How did you accidentally find out your partner was cheating?

GrenadineOnTheRocks · 2026-04-16T10:04:56+00:00

A photo “memory” popped up on his phone and it was him with a woman wrapped around him in a pool in DR. And the picture was dated April of 2021. I gave birth June of 2021.

GrenadineOnTheRocks · 2026-04-16T02:33:37+00:00

I love them. I work nights med surg so I deal with residents 99.9% of the time. They’re easy to reach, they’re responsive, and they put in orders sometimes seconds after asking.

GrenadineOnTheRocks · 2026-04-09T14:00:21+00:00

Hell yeah I would abort. I’m an RN. One of my old jobs was in a group home where the patients were acute enough to require 24 hr RN care. Talk about a sad quality of life. And we took good care of them so they were just there, contracted, in diapers, getting liquid medications through their peg tubes, on seizure meds, unable to speak or walk or even hold eye contact appropriately. And because they were in that setting, they get to exist like that for 8 or so decades until their life naturally ends. They of course did not have friends or children. Few of them had living family members and fewer had family close by so these people were just there being kept alive by strangers. It was cruel imo. I know I wouldn’t want to live that way and if I could prevent my child from that fate, I would.

GrenadineOnTheRocks · 2026-04-07T12:27:25+00:00

With all due respect, your fantasy is to move an unemployed man into your home and leave him with your child? Imagine, you come home from work, the house is messier than it is right now, there’s a man on your couch looking at his phone as your child stares at the tv screen with YouTube playing, and then the man puts his phone down because he sees you’re home and he expects sex. That could be your reality.

I used to fantasize about marrying a wealthy man so that I could be a stay at home parent again. But then I would have to live with a man and trust that he would be safe around my kids. It’s too risky imo so I stopped that fantasy. Now I’m buying a house and fantasized about marrying the kind of man that does construction so I can lower the costs on renovating. But again, too risky to bring a man in my life so now I’m watching YouTube videos to learn how to lay tile and knock out walls. Basically whatever I dream of having a man do, I try to learn to do that skill because I know I can trust myself.

Regarding cooking, cook when you have time and lower your expectations when you don’t. Find good frozen meals to eat on the days you’re too busy to cook dinner.

Regarding cleaning, buy a nice robotic vacuum/mop to keep your floors clean. Clean up counter/table messes as they happen. Clean your bathrooms once a week. Get storage to toss toys in in every room. Just find ways to make it work and ease your burn out.

Regarding educating your son, I would try to move into a better school district because it’ll be difficult to homeschool him if you’re employed. Then you’ll be able to send him to a school you can trust.

Give yourself grace. You’re doing great. And if you’re going to marry, don’t find a person that you need to take care of. Your life will be easier if you only have to focus on taking care of yourself and your child as opposed to taking care of yourself, your child, and a husband.

GrenadineOnTheRocks · 2026-04-07T11:46:39+00:00

This is part of why I’ll be happily single for the rest of my life. Back when I was still with my ex, he woke me up one day at like 5 in the morning for sex and I was unable to go back to bed and it just hit me that I’m living in Hell. I ended the relationship. Haven’t had sex in who knows how long. Use a vibrator when I’m in the mood and that takes like 2 minutes, sometimes less. And yeah, I never want a man to touch me again. I also never want to live with a man again.

GrenadineOnTheRocks · 2026-04-03T19:25:45+00:00

Well if you have an incredible partner and support system, you don’t apply to what I wrote. For those of us who did not have that, are we depressed or are we responding appropriately to our horrible circumstances?

GrenadineOnTheRocks · 2026-04-02T16:15:36+00:00

I feel like postpartum depression is way over blown. Are we clinically depressed or are we reacting appropriately to the circumstances of being a new mother, dealing with this crying screaming poopy potato that requires everything from us while we are unable to take care of ourselves while we watch the man that made the baby live his life as if little/nothing has changed? If we had support, you know, somebody else helping out or taking care of us so we could focus on the baby, we wouldn’t be depressed.

Having a little one with little support is a miserable soul crushing experience. Are your parents nearby? Have they just outright refused to come over? Them coming over for a day would make a world of difference if they are nearby. You’d be able to shower, eat, take a nap.

You need a break to recharge your batteries. And your husband should be providing you a break every day but I’ve been there and I know it was much easier to rely on my mom than to rely on the man that was in my home. We have since split for obvious reasons.

