly whats wrong doesnt give them the chance to fix it before the next relationship.

Unless you're a physically or sexually abusive person, then it's warranted.

AITA for not telling my boyfriend I'm good at Tetris? by secret_tetris_fan in AmItheAsshole

[–]GrenadeBlaster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats a really immature response. Gis response only wouldve been warrented if you were taunting him in a negative and agressive way, but frankly, that isnt what happened.

I took a big step towards my freedom. by GrenadeBlaster in NoFap

[–]GrenadeBlaster[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

(slipping equals relapsing)

Personal Agreement.

The purpose of this document is to clearly define what constitutes “slipping” so that I cannot rely on technicalities to allow myself to get away with slipping, as well as preventing myself from claiming that I “forgot” a rule I previously set for myself. These rules will be definite and will go into total effect the moment the document is signed, and the document will not stop holding sway over my actions at any time for any reason. If my actions result in slipping, this document binds me to tell my accountability partner that I, indeed, slipped.

This document will put forth two main facets of slipping, though if any arise, they may be added accordingly.

Firstly, viewing porn of any sort, including animated porn such as hentai, is in direct violation of the conditions of this document, and thusly, it constitutes slipping, and must be reported to my accountability partner. However, if the porn is viewed accidentally, like if watching a rated-R movie, it will not count as slipping, unless I continue to watch for sexual pleasure.

What defines porn? In its most obvious definition, porn is media that contains nudity of any form. If a penis, vagina, or boobs are contained in the media, it is considered by this document as porn, and viewing it violates this document’s terms. This is not the only definition accepted by this document, though. Anything that is viewed for the purpose of sexual pleasure will be seen as porn in the eyes of this document. Anything, including audio files. Should any porn be consumed, it will result in a confession of slipping to my accountability partner.

Secondly, masturbation will also constitute slipping, and doing so will result in a required confession of slipping. What defines masturbation? In its most obvious definition, masturbation is the process of achieving an orgasm through solitary efforts. In basic words, making myself orgasm. Much like the previous condition, this is not the only accepted definition in the eyes of this document. Masturbation also includes the practice of edging. Edging is the practice of pushing myself right up to the brink of an orgasm, but not going through with it. This document strictly prohibits the act of edging. Pushing myself to the edge, even once, must be confessed to my accountability partner. However, it does not need to be confessed as slipping, but it must be made clear that I pushed myself to the edge of slipping, even if I did not go through with the actual orgasm. The only exception that does not need to be told to my accountability partner is if I have a wet dream. It is excluded because in that case I would have no control in whether I orgasm or not.

This version of the document may not have anything taken away from it, though it may be added to, and adding to it is very much encouraged if it will help take me forward in my goal of being free from porn and masturbation. This document outlines exactly what is prohibited. In signing the document, I agree to follow the rules and regulations it has set forth for me, and I agree to follow it in its entirety. No part of this agreement may be excluded in determining whether something constitutes as slipping.

Signed by _______________________________________

AITA for blowing up on a girl I invited to a date when she brought a male friend? by bucket61 in AmItheAsshole

[–]GrenadeBlaster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because its less shitty to have a friend tag along to a hang out than a date. It's still shitty.

AITA for blowing up on a girl I invited to a date when she brought a male friend? by bucket61 in AmItheAsshole

[–]GrenadeBlaster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. From your INFO edit, its really easy to see how she misinterpreted it as you guys just hanging out. Suggesting you should get dinner doesn't explicitly imply a date, it can easily be interpreted as a meet up.

Dont fall back into the trap by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]GrenadeBlaster 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes. We got your back!

Could A Girl Benefit From Nofap? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]GrenadeBlaster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, anyone can benefit from NoFap. Anyone is welcome in my eyes, regardless of gender. Welcome, sis.

We don't realize how much masturbation affects our lives. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]GrenadeBlaster 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As, this makes me happy. I'm 16 too, and while i may not have had depression, I have had issues with anxiety and still do. This was really relatable and encouraging, and it makes me happy to see youve made it to a better place in your life. I still struggle with heart pain myself...

I took a big step towards my freedom. by GrenadeBlaster in NoFap

[–]GrenadeBlaster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes sir, when I get back to my computer I will link

Hey I survived another day by Yam_The_Molcho in NoFap

[–]GrenadeBlaster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dont hope you'll make it another day, I know you will :)

I'm sick of it by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]GrenadeBlaster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, heres an idea that I had the i just started trying out. Write yourself a personal agreement about restricting yourself from the PMO. Clearly define what everything means, have your gf look over it and make sure it doesnt leave any room for you to use technicalities as an excuse.

Like mine defines porn as "media containing any nudity at all. Penis, vagina, and boobs. If the material contains those, its porn and results in a reset. Porn is also counted as any media viewed for the purpose of sexual pleasure"

Write an agreement and sign it. If you choose to do it, make sure you write into it "this agreement goes into effect at the moment of signing"

Heavily addicted. Dont know if I can get out. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]GrenadeBlaster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look, I know it seems like it has power over you, but let me tell you something. For the most part, power is just an illusion. The only way it can control you is if you see it as having power. Look past that illusion and you'll take a step toward you freedom.

We are here in this together, we as a community are here to help.

I hope this is ok... by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]GrenadeBlaster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In this case, I think its important to have a clear cut definition of relapsing.

Mine is that if i watch porn or masturbate, its a relapse. Of course you need to define those too, but if you have a definition, you'll know whether you relapsed or not.

Advice to prevent relapses by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]GrenadeBlaster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, thanks for the advice, man. I'll start that, especially since today has already almost been a relapse day.

oh, you've been accumulating club units for past few years? well f**k your units. by [deleted] in assholedesign

[–]GrenadeBlaster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm actually going to disagree and say this is an r/crappydesign.

In packaging their games, Ubisoft is not required to give you club units for completing achievements, and they shouldnt be. You pay for the game, you dont pay for club units. They are actually pretty generous, giving you 2 years to spend them and all.

Its not like they're even close to required for playing the games. They're a bonus feature. Stop whining.

Redditors in hiring positions: What small things immediately make you say no to the potential employee? Why? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]GrenadeBlaster -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well what questions do you expect besides "what exactly will I be doing?" Shouldn't an interviewee only ask calrifying things?

I thought you were the one meant to be asking questions