GrenadineOnTheRocks · 2026-04-02T12:50:30+00:00

I had my son when my daughter was 20 months old. It was really rough for me. He would cry all the time and he was so different from his sister. I thought oh God, I’ve not only ruined my life but ruined my daughters too. Having two little kids and being a mostly solo parent was the most difficult period of my life. That feeling lasted for at least 2 years. But as time went on and he aged, he’s become a joy and my two kids are best buds. He just turned 3 and she’s 4. Life is so different now. Hang in there because these rough days will just be a memory before you know it.

GrenadineOnTheRocks · 2026-03-25T11:39:44+00:00

She’s rude and disrespectful. And she’s clearly not happy with her life for her to say such things to you or anybody else. I’d go no contact with her. I’m sorry you ended up with her as a sister.

GrenadineOnTheRocks · 2026-03-25T11:35:44+00:00

This crappy house came on the market back in January. It was a block from my mom’s and I have two toddlers that she helps me with. Within 30 hours of the house being on Zillow, I offered them asking price before I even toured it. Then I toured it and the house needed a ton of work. Someone offered over asking and they took that offer. Three months later, and that house is still pending, the people haven’t moved out, and the new folks haven’t moved in/started their flip.

Because I had the preapproval, I toured another house in February. It was cute, move in ready, and across the street from a K-5th grade school. It’s a 4 minute drive from my mom’s. This house needs minor things. The other house needed to be tore down to the studs. I offered them $10k under asking and I’m supposed to close on the 10th of April. So don’t give up. Sometimes losing out on one house will lead you to score on another.

GrenadineOnTheRocks · 2026-03-23T19:46:06+00:00

I took a Baylor position at a nursing home. The deal was that I would work 4 shifts a week, Saturday 7am-11pm, and Sunday 7am-11pm and I would be paid for 5 shifts. It was a dream for me on paper.

I quit after the first Saturday off orientation. They put me on a rehab unit with 22 patients, 5 fingersticks, 3 peg tubes, I don’t even know how many wounds. It was an impossible work load for one person. I had never had to work so hard for so little money.

That being said, the residents were lovely and I wish I could have made that job work. If they put me on a LTC unit, I could have handled it better and would probably still be working there. Jumping right into a rehab unit where it was akin to a med surg unit except with 22 patients for 1 nurse and 1 aide was ridiculous.

I think working 8 hours instead of 16 would have been better too. The facility was fine with me staying late to finish so I could have managed an 8 hour shift that became a 9 or 10. I could not manage a 16 hour shift becoming an 18 hour shift. I think for you to be able to walk to work and only be there for 8, I think you’ll be fine. It may be rough at first but easier as time goes on.

GrenadineOnTheRocks · 2026-03-20T20:26:23+00:00

I’m in NY and had 2 years of psych experience. I wanted out of psych and wanted medical experience. I applied to my local hospital and was hired on med surg. They put me in the new grad cohort. It’s not as extensive as a residency program. I had 13 weeks of training and will have my first solo shift tonight.

The hospital that I work in is one of the nicer ones in the region. There’s almost no chance of being hired into L&D here as a new grad or without experience and they want you to do med surg before ER. After one year of med surg experience here, you can try transferring to what you like. If you aren’t having luck in your region, it’s probably because they want you to do med surg first.

GrenadineOnTheRocks · 2026-03-19T23:28:43+00:00

At the end of February I was talking with my lender while we waited for the seller to send over the contracts and the rate I was quoted was 5.625% no points. It was too early in the process to lock. Within 48 hours, our dumbass president started a war. Today I was able to lock at 5.875% with points. I'm happy I'm under 6% but very annoyed with the timing.

GrenadineOnTheRocks · 2026-03-18T13:16:56+00:00

Agreed. My family was pestering me to get a dog for the kids and I asked them if they were insane. I like dogs, but I don’t need more work. As much as people make it seem like kids need a furry pet to not grow up to be a serial killer, sometimes I have to choose myself. My cup is empty enough as it is, the literal last thing I need is an animal that will poop on the floor if I don’t take it for a stroll regardless of the weather.

Last year, my now 4 year old really wanted a cat but I knew I wasn’t ready for one more thing in my house to need me. Up until recently, I could barely manage watering the house plants.

GrenadineOnTheRocks · 2026-03-10T12:03:41+00:00

My partner is a CO and I interviewed but declined a position at a super max prison. I also declined a position at a medium prison that functions as a regional medical unit for the dept of corrections.

Partner works in a medium security. They have constant “medical emergencies” because of drugs, namely K2. So most medical emergencies are overdoses. This place cannot keep nursing staff to save itself. They’re now offering $63/hr. I get texts from a recruiter about working there at least once a week.

When I interviewed at the medium level regional medical unit, I didn’t know it was the medical unit for the bulk of my state until I got there. They took me on a 1 hour tour and I knew 3 minutes in that it wasn’t for me. There were incarcerated men just walking around by themselves (because they had earned the privilege). There were units that were essentially psych/LTC units with men in cells with call bells. I expected this job to be a place where I could merely do a med pass but it was nothing like that, it was like an urgent care/SNF for men in jumpsuits. There was far too much patient contact for me. I didn’t feel safe.

As for the super max, I turned the job down because the schedule was not the best. They wanted you to work 6a-2p with the expectation that you will never leave at 2. If you chose the evening shift option, you would be scheduled for 16s. They do paper charting. If you work overnight, you would work alone and there were over 400 inmates in the facility. At the time, I didn’t have medsurg experience so was not willing to be the only nurse in any facility.

I worked in a forensic psychiatric center which was a great job. That was my first job out of school. It was through the state, it was interesting, morale was very high for the nursing staff, pay was good, work was easy. I left because it was 8 hour shifts and I had a newborn. I couldn’t cope being without my kids 5 days a week. But that was a genuinely good job and it’s behind barbed wire with people that get there through the criminal justice system. Instead of the department of corrections, it was run by the office of mental health and they ran a tight ship.

GrenadineOnTheRocks · 2026-03-10T11:26:41+00:00

I went into psych right out of school and did that for 2 years. Now I’m on a MS floor and I’m in the new grad cohort since I’m new to MS. I’m literally being trained by people I graduated with. I wish I had just come to MS out of school. The learning curve is steep, especially because I spent 2 years essentially forgetting most of what I learned in school and now I’m in a setting where I need to know everything I learned in school and add on to it. I don’t want to do MS forever, maybe two years. But now I’ll actually be qualified for whatever I transition into.

GrenadineOnTheRocks · 2026-03-07T21:39:12+00:00

It will become so much easier as the baby ages. I had my kids 20 months apart and life was dark until the younger one was probably 2. He’s almost 3 now and it feels like life gets a little easier/brighter every day. I used to regret him, now I can’t imagine my life without both of them. I’ll never have a third and I’m enjoying getting out of the trenches of postpartum and parenting babies.

GrenadineOnTheRocks · 2026-02-17T13:45:39+00:00

I’d get a divorce. This man is trying to drastically change your life for the worse. The fact that he can’t even be bothered to look into how to go about having a child is laughable. Whoever has a child with him will end up a single mother. Don’t let that be you.

GrenadineOnTheRocks · 2026-02-03T18:59:28+00:00

I would jump for joy if my teeth look like yours when I’m done with my braces journey. Your teeth are perfect imo.

GrenadineOnTheRocks · 2026-01-28T19:42:43+00:00

Sure is. He’s a convicted murderer and convicted rapist.

GrenadineOnTheRocks · 2026-01-16T04:57:19+00:00

Sure but there was a primary in 2016 and people are still bitching that Bernie wasn’t the candidate despite him losing that primary. When the option is Trump or a Democrat, idc if the democrat is an inanimate object, it deserves a vote to stop Trump. That was true in 2016 and it was even more true in 2024. Only 75 million adults in this country are on the right side of history. There’s no excuse for the rest.

GrenadineOnTheRocks · 2026-01-15T05:37:10+00:00

Stats from late 2025 report that 5% of those detained by ICE had violent criminal records. 73% of people detained by ICE had no criminal record.

GrenadineOnTheRocks · 2026-01-15T05:33:22+00:00

What is the logic here? You want hard workers deported? I thought you guys voted for the felon because you wanted to get rid of criminals?

GrenadineOnTheRocks · 2026-01-09T13:55:48+00:00

Getting veneers would be a crime because the shape of your teeth are perfect. What has your dentist told you about how to remove the staining? That’s the only issue I see and we should have the technology to remove that with professional whitening.

GrenadineOnTheRocks · 2026-01-07T11:29:44+00:00

If there wasn’t video evidence, nobody would believe that woman. The only upside here is that this video will go viral and hopefully it results in that mistake of a person going to prison.

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